“You are worthwhile. “
“You are full of promise.”
This post is going to be a bit different than the others you’ve read or listened to here. I want to tell you about a friend of mine–an amazing man, Bob Danzig. This post, more than any of the others, is a must-read.
Because of Centerpointe’s huge success, I’ve been fortunate enough to meet many amazing people. Bob Danzig is certainly one of the top two or three. Just spending time with Bob Danzig leaves you feeling good about yourself and more confident about your own value and what you can accomplish.
One reason why Bob is so amazing has to do with his sad and difficult childhood–and his amazingly successful and inspirational adult life. For twenty years Bob was CEO of the entire Hearst Newspaper Group, a multi-billion dollar company, working his way up from office boy in a small newspaper in Albany, New York. Considering where he started, his story shows how anyone, with the right encouragement from people who care, can create a life that matters.
Bob never had a family. Instead, he grew up in a series of foster homes. In one home, he slept in an attic with no lights. The family he lived with would leave his dinner on the bottom step of the attic stairs. He ate in the attic, alone, in the dark.
For his entire childhood Bob owned one pair of much-too-large scuffed black sneakers that he grew into over several years by taking out bits of the tissue paper stuffed in the toes as his feet grew. His other possessions consisted of two shirts, two pairs of jeans, two pairs of socks, and two pairs of underwear. ”When I had to move to a new foster home,” Bob says, ”I would reach under my mattress, take out the folded black plastic trash bag I kept there, put my clothes in it, and move to a new home.”
Today, Bob is in his 70s, and is one of the kindest, most gracious, most inspirational–and most well-dressed–people I’ve ever known. As I learned more about his childhood, I understood why dressing well is so important to him. When he got his first job at the Times Union newspaper in Albany, New York, each pay period he took a part of his paycheck and bought himself one nice piece of clothing–a quality shirt, a cashmere sweater, a pair of Italian slacks, a silk necktie, and so forth.
He never wore dungarees or blue jeans–they brought back too many painful memories of his childhood. He was embarrassed about the two sets of plain and wrinkled clothing he alternated every other day. “The other kids had clean, unwrinkled clothes. They looked like someone cared about them. I wanted someone to care about me.”
No one ever took Bob to the beach. No one took him fishing. He never had a baseball card collection. His few friendships didn’t last because he never lived in one place for very long.
Despite his lonely, sad childhood, Bob Danzig became a Fortune 500 CEO and an inspiration to his employees and to thousands of other people, including me. Today he writes books and speaks to thousands of people each year, donating all the money he earns to help foster children.
Bob had to leave the foster care system when he graduated from high school at age sixteen. “You’re probably thinking that a guy has to be pretty smart to finish high school at sixteen,” he told me. This happened, however, because of a mistake. When he was moving from one foster home to another, the school made a mistake and placed him in the wrong grade. As he told me, “Then I just drifted through those grades.”
Can you imagine what this was like? Never having a family, never doing what normal kids do, moving from place to place whenever a family couldn’t keep him or didn’t want him, never staying long enough to make friends or create a close connection with anyone, and then being totally on your own at age sixteen?
One important incident from those years never left him, and he still talks about it. Mae Morse, the social worker who met with him periodically and who would send him on to his next foster home when his foster family ”didn’t want him anymore” said something to him that changed his life forever. At the end of each of their meetings, he told me, she would take his hands in hers and say, “Bobby, don’t you ever forget this. You are worthwhile.”
Here’s how he described his reaction in his book, Conversations With Bobby:
“Just like that, she uttered such a simple, pure sentence. But the funny thing is, the reason I remember it so vividly is because I know she meant it. I could tell she was genuine and sincere. She truly wanted me to know that I, Bobby Danzig, was worthwhile. She had no motive for saying what she did. I had nothing to offer, she had nothing to gain. I was worthwhile–not because I would shine shoes. I was worthwhile–not because I would carry coal. I was worthwhile–not because I would make no trouble. Just me, I mattered.”
This, he said, was like “warm milk pouring over me, the idea that I had some sense of possibility and promise.”
When Bob left foster care, he got a job at Montgomery Ward in the wholesale mattress department. His job was to climb up onto catwalks high above the floor, find the mattress the foreman wanted, and push it over the edge onto a trampoline on wheels, after which it was wheeled out to the customer.
One day he must have mistaken the number the foreman called out, because when he pushed the mattress over the edge, there was no trampoline. Instead, the mattress hit his boss, and he was fired. That night, he told a friend what had happened. The friend had just been promoted from office boy to clerk at the Albany Times Union newspaper. “If you get down there fast, you might be able to get my old job,” his friend told him. “But you look kind of young. You’d better get a hat.”
So Bob went to a men’s clothing store, bought his first hat, and went to the newspaper offices. Nine others were waiting to see about the job, and Bob was the last to be interviewed. The woman who interviewed him looked, in his words, “like a pitbull.” The first thing she said to him was, “Why are you wearing that hat in here? Don’t you know it’s rude to wear your hat indoors?”
Bob had never owned a hat, so he didn’t know anything about hat etiquette, but for some reason this woman–the office manager–saw something in him she liked, and he got the job. It was the lowest possible job at a newspaper, but Bob eventually became an advertising salesman, then head of the advertising department, and eventually the publisher of the Times Union. Later he became CEO of the entire Hearst newpaper group, managing a considerable number of newspapers, many popular magazines (Good Housekeeping, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Harpers Bazaar, Popular Mechanics, Country Living, Colonial Homes, and many others), and 27 television stations.
A few months after starting as office boy, the office manager called him into her office. “I’ve been watching you,” she said. “Oh, no. Fired again,” he thought. But she continued, “and I just wanted to tell you that I believe that you are filled with promise.”
