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The Human Condition

by / Tuesday, 28 September 2010 / Published in Personal Growth, Spirituality, The Human Condition

Two letters about some key aspects of the human condition, and my answers:

In this first letter, is it just my silly positive thinking, or do I have something else in mind when I ask this man to make a list of the benefits of losing his job? You decide.

Hi Bill,

You suggested that I make a list of the benefits of having lost my job. I think that is a crazy thing to do and I very much resent the idea of positive thinking. In fact, to me positive thinkers are just deluded fools who don’t have the guts to face the inevitability of death. Sooner or later, the sun is going to blow up and all living things, whether they have perfect abs or not, will be reduced to ashes. What I don’t get is why, while this is all coming my way like a truck barreling down the highway, I have to live and eat and have a family and buy a new air conditioner. I think you are asking me to play Scrabble while I am on a train that goes somewhere I don’t want to be, as though it could possibly help me enjoy the ride and divert my attention from what is really going on.

For example, I have had role models before whose behavior I tried to replicate, only to find out years later that these people were cheats, liars and in some cases child molesters. So in a way I’m glad I didn’t really succeed at emulating them.

What is strangest about this negativity is that I find a kind of satisfaction in it that wasn’t there before. Is it just repressed negativity coming to the surface because of Holosync? I will say that this feels better than the state I was in a few months ago, but still.

Nicholas

Nicholas,

There is tremendous benefit in making a list of the potential benefits when something you don’t want happens. Losing a job, for instance, might send you in a new direction that is much better than the old direction. It might result in meeting someone, whether in a new job or in your search for a new job, who could turn out to be your best friend or in some way play a tremendously positive role in your life. You could find out, as I did, that you really ought to be an entrepreneur instead of working for someone else. You might learn about some aspect of life that your old situations hid from you. And so on. Who knows what the benefit might be.

When Centerpointe was a year old, someone sued me for a million dollars. It turned out to be a huge positive turning point for me, though I definitely didn’t think so at the time. In fact, I was waking up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat. I won’t go into the whole story here, but if it had not happened–and if I hadn’t made a list of the benefits of being sued similar to the list I’m suggesting you make, I would have walked away from Centerpointe, which has changed me in so many positive ways.

I share your feelings about “positive thinking”–most people who are into positive thinking are really disowning the negative aspects of life, which I think is ignorant, and dangerous (since what you disowns manifests anyway, but in a dysfunctional and immature way).

However, what you focus your attention on makes a huge difference in how you feel, how you behave, which people and situations you attract or become attracted to, and what meanings you assign to the events of your life. These four things in great part determine your experience of life. Making a list of the potential benefits of something negative that has happened changes your focus to what is possible, and most of the time I’ve found that these possibilities end up happening–if you focus on them.

Napoleon Hill has said that every adversity contains the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit. He adds, though, that you have to find that seed, and germinate it. Making the list I suggested is a way of finding it.

I think it’s healthy to realize that all things are impermanent, as you say. However, I don’t think it helps to be in resistance to that fact, or to decide that there’s no point to enjoying life due to the fact that it will ultimately end. That would be like not eating an ice cream cone because it will eventually be gone. Death certainly adds a bittersweet quality to being a human being, but those who accept death as an unavoidable part of being human end up with a deep inner peace. Those who fight the fact that life (and everything in it) is impermanent end up bitter and unhappy.

How you respond to life is a choice, but only if you are aware enough. I’m just suggesting a way to be more aware. If you are only aware of the negatives about losing your job, and you think that cataloging the possibilities is something to be resented, you’re cutting yourself off from being aware of half of the situation. If you do this with everything, you’re cutting yourself off from half of the universe.

As for the mentors who turned out to be cheats and liars, isn’t there a benefits to that discovery, also? Doesn’t that experience contain some valuable wisdom that could make you a better human being? Couldn’t that experience help you not be like these people, or help you spot such people in the future, so as to avoid them? Couldn’t you also take in and embody the good aspects of these people without embodying the bad?

Perhaps it’s valuable to realize that all people have the capacity to be both good and bad, and to accept this as part of the human condition (in yourself, as well) without becoming bitter about it? Life is what it is, positive and negative. You have a life to live, and how you live it is a choice. Instead of fighting against the fact that it isn’t the way you’d like it to be, do what you can to make it better while you embrace the fact that it is what it is.

There’s enough difficulty in being being human without adding your resistance of those difficulties into the mix. Most human frustration and suffering isn’t the result of one’s circumstances, but rather of one’s response to those circumstances. That response is a choice, but you have to be aware enough to see it. Then, once you see the choice, you have to exercise it.

Be well.

Bill

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What can you do if you have an experience of oneness, but then you have to leave it?

Dear Bill,

I have had several experiences of this oneness. I best describe it to myself as “the consciousness of the universe”, I think its the same thing? They only last a few seconds, they come and they go as I do my shikantaza [a type of Zen meditation, usually translated as “just sitting”].

I just wanted to tell you how I feel, I guess. I feel pretty sad when I “come back” to being attached to my thoughts. To this idea of me. And I feel really sad for not being able to stay there longer. The freedom…and peace…

The nostalgia for my Home is unbearable. And as you know, when you seek it you never find it, so I also struggle with intensely wanting to feel it and failing, and its at those times that I curse and wish I never knew this “truth”.

And then I just go about my day pretending that the day matters, when all I want to do is go home and sit.
I really struggle at times to stop meditating and get up and do something, though I strongly believe that I should be part of this world and participate, its just that sometimes I get carried away and meditate all weekend. I guess you can see my struggle there huh?

The only thing that has helped me with that is learning how to attach to people and things, (with your teachings on focusing on what we want etc.). I mean for me, that is the only thing that gets me up from the cushion. Attachment.

Also, I am doing this on my own, well, with your teachings and blog that is, but other than that I have not found a zen teacher here in athens (greece) so I mostly rely on you and genpo and the internet. But that is not enough is it?

So I guess, I just wanted to let you know how I am doing, and where I am at, at the moment, and ask you if I am on the right track, if what I feel is normal or if I am doing something wrong.

thank you so much,
natasha

Natasha,

You are seeing an experience of the transcendent as an escape from life. This is quite common. However, you can’t escape from life. Those who attain a state where they can sit in the transcendent all the time eventually have to deal with the fact that they still are human and subject to the human suffering created by cause and effect (which involves not getting what you want some portion of the time) and impermanence (which means that everything–including Natasha–eventually passes away).

The real attainment is to learn to experience the transcendent, but also to embrace being human, with all its problems and built-in suffering. In fact, experiences of the transcendent seem to help you do that, because you realize that there is something bigger than what you thought you were.

This is one reason why the first course [in my Life Principles Integration Process online courses] is so important. You need to see how, using your Internal Map of Reality, you create 1) how you feel, 2) how you behave, 3) which people and situations you attract or become attracted to, and 4) what meanings you attach to what happens.

If you feel sad when an experience of the transcendent ends it is because you are making internal representations of something you don’t want. It is not because you miss the transcendent. It is because when you think of the transcendent after experiencing it in meditation you automatically and unconsciously make internal representations of something you don’t want. Those internal representations create the bad feeling–in other words, YOU, by something you do, create the bad feeling.

Right now you’re doing this outside your awareness, which makes it seem as if these feelings are “just happening.” Actually, you’re DOING those feelings. If you learn to observe yourself making those internal representations, and see how what YOU DO creates the bad feeling, you’ll probably stop doing it, because those feelings don’t serve you, and you can’t do what doesn’t serve you AND do it with awareness. When you do something outside your awareness, you have no choice about it. When you do it with awareness–where you watch yourself do it–it becomes a choice. And, you will always choose what serves you (and others).

You don’t have to be sad about being a human being. You can CHOOSE to feel any way you want about it.

To navigate our way through life and make sure we survive, we create a map of who we are, which we call “myself.” That map is very incomplete, though. And, it involves dividing the world into separate things and events, including a separate “thing” we call “me.” We need this map, though. Without it we couldn’t navigate our way through life, or even survive.

The problem isn’t that we have this limited map. It’s that we mistakenly think that this map (our idea of who we are) is who we are. This would be like thinking that a map of Greece is the real Greece. But having a map of Greece, or the fact that a map of Greece isn’t Greece, isn’t a bad thing. It’s quite useful, in fact. But if you thought that map WAS Greece, you’d do all kinds of crazy things. You might try to travel to Athens on those little lines that represent roads.

What I want you to realize is that you HAVE a map of who you are and what the world is, but it’s just a map. The real you, and the real world, is much larger than your map. In fact, when you have an experience of the transcendent you are experiencing that larger you. As I said, the real attainment is to know the transcendent, but at the same time make your peace with being human.

And, it’s okay to embrace being human, just the way it is.

Be well.

Bill

Don’t go yet. Here’s something else you might find interesting:

If you’ve been flirting with the idea taking my Life Principles Integration Process online courses, this is probably THE best time to actually do it. Why? Because for just a few more days the price is 50% off, plus an additional discount I’ve temporarily added. This discount, however, will be gone VERY soon.

One of the options in taking these courses is unlimited, direct email access to me so you can ask any questions you have. This access lasts FOREVER.

Here is an rather amazing letter I received recently from one student, a young French woman living in England:

Dear Bill,

On my goal statement I wrote….