This had such a powerful effect on him that even after becoming publisher of that newspaper, after the Hearst Company later sent him to Stanford University on a journalism fellowship, and even after he became head of the entire Hearst newspaper group, he never stopped hearing those words.
When I heard this story I was reminded just how powerful what we say to others can be, especially if you’re a parent or in some other position of respect and authority.
I want to tell you how I met Bob Danzig, because he has had a powerful effect on my life.
In the late 1990s, during the dot-com days when venture capitalists were giving new internet companies millions of dollars, I thought I’d should try to get some of that money, too, and start an internet company.
An advisor told me that the first thing I should do was to put together a board of directors of prominent business people. I didn’t know any prominent people then, and I wasn’t sure how to find any, much less convince them to be on the board of my start-up company. I told Jim Hennig, a friend who had been the president of the National Speakers Association, about my idea. Jim, who knew many prominent business people, said, “I know who you should get. Bob Danzig.” He told me a little bit about Bob and made an introduction.
I was a bit awed to be speaking to someone like Bob Danzig on the telephone, but he was warm and gracious and even invited me to come to New York to have dinner with him at the Harvard Club in midtown Manhatten. The Harvard Club was just like what I’d imagined a private Ivy League club would be: dark wood panelling, expensive rugs, overstuffed chairs around warm fireplaces, old and beautiful artwork, and richly attired and attentive staff. Bob was friendly–and impeccably dressed. He seemed genuinely interested in me and my idea. Fifteen minutes into the conversation he said, “I have a feeling we’re going to do big things together.”
When he said this, you could have knocked me over with a feather. You have to realize that at this point in my career Centerpointe wasn’t very big. I had six or seven employees and our “headquarters” was a small down-in-the-heels building that had once been a print shop. My spartan little office looked like the office of a warehouse manager. No art, no ferns, no credenza.
Every day I would show up for work, sit in my office all day, and do whatever needed to be done. I didn’t know more than two or three other people in the personal growth world–Hale Dwoskin at Sedona Training Associates and Pete Bissonette at Learning Strategies Corporation, and maybe two or three others. I had no business education other than the school of hard knocks. I was living in my own introverted little world, running Centerpointe with little or no communication or feedback from other personal growth leaders or business owners.
Other than the fact that Centerpointe was reasonably successful (the year I met Bob Danzig our sales were about $2M), I had no idea if my business skills were mediocre, competent, or something else. So what Bob said to me really meant a lot. “Wow,” I thought. “This guy was CEO of a multi-billion dollar company, and he wants to do something with me?” An hour later, when I asked if he’d be willing to serve on the board of directors of the new company, he said, “I’d be happy to serve on the board of any company that had Bill Harris as the CEO.”
I was stunned, and very happy. Now that I know more about Bob, his childhood, and the way he worked his way up from office boy to CEO of the entire company, I can see that he was doing for me what important mentors in his life had done for him–looking past my flaws and inexperience and seeing the promise in me–promise I didn’t yet see in myself–and then communicating it to me in a way that helped bring it out.
Literally days after I’d finished putting together what turned out to be a rather impressive board (Bob was the biggest, but not the only, ”star” I recruited), the stock market crashed and all the start-up money for internet companies disappeared. The company never got off the ground. Instead, I turned my attention back to Centerpointe. Because Centerpointe has grown by about 900% since then, I’m glad it happened the way it did. I still stay in touch with Bob, though, and he still inspires me every time I speak to him. Just as he never forgot the people who told him, “You are worthwhile,” and “You are filled with promise,” I’ve never forgotten what he said to me because it significantly boosted my confidence.
Several years ago, after he’d become publisher of the Albany Times Herald, he tracked down Mae Morse, the social worker who had said to him, “You are worthwhile” when he was just a small boy. She was in a nursing home, old and frail. Here’s how Bob described their meeting in Conversations With Bobby:
“They had set her up in the parlor chair of the nursing home. She beamed when I walked in. I can see her so clearly, her knit shawl hung over her shoulders. I walked over to her and put my hands in hers. Before I could utter a word, she said to me, ‘Didn’t I always tell you that you are worthwhile?’ I was in awe. I told her how I looked forward to this day–the day when I could share with her my gratitude for the confidence and value she placed in me. I said to her, ‘In a life stuck in the shadows, you, Mae Morse, gave me my first shining moment that penetrated the darkness.’”
Other than the fact that Bob’s story is so touching, there’s another reason why I’m telling it to you. Somehow, out of my own painful childhood and my struggles to master my anger and depression and lack of success, hundreds of thousands of people now look up to me for help and seek my guidance. Believe me, in light of where I started and the person I used to be, no one is more surprised about this turn of events than I am.
Many people tell me that they benefit from Holosync and that they’ve had many “ah-ha’s” from the information I share. It’s obvious, however, that my focus is not motivational or inspirational. What I teach is more theoretical, intellectual, and informational rather than inspirational.
So as we all do our best to navigate our way through some very difficult and scary times, I want to express to you something a little more heartfelt–something I’ve unfortunately failed to say as often, or as directly, as perhaps I should:
I value you. Even though I may never meet you in person, I’m glad that you’re in my life. You are worthwhile. You are filled with promise.
Everything I do at Centerpointe is based upon the premise that anyone, if they know what to do, can be happy, peaceful inside, and successful, regardless of their past or present circumstances. If I can do it, anyone can. So I want to express my hope that Holosync, along with all the other information and tools we provide at Centerpointe, will in some small way make is easier for you to navigate your life, and allow you to bring forth the promise that is in you, whether in bad or good times.
Be well.
[I urge you to visit Bob's website, www.bobdanzig.com, where, among other things, you can see a very moving clip of him speaking. Also, please purchase a copy of Conversations With Bobby, or one of his other books. Just go to Amazon and type in Conversations With Bobby. Every cent of Bob's book royalties and speaking fees go directly to the Child Welfare League of America to help foster children.]
Bill, your heart and soul shines through your words in this post.
Forgive me for the long post but I feel it is appropriate even though you may never publish it. This is my opportunity to personally thank you so I am taking it!!! Your story about Bob bought tears to my eyes and the driving desire to thank you just had to be fulfilled for you have done so much for me.
As I read Bobs story I could only think of the same sad lonely life that I too, experienced as a child bought up in a childrens home, and then fostered out to a very abusive environment. Except that abuse actually started at the age of 6 when those people were considered to be my ‘holiday hosts’.
It would continue and eventually progess to becoming daily abuse until I left at the age of 17, choosing sanity, sadness and anger over abuse. So yes, I too know what it is like to be out in the world at a young age with absolutely not a soul to turn to and I to know what it felt like not to be wanted. . It was indeed a solitary life and for many years I have lived in a world of solitary confinement lost in sadness anger and confusion. My foster father was the Governer of a major Prison and he treated me as he did those prisoners.
Then I found Holosync. I began Awakening Proglue 1 having made a 120% commitment to ‘trust’ you and to ‘believe’ what I had read in your Sales Letter of which I read every single word…..Making Changes Easy, and the rest of the cds…. every single day I listen to Dive and Immersion, apart from when I lent them to my girlfriend when she found out she had cancer.
I told her she could use my copy until she had received her own Bill cause i figured she needed it more than I did at that moment in time. Her words to me recently were “thank God you gave me yor cd’s and told me about Holyosync. I wouldn’t have got this far without them” My response was ‘thank you for trusting me”. I told her about Holosync and how you had healed me of my life long sadness and anger and I told her that she absolutely must begin immediatley to tune in. she said she didn’t know if she could manage the 1 hour but I told her straight. “if you are not going to follow Bills instructions then don’t waste your money”….she bought them and follows your instructions to the letter Bill!! In fact, quite often she rings me after her radiation session and says, “I’m just about to do my mediation”, once she has filled me on the days news. she has chemo through a bag 24/7
Before I continue with my story i would like to say THANKYOU BILL
:):) …..you will understand why when you finish reading this post……but for now…I want to say thank you for giving me ‘ME’ back. I want to say thankyou for givining me ‘CALMNESS’…i haver never ever known that. I want to say thank you for giving me SANITY back. I want to say thank you for giving me PEACE…..i have never known that either. but most of all I want to say thank you for giving me ‘HAPPINESS’……that Bill, my dear man is something that I never ever ever knew….until 6 months ago when your Centrepoint email landed in my inbox and I found the money to buy Awakening Prolgue 1….and now I will tell you why I say thankyou…….you see, despite the childhood stuff, I was to loose the most precious person in my life which would lead to me loosing my sanity, loosing my life, loosng my world…….and then finding it all again because of you and your wonderful Holosync
The background trauma of my childhood began at birth, with my earliest memory being left in my cot, abandoned and starving culminated in a child growing into an adult that was always angry. I then recall being in a court room and then taken away by the police to a childrens home. I knew that anger was suppression caused through deep depression but I never knew how to deal with my anger and as a child I remember feeling very sad all the time.
For all of my life, I only wanted two things. the first was too become a writer who published books in her own name, just like Enid Blighton. She was the only bright spot in a very lost childhood. I would carry a book everwhere I went and at night I would climb into my bed at the tender age of 4 and with book in hand, look at the pictures and try to decipher the words on the page. By end of my 4th year I could read her books and from that moment on I was to be forever lost in a book and as I closed my eyes each night I dreamed of being that world famous author that everybody loved. ‘One day’ I recall telling myself. ‘One day’I will be famous and I will help people so they are not sad like me’.
You see Bill, just like Bob I always felt, nobody wanted me either, and that I was not loveable and my books were my only source of happiness and contentment. I loved reading about the happy adventures and as I read I would forget about my own sad feelings, because i would become so lost in the imaginary world of the characters in the books. Today I still have some of Enid Blightons books in my bookshelf! I wasn’t so fortunate as Bob to have someone tell me that ‘I was worthwhile” for the message i was given every day was that I was ‘dumb and stupid’ and that “You will amount to nothing”. My determination grew and I would think “You’ll see”. I also remember feeling angry inside.
The second thing I wanted was to be a mother who would give her children everthing she never had AND have someone to love.
Well Bill….. I had the children. 2 boys in fact and one of them turns 20 tomorrow!!! The sad part is that due to the trauma of a sad childhood, and the continual problem with anger and sadness, my marriage failed and my first son decided to go live with his Dad. My second child, being a baby at the time stayed with me. Through all of those years after my first child left I was sad and angry and totally devastated. Through all of brining up my baby boy, I loved him wholeheartedly and with fierce protectiveness, but never felt that I was loveable. In an effort to overcome the horrors of loosing my first son I transferred my love, with totall passion over to my youner son…… I also intensified my level of protectiveness. Then …..at age 14 my youngest son also went to live with his Dad……the reason……I was sad and angry and too over protective which would display itself in anger and sadness. It was like a vicous cycle that I couldn’t break free from and I felt so misunderstood. My love was not good enough.