To have a job I love here in England, earning 1500 pounds a month, working for a company who values her customers, employees and provide a valuable service. In a nice clean, safe environment. With full training, providing me evenings and weekends off.

Just to let you know I am starting next week a customer service job working for a beautiful company who contribute to the environment and human rights and sell beauty products.

That not for the health insurance group I wanted,  but much better. I went today for the interview and was stuck to see such a nice working place. At the reception they have a big poster with trees, and I thought WOW…Environment is very important for me and it is too for this company.

It is not possible to describe how Grateful I am to you. I use to cry because of my unhappiness..I still cry but now because I can’t believe how happy I am and how much all is changing.

Also:

*My relationship with my family has really improved, especially with my father, I had the most amazing time with them this summer.

*I feel so much better within myself, feel more confident.

*I am more Aware of what I do inside and I know I can turn my self sabotage tendency when it surfaces. I did not know before I was doing something…

*I have helped 2 of my sisters who were really down, mainly only by repeating what I learnt from your course

*I got the right answers to tell my parents how to turn their life after the bankruptcy of the biggest part of the family business,

*Things who were so difficult to do before, are just now… just normal and even I wonder why I found them so challenging.

*While listening to your meditations on the course i felt connected with everything around me

*One day you said I am Worthwhile…gosh, I was ashamed I told you about my life…but now, I do not feel useless anymore by doing the Goal statement and contributing more, I enjoy now been here and been useful

*I now work for a company whom I am proud to be part of, they value world contribution, environment.

*Many of my fears have just disappeared

*I am more active, and in a more focus way toward my goals realisation and contribution

*I take more care of myself

*I am Inspired, full of Hope, I have Faith and I love life…..

With huge gratitude, Ghislaine

I get these letters all the time because these online courses really do create dramatic and deep changes in the people who take them.

Wouldn’t you like to write me a letter like this because you experienced your own version of this sort of dramatic  positive change?

You can check out these courses–and still get the huge, not quite expired, better-that-half-off discount–by going to www.centerpointe.com/life/preview.

 

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105 Responses to “The Human Condition”

  1. Heikki says :

    Well, Bill? You write like I live today.

    I dont ask anymore “why people suffer today?” I just ask more awarness.

    Why I do work today? Only because it gives me rhytm to my life. What means money today to me? Just a one way to create my visions. Who is the most important people to me? My mirror shows it to me every day. What means my small cildrens to me today? Im their father and they are my spiritual teachers. What is the meaning of my life? To become the second greatest vision I can imagine. Who am I? Human being. What is my ego? The past and the future. Do I love my ego? Yes, Im ready to loose it when the time is coming, but in the mean time I enjoy it. Its very, very good tool.

    Do I this or that or do not, everything going to be even better! And with paradox this day is the best day of my life.

    Pur3 cd3 now, and everything is everything;-.

    Bill, flowering level? Can there be even better worlds ahead? 4 years holosync and I practically live in heaven already.

  2. ROSARIO [Italy] says :

    Dear BILL,
    PLEASE what do you think about
    AWARENESS WATCHING AWARENESS technique
    to EXAPAND our AWARENESS ?
    Why you never talk about it,
    and talk only about
    Internal Map of Reality to know how we create
    1) how you feel
    2) how you behave
    3) which people and situations you attract or become attracted to
    4) what meanings you attach to what happens. ?
    THANK YOU.
    ROSARIO [Italy]

    FROM BILL: I have no idea what that is. I would suggest that paying attention to your own life would be of much greater benefit.

  3. Richard says :

    I would tell this man that he is imprinting images of the external onto the internal, which is where we create our experience. Imaging that which we want brings more of the same, imaging that which we don’t want brings more of that.

  4. Sam says :

    Regarding the first question: What comes to mind for me is that the person might have an opportunity to practice interviewing skills, and might set up a situation wherein he works for the same company he previously worked for but in a much more leucrative position. I’ve been reading a lot of Think and Grow… and the Science Of… and these types of books–while written some time ago for circumstances far different from those which we face today–talk a lot about not recognizing the job market for what it is but rather creating your own market. In other words show the company that they need your services more than any other employee in this position, and create a situation wherein “you need me” rather than bringing the neediness that comes when one is desporit for a job. This works especially well in a bad economy: so many people are focused on the external situation around them and are pushed so far into their own concerns about what they need to get done and what they’ll need to get them there, that someone who brings their own seed of creativity to a company in such a manner as to suggest some productive way of accomplishing a task that the company hadn’t thought of previously (for a much lower price) will stand head and shoulders above everyone else. Someone who can take the “bring your seed not your need” philosophy and who can put a new spin on it so that it’s practicle for the every-day working man to apply is set up for a golden future, and someone who can spot the mistakes in how this is done (someone who recognizes the deficiency in this type of marketing) and who can creatively advise those who are for the common man (rather than being overly chritical) is priceless.

    Regarding the second question: might this lady be desiring a feeling of loving kindness as representing the feeling of oneness that comes to her? It’s possible to practice loving kindness and come to a realization that one doesn’t need to leave this state, and ironically the more that one is out in the world practicing attachment and also teaches others this method can go into ever deeping states of loving kindness. The practice of being attached to things can also be used as a meta meditation wherein one is always focused on loving kindness for oneself and for others and, to tie this in to what I was saying before, this person’s future looks very bright because very few others at the company will be focused on making the world around them a more loving and kind place: this person makes the office much more productive, and eventually this technique could even be used to make the employees of the company more productive and the company more money in the long run. Someone who practices this can cause the whole company to move towards its objectives, even if some or most of the employees tend to move away from situations (they move away from not getting the project done on time for fear of reprocussions from the boss). There would be a spirit of cooperation and joy in the company and employees would be eager to get tasks done because they enjoy the feeling of satisfaction that comes with a job well done, and the boss wouldn’t have to deal with the stress of all the employees pushing off of him to avoid getting things done until absolute necessity strikes.

    I hope this wasn’t just a lot of hot air…

  5. Geoff says :

    Bill

    I think your response to Nicholas is spot-on. Thanks for the reminder to look for the benefits in what appears to be a “bad” situation.

    My only comment is that I’ve endlessly seen “positive thinking bashing” from all sorts of spiritually related sources over the past decade or two. I’m not sure exactly what particular positive thinking author or group is the focus of this. But my own experience with The Power of Positive Thinking, for example, was that it was not shallow or poorly thought out, nor did it disregard sadness, misfortune or suffering. Rather, at it’s heart, it is pointing to precisely what you do–resistance as a primary source of suffering. If poor Norman Vincent Peale is the focus of the bashing, I don’t think he deserves it.

    I’ve gone on to study and practice Buddhist meditation (vipassana) and to learn a tremendous amount from that tradition. While in this country, the tradition is generally taught with a strong regard for not fighting any aspect of one’s experience as it arises in awareness, the Buddha did appear to have strong opinions about avoiding streams of thought that essentially go nowhere but into suffering. If we pay attention to our experience, see our thought streams and where they lead, we’re going to become aware that some are simply dead ends, leading to nothing but suffering. Here, the Buddha advised to use great energy and effort to turn away from those thought streams as soon as we can, for they gather strength with repeated use. This of course is fully in support of CHOOSING where to place your attention.

    Many thanks.

    Geoff

    FROM BILL: The knock on “positive thinking” isn’t really about someone like Normal Vincent Peale, but rather all the New Age people who spout off about thinking positive thoughts. The problem is that when you seek only “the positive” (which is different for different people anyway–nothing is intrinsically positive OR negative) you disown the negative. The two go together, like buying and selling. You can’t get rid of the negative. Those who are truly happy and peaceful are those who have embraced the negative as well as the positive. When you disown what you think is negative, you express it anyway, but in an covert, immature, and dysfunctional way. Disowning the negative is a disease. And, you are correct–Normal Vincent Peale was not doing that.

  6. Chris says :

    He’s right that, eventually, everything material fades away. This is why the Buddhists teach letting go of attachments—-it’s the feeling of loss that hurts the most.

    Naturally, like many of life’s lessons, it’s not easy to practice. It definitely can hurt greatly to lose your job—money is essential to buy things like food, and for people who define themselves by their job, it’s like losing a huge part of yourself. It’s why even some people who retire can feel depressed.

    Basically, if he looks at life strictly as a destination, all life eventually ends in death, at least from the physical perspective. Life itself is a process, and that process is what we are here to experience. It doesn’t mean the process is only experiencing pleasure. We’re meant to experience the pain and, through it, heal ourselves and accept the situation.

    As I said earlier, though, living it is much harder than just saying it, or reading it. But, living through a painful experience can be a gateway to enormous growth, if you live the philosophy of acceptance of what you cannot control. That opens the possibilities for powerful transformation in the areas we CAN control.

    I don’t think that’s positive thinking as much as letting go of useless negative thinking. All negative thinking does is amplify problems. It never solves any.

    FROM BILL: Of course he’s right about everything being impermanent. I’ve been saying that (over and over) for some time. The point I was making is to not use impermanence as an excuse to not be alive and enjoy your life.

  7. Elaine says :

    I trust that Nicholas grasped what you told him, it is brilliant as always. I love asking myself, “What is the goood in this situation?” or “IF there were some gooood in this situation, what would it be?”