You see, i did my best but there was no learnings to fall back on when it came to parenthood and so I always felt lost. All I knew was that I loved my son. It was tough being a solo parent striving to provide the best life possible for my son. But there was no way anyone would take my son away from me, just like I had been taken away from my parents…. and then my worst nightmare was realised…..After 14 years of just me and My Son, he was gone in a split second that has changed my life forever more. You see Bill. There was no warning. There were no indications. There was no preparation. I have come to refer to that day as “That Fateful Day”. One moment he was with me and the next he was gone. I lost all ability to comprehend. For over a year I walked around as a dead person. For 6 months I couldn’t even so much as walk into his bedroom. Appearing alive on the outside, but yet feeling totally nothing on the inside. I look back and I have no idea how I even functioned.
All I knew was that I was a stupid dumb mother and that I was sad and angry …..and totally suicidal. The love of my life had gone away and no amount of traditional therapy was resolving my anger, depresion and sadness. I was absolutely desperate….I prayed and I prayed and I prayed for an answer.
My life had been completely devastated yet again. Someone else that I had dared to love had been taken away from me. I had always been so scared to love because every time I did they would be taken away from. First my parents, then my sisters whom I don’t know where they are, then my husband, then my first child and now My Son. The boy that I idolised. The boy that i was so proud of. The boy that meant the world to me. The boy that was my reason for getting up everyday….he was gone and I couldn’t function anymore. I literally couldn’t even think for a while.
Bill, you talk about Chaos. I think I personifed it!!! All hell broke loose….I was so far over my threshhold that nothing was reigning me in. It was as though I had become senseless through the deep seated trauma of having my son taken so suddenly.
It was one to many loves being take away from me and my mind could not absorb this new reality. I would wake up in the night screaming and on one ocassion a very dear friend walked into my home and found me laying on my floor crying uncontrollably. He picked me up, sat me on his knee and gently rocked me back and forth for what seemed like an eternity. For the first time in my life I had lost my mind strength completely. I recall feeling as though I was that withdrawn, I could’nt connect with even being rocked back and forth. So distant. So lost within. So dead emotionally…only to explode into emotional chaos like a volcano erupting from it’s very depths.
Even as I sit here now, the tears fall from my eyes and I fight not to sob. After all of this time it is still so difffiuclt to address my deep seated pain head on, as I am writing this post. I want only for my son to come home….but he never will. It is so painful and yet it is one of those pains, that one must learn to live with….and…I feel as though writing you this post is okay, because it shows that i am perhaps partially ready to address the depth of my sorrow and pain over loosing my son. I pray that Awakening Prologue 2 will fortify me with the strength to continue healing myself of the horrible emotional pain. I believe that it will raise my threshhold higher and that in doing so I will be fine. I also recall you saying that when I felt fidgety or as though I wanted to stop a session to ride it through becuase it was then that I would have major breakthroughs….that can to pass and be true as well.
Through all of the sad lonely years of my childhood my predominant thought was always ‘you can’t keep me down’. And here I was litteraly on the floor unable to get up. It was a situation I would find myself in repeatedly as the horrifying abusive flashbacks of my childhood returned whilst my mind fort the reality of my son being taken away. sometimes finding myself sitting for hours in my car not knowing where I was. Once I walked around a shopping centre for 6 hours non stop. Slowy trudging along, totally lost within myself. I just didn’t know who I was anymore. I would move through entire days and not be able to recall what I had done with any measure of clarity. And all the while I was angry..seething silenty in turmoil, anger that simmered away and manifested itself in the form of sadness and depression.
Once again I returned to therapy. Desperate and suicidal wanting only to find a way to completely eradicate emotions of anger, that had, this time been responsible for something so life changing that still, even as I sit here writing this post, causes tears to well up and fall from my eyes. I was so scared. All I thought about day and night was suicide to escape ther reality of an empty house.
For over a year I consistently attended therapy sessions. Those therapy sessions did me more harm than good. So I made another life changing decision…..never again would I ever ever ever walk into another therapists office in an attempt to heal myself of the wounds of my past. Wounds that had been born of a situation just like Bob’s. Living in a childrens home and being fostered out.
I sat for hours searching online looking for an alternative therapy that would answer the desperation in my heart. My beautiful child was gone and he was not coming back. It has been nearly 3 years and he has still not returned. He has told me he never will.
There were to many years of anger and little did I know or understand back then, but it is my belief today, that I frightened my son. He did not understand my anger. How could he? Most of the time I didn’t understand it either. He did not understand my driving need to protect him at all costs. He did not understand his mother lived on shattered nerves, haunting nightmares of a past so long ago and the continual feelings of overwhelming sadness and anger. All he knew was that I was angry and I have been able to learn through Holosync, despite the fact it hurts, that I scared him.
Somewhere in the recesses of my mind, I knew that I had to continue moving foward as best as I could and so I focused on bringing my childhood dream into reality……The dream of long ago to ‘one day’ become an author is now coming to pass…….today I work as a ghost-writer and I am in the process of publishing 2 books that I have written myself. I also know and understand that my writing is yet another form of solitary confinement, but it is one that makes me feel content and happy rather than trapped and lost. Whether I will be famous or not is another thing!!!
Today, as I wait for Awakening Level 2 to arrive in the mail, I wonder Bill what it is that I have to look foward to. I do know that, as strange as this may sound, “I look foward to embracing my pain”. I say this becaues I feel ’safe’ when I do my Holosync and that feeling of ’safeness’ affords me the opportunity to address my inner most issues in private’ with the full knowledge that Holosync will continue to heal me and help me to grow mentally and emotinally for the better. I have committed to Holosync as a lifetime prgramm and have full intentions of completing all 12 levels.