    The answers make me feel more positive (which I think is just a fine way to be–I think ‘positive thinking’ gets a bad rap these days: “Wah, it isn’t perfect,” we say, forgetting how well it served, in its time.)

    One negative I recently ran into was having to pay out a large bundle of $$ for something I didn’t really want; no need for details, but just when you reduced the price of the online courses to my current “affordable” level, my educational/discretionary spending budget got whammied out of existance. Oh well….when the timing is right, all the necessary time & funding will fall into place. Or so I tell myself, and move on.

    One question, and it really isn’t so facetious as it sounds:
    We know that disowned negativity sneaks around to bite us on the…. that is, it resurface in an immature & dysfunctional manner.
    That being the case, what happens with disowned positivity? This is what Nicholas seemed to want to do—disown the positive. He remarks on how focussing on the Neg gives him an odd sense of satisfaction. As a former neg-aholic, I can understand that.

    So…what’s going on with disowned positives? Do they come around and give us a pat on the… Does this explain why good stuff sometimes happens even when we are wallowing in the Pit of Despond?

    I eagerly look forward to hearing your thoughts on this, Bill!

    FROM BILL: People certainly do disown the positive. When they do this, they put people who have the qualities they admire on a pedestal, as if they could never be that way.

  8. Mary says :

    I think what these two writers have in common is that their expectations have not been met, they expected something from an experience. Our expectations let us down. It is the nature of addiction, to have an experience and then spend your time chasing the feeling you experienced the first time that you want to experience again. It is also the root of the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. It isn’t whether it is different or the same, it is the expectation. To wake up every day and expect nothing, that is the mind of an enlightened soul. To accept what ever life throws at you as an experience of the “divine” or of the “larger conciousness” or what ever . . . . I wish I could be that free.

    FROM BILL: And, what you are describing describes the human experience (hence the title of my post). Though the mark of an enlightened sould might be having no expectations, and want to warn you that this is an idealization. I don’t think anyone, no matter how “enlightened’ they are, ever stops preferring this over that. Making distinctions is a part of being human, no matter who you are. The real attainment is to make distinctions with awareness, which means you CHOOSE the distinctions you make, fully aware of their consequences. You CHOOSE to be human.

  9. Tony says :

    Hi Bill,

    You wrote a very good reply. In Daoism there are interesting sayings on gain and loss. One of them is: “Gain is loss and loss is gain. Those who have loss are happy to have gained it.”

  10. Beverly Mahr says :

    Bill, I am 77 yrs old and a widow for 25 years. I was taught as a child by a grandmother that no matter what happened and how traumatic or tragic the event is, the seeds of the future are being planted and you must keep putting one foot in front of the other and moving on. I lot my job at the end of 2009 – tragic??? As some of my friends said “they never saw anyone so happy over losing a job.” Why happy? Because it finally forced me to make a decision about where I want to live and to do want I want to do with the rest of my life as I intend to live a very long time. And yes, there are not only positives to this but also negatives in what I am about to do. But, if you are happy within yourself then I believe your postivies and negatives are in balance.

    FROM BILL: You had a wise grandmother. I hope you have some grandchildren, yourself, to whom you pass this wisdom!

  11. Alysha says :

    I would ask him how does that thought feel? Do you feel happy? Do you feel content thinking this way? Have you tried looking for the one positive in an unpleasant situation, especially if it is a life lesson?

    I am a positive thinker because it feels better, lighter, hopeful. I practiced this by a conscious effort to stop in my tracks when found myself being pessimistic. I’d remove my thoughts from the issue at hand a make lists of everything I am grateful for – and yes I even counted still breathing in tough times because it feels good to draw a breath – and now it is my predominant reaction to any situation.

    The only time it gets me in troubel is when someone dies and my reaction is, “I am so happy for them that they are at peace.” Most people have trouble with that one!

    FROM BILL: The only problem with “positive thinking” is when in being positive people disown the negative. Negativity and negative experiences are part of life. When we try to disown the negative, it becomes a shadow. That negativity, then, comes out anyway, but in covert, dysfunctional, and immature ways. It becomes the worst kind of negativity, even though the person thinks they are so “positive.”

  12. John Griggs says :

    Yo Bill,

    I have found that those who continuosly spout about positive thinking are usually not very positive at all. They seem to be at a loss with the voices in their head, mistaking them for the ultimate reality rather than the details of the MAP itself. Consequently they seem to get stuck in a state of a somewhat pathological bliss, proclaiming their happiness through tears. I wonder if perhaps the writer of the first letter has witnessed this and thus clams up or gets angry when he is encouraged to list the benefits from a negative experience.
    After six years of Holosync I find little “resistance” to the thoughts pouring through my mapmaker. I let them happen and thus return to the ultimate question; “How?” How can I? What can I?
    I know that when I fall down my mind and my environment have evolved in such a way as for me to get back up again, and again, and again. So now when I fall, or if I wake up depressed or angry or whatever, I enjoy the ride, (acknowledge the voices), but I still keep my focus on taking action on my hows and whats. Of course the longer I have been using Holosync, the more I wake up just John. John without the baggage of an old maps reality.
    Am I acheiving my goals as fast as I want? Heavens no, but I don’t waiver anymore. I know what I want and I keep my focus on my goals.
    Yes I have been through the three courses about three times now, each time learning more, understanding more of what you are teaching at a deeper level.
    Here’s my Role Model experience;
    I am an actor, who works, but not as much as my Goal Statement would have me work. So I take Stand-In work on TV shows. First for the experience and also because I have proven myself reliable and hard working and they know I’m a committed actor, I am allowed to sneak off the set and go on auditions. Well the first time I went through the course I searched high and low for an actor I could role model, but couldn’t quite seem to find one because I was thinking I was suppossed to role model the person, rather than the habits that actor had developed that made them a successful actor. The second time I went through the course I was working on a TV show called Twins with an actor named Mark Linn Baker. I really focused not on Mark, but on what Mark was doing on the set every day. He would put his daily script in binder and work away on his part the way the director puts together the show. But I didn’t dig further into Mark, I simply observed and emulated and low and behold the writers wrote a part in the script for me. The show was cancelled after one season, and although this may sound funny to some I am actually in high demand as a stand-in. This year from the director of that show I was offerred a full season to stand-in on Two and a Half Men, but turned it down because I had given a verbal commitment to the same writers and producers from Twins who are doing a new show called
    “Sh t My Dad Says,” with William Shatner. Plus I really wanted to work with and role model Mr. Shatner, because I want to know how and what he is doing to be so successful(not to mention my old Capt. Kirk maps!). The man is amazing. He is the first actor on set every day, (and also the first to leave)he says hello, a few jokes and then, maybe after five minutes, he rolls up his sleeves (literally) and gets to work. He works like no other actor I’ve seen. Working dialogue, finding his rythym, memorizing lines, finding the buttons, how to help his other actors, asking them to help him, calling up producers and writers and talking about dialogue or script changes. He eats, but doesn’t stop what he’s doing to eat. The way he communicates with everyone is thoughtful and considerate, this man is the consumate professional, the ultimate actor. I now know, absolutely what it takes for me to be successful. I know what I have to bring to the set every day regardless of whatever is going on in my life. I’ve had the opportunity to rehearse and read with him for producers and network, they cast me in a minor role, but then took the character out of the script, which happens all the time, but what is important to me is that casting/producers/network are aware of me and acknowledging my work.

    Today I am going over my MPGS and hope to find more specific goals to hone in on. IF you happen to read this on the Blog and you are debating the three courses, I hope this encourages you to take the dive. They are well worth it, and have all the info you need to create the life you want. I’m okay with it not happenning overnight, it’s the experience of the roller coaster of life that I wake up for every morning, not the end of the ride, but the ride itself.
    Peace In
    John

    FROM BILL: You speak like a man who has some AWARENESS. You’re a good advertisement for Holosync! And, I suspect you’re going to become a significant actor.

    Thanks for the plug on the online courses. If I do say so myself, they DO teach you everything you need in order to create the life you want. The downside of the online courses is that they aren’t fluff. They reguire some work. They go extremely DEEP, and they require you to really find out what you are doing to create your life. As with all awareness, when you become aware of that, it becomes a choice. (The link to the online courses, for those who want to take a look, is http://www.centerpointe.com/life/preview. And, for literally a few more days we’re offering a huge discount.)

  13. Elize Tribble says :

    Making a list of possible positives from a negative experience is brilliant advice
    that in no way disowns the negative polarity of the human condition. When our house burned down due to an electrical flaw, my husband turned to me as we watched it go down in flames and confided, “Thank God I don’t have to clean that desk again.” That made me laugh out loud, which did a lot more for me than the endless hours I was anticipating bemoaning my fate, let alone starting overfrom nothing. It sounds like a platitude to say in time, it’s easier to see how negative experiences often turn into their opposite – crisis turns into opportunity. This is not merely positive thinking, which as it’s sometimes practiced in some New Age populist groups can sound like a fear of death or avoidance of being human. As a person whose training was always to look on the dark side, I recognize the satisfaction of feeling that one is relaxing into owning one’s experience rather than avoiding it, but there is a point where that too is avoiding the responsibility of considering and discovering better outcomes. Bill’s list is a great way to retrain the old patterns of despondency and terror and his explanation ensures that it does not sound at all glib or like “lip service.”

  14. Gary says :

    I’ve learned that in some cases, rather than positive/negative or good/bad, it can be resourceful to just remain neutral, in a space where I am OK with not knowing how things will turn out in the future.

    It does keep me from focusing on what I don’t want, and I don’t seem to hurt. Instead, I remain as an active observer who can hold awareness for any “seeds” or movement on the horizon.

    Even though I really enjoyed and learned from your programs when I first signed up for them about 5 years ago, I don’t recall that you advocated reserving judgement (at least in a specific form). However, I guess one suspends judgement while making that list of the benefits that could come from a “bad” situation.

    What do you think?

    FROM BILL: The trouble with remaining neutral is that it only works when you aren’t very attached to the outcome. The more attached you become, the more likely it is that you’ll have a preference. And, humans are wired to make preferences. If we didn’t we wouldn’t survive. So despite the Eastern philosophy stuff about being unattached, and despite whatever spiritual work someone does, people are STILL attached, and they actually NEED to be attached to things to survive. What they’re really saying in the Eastern religions is to be aware of your attachments, to be attached WITH AWARENESS–that you’re doing it, and what the consequences are. You can’t escape being human–unless you die–and being human involves picking and choosing.

    Now, if you are more aware you are likely to choose to be less attached to many things that less aware people would be attached to, things that aren’t necessary to be attached to, or being attached to things being different than they are when there’s nothing that can be done about it. But if you weren’t attached to your children, for instance, what kind of life would that be? Attachment gives life juice. The point is to be aware enough that all your attachments are choices.

  15. Hi Bill

    as usual I think your on the ball in your response. I’d quote to your corespondents “Life is a contact sport and nobody gets out alive” (Jamie Salad). Viewed from a lower level of consciousness, where I often am, this can be pretty scary. However when I view this from a place of higher consciousness I can accept the existential reality of impermanence. (It even become motivational). You (Bill) have written of impermanence & cause/effect in several of your blogs. So I’d encourage your correspondents to take action to cause the desired affect. Life is life, we can’t change that but we can change our perception. We can move from small mindedness to ‘big mind’. We can move from a base-line consciousness to higher consciousness. To use a Christian metaphor ‘There are many houses in my father’s kingdom’. I’d encourage your correspondents to keep looking for one of those houses. As Bill advocates ‘counting our blessings’ is an essential upward movement. Self-pity to gratitude. Another is resentfulness to acceptance. And as I read in a Hazelden pamphlet many years ago day-dreaming and fantasing are symptomatic of resentfulness. Here again I agree with Bill’s assessment of much of that new-agey phsyco-babble. Stop any magical thinking and practice accepting life on life’s terms. Also useful practice is to stop trying to be a demigod. Figure out what’s your business, what’s not your (other’s) business and what might be “God’s” business. Start minding your own business, let others take responsibility for theirs and leave the rest to “God” and “Allah” and you’ll move from fear to trust. Finally practice more honesty with self and others. Combine these four shift’s of a spiritual recovery. Then the perceiver changes. As the perceiver changes the (experience of) world changes.

    Keep at it Bill (your doing a great job)

    Warm regards from Ireland
    Maurice Corrigan

  16. Acceptance

    Uneasy
    And uncertain
    Not knowing my role
    The strain of life taking its toll

    Imagining
    And daydreaming
    Yes, fantasising away
    Procrastination stealing the day

    Sitting
    And listening
    Quieting the mind
    Hoping for truth, truly to find

    “Truth”
    And uncertainty
    Being one and the same
    Accepting this the wisdom came

    Maurice Corrigan

  17. JohnN says :

    For Nicholas’ benefit, there are two sayings which come to mind:
    (1) Life is a journey, not a destination. and
    (2) Life is not a dress rehearsal.
    i am sure that if he perseveres with Holosync such thoughts will bother him less and less. Meantime, looking for the “seed” in his job-loss situation would be a good way of spending his thinking time.

  18. LOL…”repressed negativity”, I luv it! sounds like “stuff still coming up” for that Holosync user…

    an interesting parallel to that line of thought is the transformational modality described by Jed McKenna he calls “memento mori”. basically, remember your death. the idea is to keep the inevitability of your eventual death right out in front of you…helping you focus and make better decisions about what to do with your life remaining!

    Bill, I think you hit the nail right on the center when you allude to “it’s all about focus”. learning how to focus on what you want with increasing awareness…

    have fun with the “separateness” while you’re here people! you’ll be back to oneness soon enough…;-)

    Mtn Jim

    p.s. or is that nothingness? wink

  19. Richard Martin says :

    I’ve been meditating with Holosync for nearly 6 years (I’m on Purification Level 4).

    Lately, I’ve really started to become much more aware of my thinking and my thoughts, as they happen, or afterwards (sometimes right after). I would say it’s about 50 % during and 50% after.

    For instance, someone will say something to me, and I’ll realize that I’m insulted, or feeling insecure, or whatever. I’ll wait to respond or say something much more resourceful than what I would have before. I’m also seeing that about 99% of my thoughts are about me, what others think of me, what I think of me, etc. It’s all me, me, me.

    Rich

    FROM BILL: Oh, the humanity!

  20. Melissa H says :

    Bravo Bill, another excellent post!
    I’m just very glad the sun didn’t explode today…it was such a beautiful day here and I really enjoyed being out in the forest with my horse and friends. I think it is important to focus on the positive, on what we want – while being aware of the negative and learning from it. I just make sure I don’t dwell on bad stuff or feelings. We have to steer our ship the way we want it to go right? :)
    Namaste,
    Melissa
    ‘Follow your Bliss!’

    FROM BILL: Don’t be a negativity disowner!

  21. John Edwards says :

    Hi Bill,

    When I read the letter, I laughed, not at the writer but with the writer. I totally understand his mindset. i have been hit with more trains coming out of the “light at the end of the tunnel” than I care to think about. All goal setting and positive thinking meant to me was the opportunity to invite more pain into my life. Creating false expectations , getting smashed with disappointments. Ah life was fun. I did Bills online course and it blew me up so bad I must have been close to leaving the world. I was into about level 10 when I cut and run. I can see for many and certainly for me was “the reality is the reality” The only people madder than me were the ones trying to get me to change and “help Me”.

    Having said that I have nearly finished awakening level 4 and life in the last five months has suddenly changed. All the above is irrelevant now. I am relaxed about new and positive expectation happening in my life. Expectation does not seem to hurt me.

    I would be stunned if a train emerged from the tunnel. If it did I would handle it. I would probably laugh now and assk in a calm way well what do I need to do now.

    I am working towards a different reality and am calm about it.

    Now days I can see the hurt in other and accept where they are at. I know that there reality is there reality so I love them for it.

    So what happened. I never stopped listening to holysinc. Ever after two attempts to kill the dog!!!!!. And truly frightening mental images during the listening the the disks. Core shattering experiences. I was shaken to the core and had to fight to tell me self it ok keep going. I don’t understand it I just keep doing it. I have taken a huge leap of faith in Bill and his book “thresholds of the mind”.

    I made a commitment I would do it for five years, every day for an hour a day and see if there were any changes. Nothing else had worked and I wanted to give it a fair trial. I am into four years and there are good thing happening within me, so I have committed to another five years!!!!!

    The crazy violence and mental turmoil has nearly gone so I wonder what will be its replacement in the next five years.

    Thanks bill. To anyone who feels totally hopeless and lost don’t try and figure it out, just do the tape or disk daily. I takes time to be able to laugh at the holysinc moments but it will happen for you.

    As for the on line course I am going to have another go at it next year. See how much I have changed.

    Thanks for Bill and the team.

    FROM BILL: Holosync can certainly show you the demons you’ve disowned. Once you become aware enough that you can no longer dison them, they stop being demons.

    Then, of course, you’re still faced with the reality of the human condition. You don’t have to deal with (as much of) your own tormenting of yourself, though. Awareness is the solution to everything that has a solution (some aspects of the human condition don’t).

  22. Ron Golbeck says :

    Hi Bill
    It’s amazing how one’s attitude changes after listening to Holosync over a few years. I am at Purification Level 4. What a difference in my outlook and awareness. If this person listened to Holosync and gives it lots of time… faithfully listen daily, changes do happen. I call Cancer my greatest gift because I learned about maintaining a healthy body and mind. Mostly I learned how to quiet my mind. Without cancer I probably wouldn’t have started searching for a better way. Thanks for sharing and caring about people Bill.

  23. wewer says :

    I would offer this beautiful quote: “I have learned silence from the talkative; tolerance from the intolerant and kindness from the
    unkind. I should not be ungrateful to those teachers.” Kahlil Gibran

    And I would remind them both that the only path to true happiness is accepting reality. When we love what is, we grow in ways we never dreamed possible.

  24. Bill Harris says :

    FROM BILL: If I’d known that my post about not tolerating any more silly BS on this blog would have resulted in such a higher quality of comments–and so quickly–I would have drawn that line in the sand many months ago. Bravo to you all!

  25. Catherine says :

    So my helping of silly BS served a purpose, for this I am truly grateful. (Tounge in cheek!)