I wonder, if like Bob, I will attain my goals. Goals of becoming financially free through doing something that I dreamed about as a child….writing. What I do know is that you Bill, through Holosync, have given me the strength and courage to pick myself up of the floor (literally), and begin moving foward in my life once again. What I do know is that despite the fact that my son has never returned home, I feel ‘alive’ once more and I feel happy for the first time ever. So often, these days, people tell me I am ‘calm’ and ‘together’…and I am. Recently a friend told me that ‘my happiness is contagious’ and that she looks forward to being around me. so often I find myself in the ‘witnessing’ position and I can see for myself the truly wonderful life changes that have occurred since starting Holoysnc 6 months ago.
Recently I have been able to step foward to moving full time into my writing business and although I have no idea what the future holds, I do so with a feeling of surety and calmness……but Bill….most of all this is what I can tell you and this is why I say thankyou…
YOU HAVE HEALED ME OF MY ANGER AND SADNESS.!!!!! And for that you have my enternal gratitude, support and loyalty. Since beginning Holosync 6 months ago I have never felt the same feeling of ‘anger’ that I felt previously. There have been moments that I have been angry but it is a different kind of anger. It is not one borne of sadness and it is not an anger that is deep and uncontrollable insofar as I don’t know what to do with my feelings. These days I am able to ‘witness’ and understand very quickly what has caused me to feel angry. I can also say that those moments are few and far between with calmness and clarity being my predominant way of functioning moment to moment. In fact, last week I was angry about something, and my friend said to me “this is so unlike you Coleen. What has upset you so much?” I think of this statement and I can only smile Bill for anger destroyed my life by taking my children away from me.
Whatever the future holds for me I know that my life will not be driven through emotions of anger and sadness ever again. I am truly in control and at aged 44 I am blessed because the journey of my sad angry past is now well behind me and the journey of my happy contented future is stretched before me being mine to to make of it what I will.
Perhaps one day, just as Bob saw ‘a promise’ in you, you will see a ‘promise in me’ and do me the honour of allowing me to write something for Centrepointe as I move foward on my journey towards becoming a full time writer. Perhaps Bill, reading your post about Bob, has been ‘the promise’ that you saw in me because that post propelled me foward enough to take the time and acknoweldge in ‘writing’, a debilitating weakness in myself, that you helped me to turn into one of my greatest strenghts.
With sincere love and gratitude I say one last time….thankyou for healing me of the anger and sadness that has lived with me for a lifetime.
Coleen Cook
xxxx
Awesome.
- Julius
I appreciated this post quite a bit because you really helped me to step into the shoes of Bob and experience what it might feel like to be him. It sounded as if the words of his you were reading came directly from him somehow, because I felt my heart warm when I heard the story of the social worker telling him those kind words. It sounds as if Bob had a profound effect on you which helps you to get into the state he is in, and only something from the heart could express his teaching so wonderfully; nobody could’ve done better and I’m sure, if Bob heard this, that he would be proud to hear such a caring rendition of his story.
FROM BILL: He DID hear it–see his post in response to what I said about him.
Mr. Harris
Thank you so much for your very poignant post. Thanks for introducing me to such an exemplary human being as Mr. Danzig.
You are an inspiration. Your ability to simplify complex issues is unparalleled. Thanks for reminding me, I am worthwhile, and Filled with promise.
God bless you.
Bill,
I just wanted to use this opportunity of saying thank you. I live in Scotland and have travelled around the world and I have never had dealings with a business man like yourself. Your after sales care is second to none. You appear to have managed what few other people have done which is to combine business savvy with approachability and ethics. You are a lesson for us all who are in business. Godbless Marilyn. ps – thanks for the story. I don’t suppose that you will ever read this as you must be very busy but maybe someone will tell you that across the pond someone appreciates what you do.
FROM BILL: I read everything posted here.
Hello Bill,
I’ ve been using awakening level 1 for 3 weeks now but the last days i feel very overwhelmed and it’s the first time that i really don’t know why.
I feel very nervous as if there is some kind of energy that can’t get out and it stays inside me.I thought maybe it’s some suppressed anger maybe but nothing significant has happened to justify it. I mailed to the support stuff and they told me to try to accept the situation but it’s been getting worse and i fear that if i let it i will just break everything. I even fear getting out of the house to go to the university or to meet my friends because i can get into this state all of a sudden.When i stay still i feel it in the back of my mind and it urges me to do something. I think that it fits what you describe as “frantically trying to dissipate entropy” but i’m having great trouble recognizing it or being aware of it at times.
Please, please give me some advice if you can. Even if i stop using holosync i don’t see how i will get better, it’s got a hold on me now. Maybe i am on the brink of evolving but how and when will this happen? (I am a very calm person by the way that’s why it seems so strange now).
I see now that holosync has helped me a lot and i really appreciate your work especially with the blog which is illuminating.Keep up the good work!
Peter
FROM BILL: Holosync makes you more aware. You are becoming aware of disowned, repressed aspects of yourself (aspects you were taught–or for some reason decided–are bad or wrong or dangerous when you were growing up) and because you think they are unacceptable, you are resisting them. Holosync shows you who you are under the facade, and you aren’t liking what you are seeing. In other words, you are experiencing your own resistance to something that actually needs to be accepted, owned, embraced. Whatever it is, trust me, it has been affecting you in a negative way all along. What is disowned expresses itself in covert and dysfunctional ways. The parts of your life that don’t seem to be working, the ongoing problems you have in your life, are really the expression of this disowned material.