    Catherine

  26. John Edwards says :

    Well said Bill. I want to hear about real people in real situation dealing with real issues and problems. The hard thing for someone who was a damaged and dangerous as me i takes four years to be able to see how the whole process’s comes together. Then its the Ah!!! For me I had my wife of 30 yrs. to help and encourage me. ( we are on the same level) Now she has an an astonishing story with holysinc to)

    I don’t know how you could arrange it but I would have loved to hear about me and the issues and how they dissolved when I was starting out in the process. While many people look at it holosync as a addition for me it was desperate survival with absolutely no other options.

    I would have loved to talk to people, I could relate to at the level I was at. It may have may made the journey quicker. Especially the on line course which every one in the world should do. My reaction to it was my issue not the courses. It would have loved to hear form someone at that point that I could have related to.

    i am not talking about the one month participants but at least finished awakening or maybe the next level. That would weed out the navel gazers Some how private blogs etc.

    Anyway I have survived and growing so it worked out OK

  27. Sue says :

    Dear Bill, I was chugging along nicely- enjoying your teachings and realising that I had gone up a level or two in awareness. I could live in the moment and be grateful for my life.

    3 years ago a careless driver crashed into my car and tore a nerve in my neck. My dominant arm is now functionless and extremly painful from a winged scapula.

    I am still grieving the loss of my ability to live a full life. I have so few options, there is no cure. At most I can remain outside the house for 2 hours before I am forced to take the weight off my shoulder (scapula) by lying down.

    How can I move on from here? I am not grateful as so far no good has come out of this and I have lost so much, ability to work, independence and a pain free existance.

    I understand that in the big picture I am lucky to be alive and have not lost a loved one, except myself.

    I cannot afford your course. Sue South Australia

    FROM BILL: Sue, I don’t have a glib answer toyour situation. Being human is hard, and it’s harder for some than for others. Somone gave a lot of us the idea that this wasn’t the case, which makes the reality a rude shock.

    I do think, though, that there ARE benefits to your condition. Certainly you have a new compassion, I’ll bet, for those with chronic pain. Perhaps there’s something you can do with that compassion to help others. When I had shingles for about 6 months I was in constant pain, and it certain gave me a completely different perspect regarding those in constant pain. I have a problen with my hip that isn’t constant, but it doesn’t take much to get me into a few days of pain. Every person walking down the street, I’ve found, could tell a tale of what they’ve been though, and it’s rarely pretty.

    All that aside (knowing that others have their troubles doesn’t make the pain go away, I know), I’ll bet that if you set your mind to it you could make quite of list of benefits of your condition–people you’ve met as a result, adjustments you’ve made that have had positive consequences, ways your thinking has changed for the better, etc. See what you can come up with.

  28. Sharon says :

    Hi Bill,
    I am a little confused about the law of attraction (or positive thinking) when you are becoming aware of aspects in your life and seeing that they are not helpful. Like an aspect or the nature of a relationship that is not helpful but you don’t want to give up the relationship with the person because you love them. Can you use positive thinking, for example, that the relationship I want is healthy and focus only on that in the hope that the non helpful aspect/dynamic in that relationship will diminish or is this playing the game of denial and resistance to change?
    Thanks Sharon

    FROM BILL: Usually when you’re confused about something it’s a good clue that it might be bullshit, as most of this stuff about the Law of Attraction is.

    Relationship do not happen without conflict and problems. Stop expecting it. Every person is a combination of enjoyable, delightful qualities and annoying qualities (or worse). Go into a relationship with your eyes open, aware of the fact that it is what it is, CHOOSING to be in it. Sure, work to make it better, if you can. But accept that the idealized notion of a perfect “healthy” relationship isn’t going to happen.

    Sharon, to learn how you create the parts of your life, internally and externally, that you DO have a choice about, or control over, I suggest that you take my Life Principles Integration Process online courses. Though I’ve written blog articles about aspects of this, there’s way too much to teach in a blog.

    The “Law of Attraction”, the way it is usually taught, is magical thinking bullshit. You can’t control the universe with your mind. There are some things you do have control over, but most things you don’t. Awareness is what allows you to have a choice about those things you can control.

  29. ROSARIO [Italy] says :

    FROM BILL: I have no idea what that is. I would suggest that paying attention to your own life would be of much greater benefit.

    Dear BILL,
    you teach to WATCH
    1) how we feel
    2) how we behave
    3) which people and situations we attract or become attracted to
    4) what meanings we attach to what happens
    to become AWARE of these.

    Why not to WATCH AWARENESS itself
    to become AWARE of AWARENESS itself
    as nisargadatta, tolle, tom stone, and all nonduality teachers did ?

    It’s just CURIOSITY.
    Do you think is waste of time ?
    PLEASE let me know.
    THANK YOU.
    ROSARIO [Italy]

    P.S: I saw you have new roles on this blog, so before that I will act I prefer to ask you if is it possible or not.

    Can I insert on this blog the link (where all friends of this blog can download FREE) the BOOK of SAILOR BOB ADAMSON “PRESENCE AWARENESS” ?

  30. Matthew says :

    haha and you’re welcome for triggering that effect.

  31. Robert says :

    Hi to everyone,

    Great posts that that have brought forth Bill’s comments that have made the direction I’m traveling with Holosync more encouraging, clear, open, and brighter.

    Where there is awareness there is growth.

    Thanks to you all,
    Robert

  32. Shelby Robison says :

    I am very interested in all the comments on your experience, Nicholas, and perceptions about losing a job. My present awareness tells me that as much as there is benefit from learning to direct and discipline ones thinking so that the streaming of energies one attracts are “positive”, it seems that there is also an implied, though oft unexpressed longing, for a sense of living in a world one perceives as expressing values of caring and connectedness. Loss of a job can bring present , I believe, the sense that one has been cast out of a realm of relationships and tasks that were meaningful but driven mostly by core motives of economics as primary over individuals well-being.

    As I’ve come to value empathic connectedness and spiritual seeking more and more, I find myself desiring to live with the presence of compassion as the core and source of my understanding and experience of living.

    Perhaps there is some usefulness in looking at what would be of assistance to you, Nicholas, at this, a time in your life of feeling bereft and financially insecure. Exploring how you might sit in the midst of the feelings without judging them (in other words, I think lots of people are really inferring that moving beyond the ‘positive’ or ‘negative’ of your situation is a way forward–it’s a kind of teaching that some call “radical acceptance” or “mindfulness”); it’s not black and white or positive versus negative, but more a matter of re-Sourcing you and tuning into sensory experience, which we often miss when stressed. This could begin perhaps with naming what you value, perhaps also naming what you fear. It may also be a time to allow others to come closer to you as you recognize that support is a give and receive proposition . Exploring the qualities of your present experience is maybe more useful than trying to press too far forward to fast — it’s a big change! It could also be useful to seek guidance and support in your current environment. I also hear a lot of natural human emotions — .and wish you patience in your struggles. Here’s a small prayer, “May the longtime sun shine upon you, all Light surround you, and the Pure Love within you, guide your way on.”
    Shelby

  33. Heikki says :

    Bill, you are real leader. The best leader.

    It means,

    Not the leader who wants the followers as much as possible

    You make other people the leaders of themselves.

  34. michelle s says :

    Wow- Thanks to everyone who has written in. I’ve learned so much by reading and going over the high level responses- it helps to set off productive questions- as to how I can continue to learn,model and emulate.

    For Nicholas- I would add that even if you can’t see it and don’t feel like it- if you look for benefits they will appear- maybe being able to spend more time with the family, and with being so stressed about money allows you to see what you need and what you don’t. Is it your life or your lifestyle that you can’t continue? Also, continue with Holosync. Just do it- it has been 3 years for me this fall, and although I haven’t had any mystical experiences (only a side shoot anyways not the reason) I have increased awareness of myself- while realizing it’s still only tiny (although growing).-without it I can’t imagine where I would be.

    For Natasha- life is at moments transcendent-even in the everyday world of work and living-just a hum-even when things get ‘ugly’ can still take a breath and get there.

    For anyone debating the LPIP courses- they were worth more to me than a 4 year university degree in psychology- I am going through them for the 2nd time- and will continue to do so- until I get it-

    Thanks as well to John for your explanation -and how great for you!

    I appreciate all of the learning here- I feel like a kid in a candy store-Thanks!

  35. Chris Z says :

    A person’s name, life situation, memories, thoughts, feelings, motives, impulses, preferences, etc. are all impermanent. But what may not be impermanent is our Awareness, our ability to perceive. I can recall back to when I was a child and remember what is was like to be aware. So much has changed in my life and so many experiences have been accumulated (friends made/lost, cities visited, places lived in, etc.) since I was a child. My very identity has “died” and been “reborn” numerous times. However, I am still me. I am still aware. And I suspect that that Awareness will continue on after this world is over; after the “death” of my physical body. Life can be a fun ride when the principles of Mind are positively applied to achieve set goals and experience love. For me, it is even better when I contemplate on the likely chance that it won’t all be over one day; my awareness (me) will continue on. I’ve heard others state the even if it’s true, even if awareness does go on, that it doesn’t matter because the ego/personality will cease. As stated above, Identities “die” many times for most people throughout the human experience in a body. So to me, it does matter that Awareness may go on. Because I love to be aware….

  36. Elaine says :

    I’m a little confused, Bill, about “disowning negativity.”