The best way to deal with this is to watch with curiosity, allowing it to be okay. Watch the sensations in your body. Watch your thoughts. Just be really curious about what is happening–instead of trying to make it go away. As soon as you allow it, and watch it carefully, it will transform into something else: wisdom, compassion, potency, peace. When you stop fighting against the parts of existence you think are not-okay, you’re free. Right now you are fighting against something you think is wrong, but it isn’t. These sensations you’re feeling aren’t the problem. The problem is your resistance to them. Watch. Be curious about them. Say “Hmmm, interesting” a lot. And, it is okay to take a few days off from Holosync, though Holosync isn’t the problem. Your resistance to what it is showing you about yourself is the problem.
Trust me on this. You are going to be okay. In fact, as you get through this you’ll see a huge shift. You’ll be a different person, and all the energy that has been tied up in keeping whatever it is down and out of awareness will be available for being more alive (this is what I meant above when I said that it would transform into POTENCY). Stay the course. Watch with curiosity. Let whatever happens be okay.
Unfortunately I missed this the first time around, however it is nice for me to go back and read his remarks about your post. I’m sure that this meant a lot to him not only due to his increase in book sails, but due to the fact that this was so heart felt. I imagine that this is why your marketing works so well; when one really combines the idea of soulful expression with one’s desire to share value with the world magical things do happen. I hope some day to achieve something worthy of an endorsement like this from Bill Harris where I am touched as Bob was to recall what I’ve done, because there seems to be nothing more gratifying to me than to see one’s value reflected back in such a splended manner. For some reason you seem to really come alive in this post when re-living some of Bob’s experiences and this really helps to energize me, and just the thought of having the possibility of something nice like this being done for me makes my life’s work all the more worthwhile.
PS: Perhaps we could someday hear a conversation between you and Bob, or perhaps some other people you have looked up to and gained much wisdom from? I feel that this may resonate with listeners and really increase the law of attraction regarding putting heart felt value into the world–lord knows we need it in these trying times. Regarding the law of attraction, in my humble oppinion, this type of post–wherein real life experience can be shared person to person–is where it’s at.
Bill,
I am the original seeking skeptic, and thuogh I was only going to try Holosync, I am now intrigued with the subtle changes since I started using it, and though only only a disability cheque I have continued, as I can with the programme.
Thank you for believing in this study as I now do, fully!
Georgie
Hi Bill,
I am brand new to this Holosync, I bought the program. I love it so far. I also loved Bob’s story…. I look at some of the homeless and know that they don’t have to be in those situations, if they had one person who believed in them, who know’s how many Bobbies can change. I would love to be able to impact a life so compelling as in Bob’s Story. My heart was so full as I read each word, and I got more inspired to move ahead with my own dreams. I can’t Thank You enough for this wonderful program that is already starting to improve my life. I have much to be worked on, so I will be a sponge and a star student of your Program Awakening Prologue.
~ Bless you Big ~
Thanks for a great post Bill, Holosync (and you) have changed my life in too many ways to mention…can you ever see a time when you will be in the UK?
Hi Bill, thank you for sharing your heart with us.
Bill, because of what I learned from you, I created a product and launched my business while I was going through, and recover from two back-to-back open heart surgeries over the past 6 years.
Your teachings have helped me clear the way regarding aspects of my life that could have kept “parts of my psyche” back in the womb, as I experienced severe trauma in the womb while my mother was pregnant with me. It was this trauma that left me with a severe heart anomoly, and the sensitized perceptions that I was “beaten down” by the world, before I ever came into it.
When we are in the womb we haven’t yet developed language, think our own thoughts with words, and I have to tell you…
…that Holosync and your “teachings” have helped me save my life, heart, and mind in ways that are impossible to describe in words.
Now is a time for compassion for self and others. Not as as an idea, or mental construct, or lofty emotion.
It is a time for acts of compassion and loving kindness, and your blog post today has really touched my heart.
Blessings to you, your family, Centerpointe and ALL the incredible abundance that is flowing through the world right now.
If anyone reading this is clenching their heart because you are afraid that if you give what little money you have to others in need, or to even help yourself by purchasing Holosync or some other personal growth program to help you relieve your stress in lieu of the economy…
…then now is absolutely the time to give it away. Why? Because it is the clenching of the heart that slows down the flow of it. Believe me I know.
Have faith, and you will be amazed at what will come back to you, epecially when you least expect it.
May we all be open to receive the infinite abundance, we are destined to receive.
Love you Bill,
Ilias
What staggering comments, letters, posts. I feel its these posts more than my present experiences with Holysyync that will make me continue with Holysync. A 65 year young female living with a 69 year old dear sweet kind, repressed passive agressive man whose negative energy I just sponge up when I don’t give myself protection. Anger, phew it hurts so much, and for the past two months it has erupted volcanically. The relationship will end, and I will be both so very very sad and so utterly utterly relieved – was it Rumi who said: the heart weeps for what it has lost and the soul laughs for what it has found.
Yes, I echo Dennis Caxton above – though put it differently…if I organise it would you come to UK? How many people would you want/need. What would you charge? I sang a few weeks ago in the Millenium Dome, which holds 20,000 – but it is a soulless place. Now the Albert Hall…
So I must say a big thank you to all of the people who’ve blogged you Bill. I now must order the CD after the Awakening – don’t think I even have the name right.
Yes. An answer as to coming to the UK or not – despite the carbon footprint.
Blessings and congratulations and thanks and love Bill.
Susannah
FROM BILL: As you might imagine, to travel to Europe, with the staff I would need to do an event, is expensive and time-consuming. And, with now having to deal with everything that’s going on with the economy plus everything else I’m already doing or planning to do, such a trip has to really be worth it. Fill the Albert Hall and I’ll be there!
Thank you Bill Harris!!
My Dearest Bill Harris. You are worthwhile. I just finished the twelth lesson of the on line expander course. and I just had to blog you. You are the one that led me out of the darkest spot a person could ever be In. I still have drive to do more, require more of myself. I am still pretty much looking at the big picture, but at least I can see how I am responisble for all the stuff I create. and that this journey will never end now thanks to you. I love you Bill Harris and I appreciate everyday you get up out of your bed. I love getting out of mine thanks to your insights. Live long and prosper. Alemenia
Hi Bill. I remembered what you said about being as exact and not give my whole life story. I said to myself well who do I tell my life story to if I never say it out loud how will I ever be able to move past all this (stuff). I have been keeping a journal sence I was a young girl of maybe 12 or so. I went back and read through that corney stuff and had a good laugh on me. So I decided through a on-line course I took with Oprah and Eckhart Tolle. on there course they had a place where you could really let lose and get thoes feelings out there and then just let it go. I never have been brave enough to ask for help, but you help me see and I hope you notice that I did not say (made me ). I have been putting that line in the water and what I have been catching. I send my love from the barn where I am with the cows and skinning thoes fish. love you Alemenia
Hi bill Just a quick thought could you write a book of plays where. The story line is in line with your on-line course. It would make acting as if so much easier. Its not that I want you to do all the work etc. etc. Its like the guy that ask me for a smoke and then a light and then told me it wasn’t his brand, that the matches I used the sulfer could kill him,but I would buy them all and give some to friends love you Alemenia
Hey Bill,
I’m not sure if I can thank you enough for Holosync. You don’t know me but you’re making a huge impact on the quality of my life, and I want to thank you. I hope all the praise you get hasn’t become routine for you- I hope you still get juiced knowing how important you are to everyone who uses Holosync. I have a pretty basic question. I’m preparing my affirmations for Awakening Level 2. Is it best to record them rapid-fire, or to pause a second or two in between each one?
You don’t even need to post this message. I’m asking you because the support staff didn’t seem to have a clear answer for me. I figure if there’s a better way to do it, I’d like to know… and you are the person who would know.
Thanks-
FROM BILL: Why would it matter?
Hi Bill,
I sincerely hope you post this comment as I really would like a genuine answer.
I already posted a comment a few weeks ago on this current blog, which was genuinely heartfelt. After that I decided to go into the previous blogs and started reading them from the beginning, I found them absolutely fascinating. this comes from an Irish catholic who did not realise how, subconciously, I was entrenched in my beliefs and closed off to others. I went into Holosync with a lot of skepticism but something about you and Holosync just resonated as “right”.
I am only on Awakening level one and as someone who has lived with a life ruled by anxiety I have definitely felt changes and at least know that I have the choice to let anxiety be the prevalent ruler or not.
However, I got to June 2008 on your blog and a response you left to one of the comments just blew me away and left me wondering, is Bill the real deal or does my skepticism and doubt win out after all?
The comment was left in response to “Will” on June 16 2008 and goes as follows. To quote your own words ” I see things like Holosync and Big Mind taking up the slack to some, extent,but if a person really wants to awaken in the profound sense I’m writing about here, it’s probably not going to happen from doing some sort of practice an hour a day.” Are you saying that the hour I devote every day to meditation and Holosync are not going to help in my I awakening process? I’ve read the comment several times and don’t see another way to interpret it. Maybe my awareness is not there yet and there is something I’m missing.
I would be very grateful for an honest response to this one. Thanks. And honestly up to this point something about Holosync just feels right even though it hasn’t all been easy.
I do apologise for getting off topic on this one but I really do need an answer and I don’t think your support staff can answer this one. Thanks.
Michaela
FROM BILL: Anyone could wake up in an instant, but few do. Most people who have what in Zen is called a kensho experience, or “great enlightenment,” are people who have devoted themselves to awakening. As long as you are attached to the world and the reality created by your mind, you aren’t going to see the transcendent reality behind it because the mind obscures it. Once you have attained it, the next step is to reintegrate the relative world–to transcend and include both the transcendent and the relative.
What you are really asking, I think, is whether or not it’s worth it to use Holosync, and what will you get from doing so. The more you use Holosync, the more you will see how everything goes together (as opposed to how things seem to be in opposition). Any unresolved emotional stuff will gradually fall away. You will come to embrace the aspects of yourself and the world you’ve assumed were wrong or bad (the Catholic Church instills a long list of these), so you will stop expressing them (and attracting them) in dysfunctional ways. You will experience increasing amounts of mental clarity, which, among other things, will allow you to see more and more clearly the effects of your actions–not just on whatever or whomever might be in your immediate vicinity, but your effects on a much wider range of things (ultimately including everything). You will become more compassionate. You will become more peaceful inside. You will become happier.
The profound awakening I was writing about is rare. A very samll percentage of those who meditate experience it. Though it can happen even with no spiritual practice at all, as it did for Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie, it usually happens, as I said above, to those who devote their entire life to awakening. Meditating an hour a day is not the same as devoting your life to awakening, though it brings many wonderful benefits, as I described above–especially when you meditate with Holosync, which is more like 4 hours of traditional meditation.
Not every musician becomes a world-class star, and not every business owner becomes a billionaire, though both are possible. Becoming enlightened is like being a spiritual billionaire. It can happen, but it is rare. And, though there is a price to pay, some pay it and still don’t become a billionaire, while others somehow seem to be in the right place at the right time and become a billionaire without seeming to pay the price. And though we start out seeking diligently, the irony is that awakening is a cessation of seeking, and a realization that there never was anything to seek. In fact, seeking actually is the final barrier to making the shift.
Ken Wilber has said that enlightenment is an accident (referring to the fact that it seems to come by grace, not through any sure-fire formula), but meditation makes you more accident prone. So keep meditating, and you’ll gain more clarity, more happiness, more wisdom, and more choice.