    If I lost my job, was involved in a car crash, or my house went up in flames….how could I “disown” that?

    Why is “looking for the good in the situation” — as you recommend to Nicholas, for example — not consider disowning?

    I feel pretty good most of the time….I choose, for example, to trust that my daughter will find a job, rather than wallowing in the worry that she won’t. Is my choice to dwell on thoughts that make me feel good a way of “disowning the negativity?”

    I’ll sum up my question: What is the difference, of thought or action, between one who OWNS negativity, and one who DISowns negativity?

    Thanks for the Clarification!

    FROM BILL: Disowning something means that you are trying to get rid of it, push it out of your awareness, not acknowledge that it is a normal part of existance and cannot be escaped or gotten rid of. Those who disown negativity want to get rid of negativity, in themselves and in others, as if that were possible. When they see someone who is negative, it bugs them–because they have disowned it and seeing someone who is negative “reminds them” that this negativity (which they don’t want) exists.

    Because they have disowned it, though, it appears to be in the other person, not in them. The negativity that is a natural part of them (it exists in everyone) IS expressed–it can’t be gotten rid of–but because it’s disowned it’s expressed in dysfunctional, covert, and immature ways. Any human aspect that has been disowned will appear in ways that create suffering, for self and others.

    If the negativity is owned, it matures into something that is beneficial for self and others–discerning wisdom, for instance, or compassion for the human condition, and an acceptance that life necessarily contains what we want AND what we don’t want.

  37. John Edwards says :

    i really struggle with oneness and centered and positive thinking and all the other nice stuff. I wish I had so few problems going on in my life that I had the time and the mental state to put them towards these higher concepts. Thinking I found, does not do anything, doing does. “If you do enough it works out.”

    I remember I read an article on the centerpointe site where I was reading someone talking about spiritual development. They were talking about morning Meditation was a core. man I laughed. All I want from holysic is to raise the level of threshold to a point where I am safe to myself and safe to others. and if there is some money in it for me its a bonus. To me The rest is irreverent. I wonder if there are people like me out there that just want to get away from the crushing pain of having too low a threshold for our own good.

    I used to listen to my CD first thing in the morning and eat my breakfast at the same time. The only two instruction Bill has,
    1) is to listen to the cd daily
    2) keep your eyes closed when I did it.
    OK I do that . My wife gives me breakfast while I listen to the CD and I eat it without opening my eyes. Hot arabic coffee and guess the taste of the rest. how is that for time efficient, and it gives me appreciation for the blind. I still have not figured out keeping my back straight sitting in bed balancing a cup of hot coffee with my eyes shut.

    I enjoy the benefits of my years of listening. I dont think about it. There are two many things going on in my life to spend thinking about what I dont have to think about.

    That what I love about Bills program, its totally practical and it works if you do it long enough. I was willing to do it for five years without making any judgment as to it effectiveness. This was to give enough time to see if it worked. I decided to put my brain in neutral and see what happened. So in doing, I am feeling better and often good, ( I can say in 5o yr I never felt better of good) What more could I want. I am miles in front on the deal after four years. What will it be like in 10 years, better I expect really good I hope..

    you talk about confusion there is nothing to be confused about. I pay for the next tapes I listen and things change. The problems I had when I started the new set goes away by the end of the set. So where is the problem? Good deal for everyone.

    FROM BILL: The directions also say to listen with eyes closed AS IN A MEDITATION, NOT WHILE DOING OTHER THINGS.

  38. Monika Sparham says :

    Dear Bill

    Your response to the letter from Nicholas was right on the mark.

    Yes, losing your job will take you into negative territory but it is your choice as to whether or not you stay there. The inevitability of death is really irrelevant when you’re talking about being alive and living life to the full. Your life is about what you do before you die, not that you will die.

    The only real reason for life after all is to grow and each experience had on this physical plane is for learning the lessons we came here to learn. The insights gained from these lessons lead us to greater awareness and awareness leads us to greater choice – the choice to move forward rather than sit still and wallow in the negative. Taking total responsibility for how your life goes and doing something about how it goes can be much harder than staying in that negative place blaming others for being imperfect or accepting that everything is impermanent. How do you grow from that place?

    One of my favourite sayings seems to be appropriate here – “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

    Try what Bill suggested, Nicholas, and see what comes of it. You might be pleasantly surprised. All of life is, after all, just a matter of perception.

    Monika

    FROM BILL: I appreciate your comments, but I have to make one point. I disagree that we are here to learn certain lessons. You’re adding this “meaning” to life. It is an IDEA about life, not something intrinsic to it. Yes, you may learn certain lessons during your life, but there’s no proof that life has any particular meaning. In fact, if there is a meaning (which, to me is like saying, “What do rocks mean?” or “What does air mean?”) no one knows, or will ever know, what it is. We don’t know why we’re here, where we came from, or where it’s all going.

    This gives humans a weird and unsettled feeling. To try to deal with that feeling they think up “meanings” and “reasons” and then attach them to life as if there were something other than ideas they are adding from the outside. There’s not one shred of proof for any of them. They are attempts to make their creators feel better about the totally unknown and incredibly weird situation we’re in. Coming to terms with this unknown nature of reality (giving up needing so “solve” the unsolvable) is wisdom, and creates great peace.

    Life is filled with paradox. Most people don’t like it. It seems like CONFLICT, which seems bad to them. So, they create good vs evil scenarios (where, ultimately, good will win), or say that we’re here to learn (then what?), or that there is some plan even if we don’t know what it is (again, then what?), etc.

    At a certain point of development, though, the spiritually mature person stops seeing all of this as a problem to be solved. Up to this point, you’re putting yourself in a double bind, where you set up an insoluble problem (such as, “find the meaning of life”) and then spend your life trying to solve that problem. This double bind (which is related to another popular double bind, that of trying to get rid of “bad” and make everything “good”) causes the chronic frustration almost every person feels. And, giving up the double bind–the unending attempt to solve an unsolvable problem) creates profound inner peace. (Other popular–though more minor–double binds include “Try to relax,” and “You must love me”–where people take something that is by nature must be spontaneous and try to force it to happen.)

    I will acknowledge that the assumption that there MUST be a “meaning” is a nearly universally unexamined premise. Many people believe it just because everyone else seems to believe it, so it must be true. Maybe if we told all children when they’re very small that “none of this means anything, it just ‘is’ “, then everyone could breathe a sigh of relief and get on with living.

    Swami Muktananda, a famous Hindu saint, used to say, “Life is a meaningless energy, going nowhere, for no reason.” This wasn’t negativity, however–Muktnanda was ecstatically blissed out. It was an acknowledgment of the unknowableness of reality.

  39. Terry says :

    Hello everyone,

    First – I cannot express how much education and pleasure I get from these blog posts and the responses they generate. They are a “course” in itself…and it’s free!

    Second – I will confess that I am a HUGE fan of positive thinking and even “magical thinking”. But that came to me only after starting on the path that lead me to Bill Harris, Holosync and the Life Principles courses. That was about three and a half years ago. Before that, I lived the first 50 plus years of my life in fear…of everything. I spent every bit of energy desparately moving away from the things I did not want. Somehow I must have (unknowingly) found a way to move towards what I wanted, because I have actually had a pretty successful life on the outside. Yet, I never knew that until recently because I was so focused on the negative and the pain inside.

    Third – Since discovering that I could actually have positive thoughts without being harmed by them I’ve gone hogwild with them. And, with Bill’s help and the Holosync meditation, I have been able to face that fear and acknowledge that it is a part of me. I’m still working on accepting the totalness of both the joy and the fear but I am lightyears ahead of where I was.

    My first two years of holosync were filled with overwhelm. With every new level I experienced huge breakdowns and would fall into uncontrolable sobbing fits followed by hysterical laughing moving back and forth from one to the other until I was exhausted. I felt like they lasted for hours but came to realize it was usually less than a minute. Now, I’m a 50 some year old guy who can barely remember the last time I cried about anything so this was a tough thing for me. But, because I saw dramatic improvments in my life within 3 months of starting Holosync, I was committed to continuing.

    I desparately “watched” the emotions and “let everything be okay” in order to subdue this repsonse. This went on for almost two years until I suddenly realized that, although I was thinking “this is okay” I wasn’t really aware of what I was doing to create this response. Here’s a case where “positive thinking” was not working. I wasn’t really LETTING it be okay. I remembered a talk I had earlier with a support person from Holosync who told me the watcher doesn’t do anything, it just watches.

    One day I suddenly realized that the overwhelm was about to happen. I never noticed before until it actually sarted. Instead of resisting it I let it come, let it overwhelm me, watched how it went from one extreme to the other, noticed where it came from and where it went to, felt the parts of my body that were invloved, became aware of my thoughts that I could die and that I could live. I watched as it became calm, felt the physical exhaustion, the release, the peace.

    The overwhelm hasn’t returned since.

    Don’t get the idea that I am all of sudden enlightened. I still have some distance to travel. But I now look forward to every step.

    Fourth – Well, I hadn’t meant to get into that but since I took the time to write it all down I’ll leave it. Back to positive thinking. With your support Bill and the Holosync meditation, I now can enjoy positive, and even magical, thinking while recognizing it for what it is. I can also face the realities of life better than I ever could over that first 50 years.

    In the past I could have written a very negative letter similar to the one Nicholas wrote. A practice I started was to write down my negative thoughts, then rewrite them using almost the exact words, but changing all the negative (away from) words to positive (toward) ones. Try that with Nicholas’ letter and see if it really isn’t saying what he truly wants instead for what he doesn’t want. This practice is so simple, even if you don’t believe the rewritten words. I think it’s similar to the list that Bill suggests. The more you do it the more you realize that Bill’s comment that you can CHOOSE your repsonse to life.

    Last – I follow other teachers as well Bill Harris and some of them encourage positive and magical thinking…it’s fun. But Bill’s teachings are fun also as well as deeply enlightening and life changing. If you possibly can somehow take advantage of his Life’s Principles offer, I strongly urge you to do so. I’m taking the level without the direct contact but, because I’ve followed Bill’s support material closely from the beginning, I’m not having any trouble following along. And this level is dirt cheap for the insight you will achieve if you do the homework. If you have difficulty dealing with the material that Bill covers in this Blog you may want to try the higher levels of support.

    If you are wondering what these courses involve it’s similar to what Bill covers in this blog, but to a much, much deeper level. I am constantly “blown away” (as Bill likes to say) with every lesson. I am filled with joy when, every two weeks, I get the e-mail that says my next lesson is available.

    This, by the way, is a totally unsolicited and very bias plug for Bill’s Life’s Principles course.

    I am extremely grateful to have found Bill Harris.

    FROM BILL: When a person has been traumatized enough, they so strongly disown the negative that the positive is also impossible, snce the two go together.

    I don’t know what your definition of “magical thinking is,” but my definition is a belief that the laws of nature, the laws of cause and effect, can somehow be suspended (usually by using your mind in some way–thinking the right thought, saying the right incantation, etc.). This is really just ignorance of how the universe works. Magical thinking of this sort was popular at a time when much less was known about the laws of nature. Not understanding the why and how of the world, people made up magical explanations. Those who learn how things work drop this sort of ineffective thinking.

    Finally, your experience around your overwhelm (“One day I suddenly realized that the overwhelm was about to happen. I never noticed before until it actually sarted. Instead of resisting it I let it come, let it overwhelm me, watched how it went from one extreme to the other, noticed where it came from and where it went to, felt the parts of my body that were invloved, became aware of my thoughts that I could die and that I could live. I watched as it became calm, felt the physical exhaustion, the release, the peace.”) is an excellent description of something I have said many time: you can’t keep doing something that doesn’t serve you AND do it with awareness. Once Holosync increased your awareness to the point the you could be overwhelmed WITH AWARENESS–where you see yoursel “do” it, as you do it–it falls away (unless, for some reason, it serves you). Good job.

  40. Lynn says :

    That first guy — the one with the “glass is half empty” attitude — if the train is going somewhere he doesn’t want to go, what’s he doing on it? Here’s a quote from one of my friends:

    “Life is short,
    Break the rules,
    Forgive quickly,
    Kiss slowly,
    Love truly,
    …Laugh uncontrollably,
    And never regret anything that made you smile.

    Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we might as well
    dance….”

  41. John Edwards says :

    Way to go Terry, Thats a real positive thinking attitude. Overcoming and being a role model for others following you. I know the outcome for me is inevitable and I am close behind you so it pumped me up to realize how close I am.

    There Bill that’s what you have created restoring damaged people. More power and wealth to you. More stories please from the over-comers.

  42. Matthew says :

    Sorry if this was already addressed. I recall during your webTV seminar that you said that – and I’m paraphrasing here so correct me where I’m wrong – that ‘trying’ to focus on what you want only gives power to and reinforces what it is that you don’t want; it aggrivates what you don’t want and the more it’s aggrivated the more you focus on that and the more you naturally would create that – what you don’t want.

    So, then, what DO you focus on? Obviously you’re not emphasizing a do nothing laissez-faire approach. If I recall correctly, you said that the key here is awareness and that awareness helps create choice. Ok, that’s great, but what do you do on a mechanical level? Or are you simply saying that you should continue to focus on what you want, but emphasizing that awareness is the key to “taking the edge” off of what you don’t want (ie the issue you’re having difficulty with [disowned aspect(s)])?

    Because at first glance it looks like you can’t actually do anything and it goes against what you’ve always said about creating what it is that you want by focusing on what it is that you want.

    Sorry if I’m missing some aspects here, which I’m sure I am. Please clarify.

    FROM BILL: This is too big of a topic to address in a short answer here. I would suggest reading the last dozen blog or articles I’ve written for a more complete answer–or, better yet, take my Life Principles Integration Process online courses, which you can preview at http://www.centerpointe.com/life/preview.

    Here, though, in a nutshell, is the answer to your question:

    There are things that you see as a danger, or at least a potential danger. This is made worse when we suffer trauma while growing up. When something reminds us of the potential danger we tend to focus on avoiding it. This is what I mean by focusing on what you don’t want. If someone tells you that this is a bad idea, and that your mind tends to create or attract more of what you focus on, you might decide to intentionally change your focus to what you DO want.

    However, this doesn’t change the fact that whatever-it-is-out-there seems like a danger to you. So focusing on what you want, when there is an underlying sense of danger, almost instantly reminds you of the danger, and your attention pretty quickly returns to your original agenda of avoiding the danger.

    If there really is a danger, in that moment, this might not be a bad thing (though focusing on being SAFE is always better than focusing on NOT BEING IN DANGER–and they ARE different). However, most of the time there isn’t any real danger NOW. Instead, something just reminds you of a past danger.

    What does work to get rid of the automatic bad feelings created by focusing on what you don’t want is AWARENESS. When I say awareness I mean, in this case, focusing on what you don’t want, but seeing yourself do it, while you do it, and also seeing the consequences of doing. Instead of trying to change your focus, you see yourself focusing on what you don’t want, and you see the consequences YOU are creating (bad feelings, etc) by doing so.

    When you do this–focus on what you don’t want–with awareness, if it doesn’t serve you, you just can’t keep doing it. ANYTHING you do with awareness falls away if it doesn’t serve you. You just can’t see that YOU are creating bad feelings (or anything else), as you do it, and keep doing it. This doesn’t mean that you KNOW you’re doing it. Knowing is the boobie prize. You have to watch yourself do it, and see the consequences, as you do it.

    Awareness creates choice, and you will always choose what serves you. If continuing to do whatever you’re doing serves you, you’ll keep doing it. If it doesn’t, it becomes VERY difficult to keep doing it.

    I’ve written about this in much more detail in other blog posts.

  43. Matthew says :

    Also similar to the above, moving away vs moving towards. You’ve given the example of “I want a reliable car” as an example numerous times and say how it wouldn’t even be an issue if you weren’t focusing on how you don’t want a car that breaks down.

    So, then, what WOULD that belief be? Would the belief change? Would the belief stay the same, but the internal represenations surrounding it change? ie changing from creating internal pictures of a car that breaks down to pictures of a car that doesn’t break down. What specifically is the shift? I understand you’re saying that it’s a moving away belief under the guise of positive thinking. But, then, what specifically changes? I’m talking about the mechanics/tactic, not the general theory. I understand the general theory.

    “I want a reliable car” (while picturing a reliable car) ? How do I create a reliable car? What do I do inside?

    FROM BILL: What changes are the actual internal representations you make. Focusing on something = making internal representations of it (internal pictures, internal dialog, etc.). The mind takes whatever you focus on (especially if you do it repeatedly, and even more especially if you have a lot of strong emotions as you do it) as an instruction to create or attract more of it.

  44. Rita says :

    As Mr Magorium says: “I’m not asking you not to be sad, just to rise, rise to the occasion of your life”
    The peace carried within reflects on my surroundings constantly. For this I am deeply grateful Bill. Words are really inadequate . . .

  45. Dave Anderson says :

    Hi Bill,

    I liked your answer to the first letter. I must say that it is difficult to really do what you did following that lawsuit and this gentleman’s job loss. Somehow we must all really believe that things happen for a reason and the reason is often something we are doing for or to ourselves. That’s a hard thing to accept and I have delayed doing it in my own situation.

    Thanks for the blog. I will now start using the course and continue with my daily (sometimes skipped for time reasons) Holosync cd’s.

    thanks for your email,
    Dave

    FROM BILL: I don’t think things happen for a reason. I think people LOOK for a reason, but if they “find” one it’s added my their mind. There is no intrinsic reason for anything, IMO.

    I do think, however, that when something happens, there are many possible consequences. Some involve what you want and others involve what you don’t want. Which ones you experience has a lot to do with what you focus your attention on (as does much of what happens in life). If you focus your attention on the possible positive outcomes, you’ll be more likely to see them (as opposed to failing to notice them). You’ll also get ideas about how to make them happen, and you’ll act in ways that nurture them into existence. Quite often, if necessary, you’ll also develop the personal qualities that help you make them happen.

    In fact, contrary to what you say about it being difficult to do what I’m suggesting, it’s actually the easiest thing in the world. You just do it. You sit down and you ask yourself, “What are the potential benefits of this having happened?” When you pose this question, you begin to get ideas, which lead to more ideas. When I did this with getting sued for $1 million, I eventually thought of 65 possible benefits. When I first posed the question, I couldn’t think of more than one (that I would certainly learn a lot about the legal system).