And above all, never stop trusting me (just kidding–trust yourself).
Hi Bill
Thanks for the response and for clarifying that for me. Who knows maybe I’ll be one of those few who actually become a spiritual billionaire.
I have had quite a bit of emotional stuff surface, but thanks to the wonderful support material you provide I am definitely getting better at watching it as opposed to letting it take me over.
I know being able to trust anybody just a little is a major step in the right direction so thank you for that.
Holosync has not necessarily been an easy ride up to this point but I know it is helping bring about positve changes so I will continue with the program. I have gone from being overwhelmed with anxiety and pretty much leading a stagnant life ( although I did put on a different face for the world) to actually feeling hopeful for the first time in my life.
So once again thank you for your positive input and I look forward to maybe being at one of your retreats someday.
Michaela
Hi Bill,
I ‘d like to ask a personal question, just out of curiosity really.Have you experienced the absolute side of reality or Big Mind according to Genpo Roshi? If so, how did it happen?
Thanks.
A few notes…
1) Will you blog about SuperLearning? I have recently returned to school and have turned into an unexpected genius after two years of Holosync. I have devoured what you have in Thresholds, but I want more! I used to not be able to do math and now I’m at the top of the class and cannot attribute it to anything else. I knew I had changed a lot for other reasons, but I had no idea how significantly I had changed until I tried to do school again, something I failed at over and over for 15 years.
2) You mention somewhere…in the lessons?, blog?, support letters?, about when you move the universe moves and vice versa. I saw it briefly, weeks ago, after successfully choosing and itnegrating a new belief, and I’m still awed. It moved like being at one with the jello. Totally awesome.
3) You really do help people and go the extra mile, it shows. Thank you for that.
Hi Mr. Harris,
Just a note to say I will be ordering my Awakening level 1 package tomorrow after a bank deposit. Until now my primary life lesson has been patience but at 62 years of age, nearing what I consider to be my mid point, I am more than a little anxious to get on with it.
It took me all morning to read your home page because I kept drifting into the possibilities Holosync would open up for me, family and friends. While I have no plans to pursue any formal education, I have a passion for knowledge and wisdom, mostly acquired by reading.
I made the mental note this morning that I will now have to find a speed learning course to supplement accelerating personal growth. How synchronistic I should find Anon’s post the last on a very interesting thread! I still have the rest of this site to explore and a few more links to check out.
Since I am fascinated by health and longevity issues, you can be sure I will be following you as you uncover further mind – body connections through testing and research. I, like you, believe we are only seeing the tip of the iceberg here. It is so easy to see how technology and spirituality are coming together to usher in the Aquarian Age, the age of science and brotherhood and Bob’s story illustrates powerfully how the simplest acts of compassion change lives.
So I add my thanks and love based on your work toward planetary liberation and your promise of positive results at the personal level. I have been highly excited all day that I found you and your product at this particular time in my life. One more thing to add to my gratitude list. You will be hearing from me in the future. Love and light,
Ed
Hi,
So glad you last two posters decided to leave a comment. Anon, hats off to you. I was probably the total antithesis to you. I grew up “knowing” within myself that I was exceptionally bright and always top of the class but somewhere along the way that part of me became suppresed and I became stagnant. Holosync has helped open that up again and I am hopeful about life for the first time since childhood.
Like you Ed I too have discovered this new found thirst for knowledge and wisdom. I am devouring every piece of knowledge that comes into my realm off learning. Hats off to Bill and Holosync, I am a little scared but alive for the first time in my 44 yrs.
Deep within I know there is a totally new being waiting to come forth and I know this is going to happen.
Thanks again Bill and also Genpo Roshi ” Big Mind, Big Heart ” dvds were amazing. Thank you.
Michaela
Hey Bill,
Great post i love hearing everyones comments. Have you ever considered starting some sort of chat room where all the people reading and commenting on these blogs can interact share thoughts and experiences related to holosync etc??? Just curious. Thank you for creating Holosync and for all of the awesome teachings you share so freely.
P.S.
Im curious what Dale means when he says he is getting into some neat stuff with his holosync use?
Thanks for that article bill
Very valuable to read
Hi Bill,
I just signed up for Holosync’s “Awakening Prologue” — after postponing my decision for sometime (mainly because of some skepticism), but decided to take your offer after reading again your ‘long’ invitation letter.
After reading your story about Bobby Danzig, I am now convinced that I’ll be spending quality time with you & Centerpointe and Bobby Danzig. Thank you very much for sharing Bobby’s life story. I’ve always wanted to be an influence for good to younger people but I wasn’t sure if I was doing it right or doing enough. Now I’m sure I can draw lessons and inspiration from you and Bobby.
God bless you and may more people like you and Bobby Danzig be known to a confused and discouraged generation.
Raul O.
I loved that post, Bill. Wonderful story.
I am completely blown away by the prospect of all of this (I’ve used the holosync demo every night (Except 2) since it came through the post a couple of weeks ago. “WOW” is all I can think/say – so I’m dissapointed that my head is still sceptical – even though I have ordered and payed for the awakening prologue already (because in some respects, I’m so excited that this is real – I WANT so badly to believe it will work where ALL else has failed – including attempts at self-meds which has resulted in my first years membership to the exclusive club of AA – A grateful member!) I guess I just seek reassurance that I haven’t been ‘had’ as I have got a lot to lose by investing a ‘desperate’ loan into this and, of equal, if not uppermost significance – I don’t have a clue what else to try. Thanks for the chance to have some faith in something though Bill, Genpo, Ken, Linda and Saniel & Sally- Thank you
What a story! Thanks for sharing it.