    And, as far as I can remember (I unfortunately lost that particular list) they all happened. I make such lists (usually mentally these days) whenever something major happens that I don’t like. Not only is it easy, it works. It shifts my thinking and my emotions, and it makes it more likely that what I want, instead of what I don’t want, will happen. Having not done it, you are just assuming that it’s difficult.

  46. Matthew says :

    I think you missed my point. Probably because you went into”automatic respond mode” due to your hundreds of interactions with people in answering this question in the past. I probably could
    have given the same answer, honestly. But, I appreciate you taking the time to write all of that.

    My specific point was “focus on what you want. Do this every chance you get. The current will be strong and swift. Let that be ok. Every time you notice your attention drifting back towards what you don’t want, immediately shift it towards what you do want. etc etc etc etc” vs “Actually, focusing on what you want only reinforces what you don’t want. So the key is awareness. Awareness creates choice. You’ll choose what serves you every time, when you’re aware; And “Instead of trying to change your focus, you see yourself focusing on what you don’t want, and you see the consequences YOU are creating (bad feelings, etc) by doing so.

    Hopefully that communicated more clearly a bluntly. Obviously you can see the conflicting ideas here. So, address THAT.

    Personally what I would deduce from this is that one should continue to move towards what one wants, but do so with awareness. As opposed to watching your behavior only and waiting for things to fall away and make make healthy decisions automatically. It’s like Effort vs No Effort and I feel that combing the two is wisest; moving towards what you want with awareness.

    I could talk about several other aspects of these principals – such as where they apply strategically and tactically – and perhaps that’s where the differences in views come from. For example dropping an unhealthy habit vs creating something new in your life. But, I’ll let YOU tell ME.

    As far as my question goes about moving away vs moving towards goes; Perfect. Got it. Thanks.

    FROM BILL: I am NOT saying that you “should” move toward what you want, and do it as much as you can. DECIDING to move toward what you want (“focus on what you want every chance you get”) doesn’t work if there is an underlying feeling of danger, which is what would keep a person from moving toward what they want naturally, all the time.

    What allows a person to get rid of that sense of danger, which pulls their attention to what they don’t want, is to watch themselves focus on what they don’t want with awareness. Changing your focus to what you want every time you notice you’re focusing on what you don’t want doesn’t work except in the most superficial of situations (ie, where the sense of danger is minor). This is not about making a decision to focus on what you want. You’ll either do that naturally, if there is no sense of danger, or you won’t do it because there is. If there is a sense of danger, you will focus on what you don’t want, and using will power to change your focus doesn’t work. What works is watching with awareness, which causes you to really see that there is no danger in that moment. Once you really see that, you stop focusing on what you don’t want, but it happens naturally. Whatever you’re doing, if you do it with awareness (seeing how you create it, as you do it, including seeing the consequences), whatever part of it that doesn’t serve you will fall away.

  47. Christin says :

    ” … we can no longer afford to throw away even one ‘unimportant’ day by not noticing the wonder of it all. We have to be willing to discover and then appreciate the authentic moments of happiness available to all of us every day.”

    — Sarah Ban Breathnach

  48. Jeff says :

    I addition to your comments regarding the Human Condition and making a list of the benefits from a bad situation, I have also learned one through the years that has been successful for me.

    It is best to have already given some thought about what you want out of life and the direction you are going. When the storm hits such as a law suit or losing your job or any other of lifes challenges, I find it best to stay focused on what you want. “Eyes on the prize”. It seems to me that when you have one of these situations come up it generates so much ransom energy and everyone involved is running around like the chicken with it’s head cut off. Because of the confusion it generates, it makes it very difficult to focus. If you have a plan in place and you can focus on it, the energy seems to be directed towards what direction you are going and you get what you want. If you muck around in confusion then things tend to implode on you. Any plan is better than no plan in this case.

  49. Matthew says :

    Then your position has changed

    From:

    “After you’ve sorted out the things you habitually focus on that you do not want, and know what you do want, you have to begin to notice each time you think about an outcome you do not want, and consciously change your thinking, right in that moment, so you are instead focusing on what you do want.”

    To:

    “What does work to get rid of the automatic bad feelings created by focusing on what you don’t want is AWARENESS. When I say awareness I mean, in this case, focusing on what you don’t want, but seeing yourself do it, while you do it, and also seeing the consequences of doing. Instead of trying to change your focus, you see yourself focusing on what you don’t want, and you see the consequences YOU are creating (bad feelings, etc) by doing so.”

    Correct?

    Personally I would disagree with that switch and instead get clear about what I do want and make an effort to focus on it — but to do so with as much awareness as I can. Because, as you said, it’s the awareness that will allow me to focus on it and create it to begin with (by healing the unresourceful stuff).

    FROM BILL: Yes, I have changed my position, though I changed it a long time ago. I don’t think you get what I mean by awareness. Awareness does not “allow you to focus on something.” You usually focus on things OUTSIDE your awareness, which is how you can focus on things that create outcomes you don’t want. It’s when you watch the focusing, which is happening automatically, that whatever aspect of it that doesn’t serve you falls away.

    I’m not against deciding what you want. I’m all for it. Intention, however, is not focusing (though in involves focusing). An intention to have enough money, for instance, could involve focusing on having money or not being poor, and the two are very different. If being poor feels like a serious danger to you because of certain traumatic experiences you’ve had during childhood, you can intend to have money all you want, but you will automatically make internal representations of avoiding being poor. No matter how much you “intend” to change your focus back to what you want, it will return to avoiding danger.

    The only way to change this automatical focusing on what you don’t want is to watch yourself do it, as you do it, and to see, again as you do it, the consequences: bad feelings, self-sabotaging behaviors, being unconsciously attracted to people and situations that allow you to end up poor, and attributing certain meanings to what happens, which (again) help you be poor.

    If you’re dealing with some sort of mundane situation, where you have no sense of possible danger, sure, then you can easily focus on what you want. In fact, dealing with focusing on what you don’t want isn’t even an issue in that scenario. But if you have been traumatized, and are afraid of some danger, your intention to focus on what you want is nowhere near as strong as your desire to escape the danger. And, the whole thing will be happening outside your awareness anyway.

    The kind of awareness I’m talking about takes a lot of work to attain, and a lot of practice to direct. It isn’t just knowing about something, and it isn’t the result of just deciding to be more aware. It’s the ability to actually see, as you do it, how you create 1) every feeling, 2) every behavior, 3) how you attract or become attracted to the people and situations in your life, and 4) how you attach certain meanings to the events of your life and what consequences those meanings create.

  50. Ganesh says :

    Hi Bill,

    I was wondering, maybe you could have a subscription (RSS) to your /comments/ section, as well. I’ve seen it done on some blogs. That would be cool as I, or others, could easily see whenever a new comment is posted, not just when you post a main article.

    FROM BILL: I think we do have that, but it’s not something I understand. Isn’t there something about it next to the posts?

  51. Matthew says :

    I understand what you’re saying and I agree that the desire to avoid danger (for whatever it is that is a significant issue for you) is going to be greater than your desire to change your focus to what you want. Definitely agree with that.

    I also understand what you mean by awareness. I agree with everything you said concerning awareness as well. And then some. There is a distinction between intellectual, cognitive awareness and conscious, seeing the whole process, awareness.

    I don’t think you’re giving me enough credit. In fact, that’s being modest on my part. I just wanted you to clarify between the aforementioned modes of operating.

    So, would you go as far as to say that focusing on what you want can actually hinder your awareness/healing/growth? I know you mentioned in your web tv seminar that doing so would actually cause that part of you that wants to avoid danger to become more aggravated. paraphrasing here.

    FROM BILL: Whatever you foucs on, your mind takes as something to create or attract more of. I’m not making a comment on whether focusing on what you want is good or bad. Focusing just is what it is–something that creates more of whatever you focus on. I’m merely saying that focusing on what you want isn’t so easy to do because of the fact that all people feel unsafe in some ways–some of them quite intense. Focusing on what you want in an area of life where you feel a sense of danger is pretty much impossible. In the areas where you don’t feel safe, no intention in necessary since you naturally focus on what you want in such situations.

    Intending to focus on what you want pretty is much impossible to do for more than a short time in areas where you feel unsafe. When you are awareness enough to watch how you create your life, as you do it, everything takes care of itself and all problems that can be solved are solved (there are many that can’t be solved). Why do something that doesn’t work very well when watching with awareness gives you maximum choice?

  52. catherine says :

    Making a list of the positives, as you suggest, is along similar lines to ‘the work’ of Byron Katie (?). You take a situation as in “I’ve lost my job isn’t life dreadful” and study that thought (inquire) to see if you can be really sure that it is true. You then turn the thought around to for instance “I’ve lost my job isn’t life great!” and then make a list of how the situation will be of benefit to you. There’s a bit more to it than that but the general theme is the same no?

    It sounds simplistic but it works if you follow it through. I’ve been very stuck in my thoughts for a few months now and have felt a huge release in tension from looking at things rationally again in this way.

    I realise that KB is stuck in a state of grace, but nevertheless her method of seeing reality goes very well with what you are saying here and is extremely ‘doable’ if you are stuck in a hole.

    Also the phrase ‘it was meant to be because it happened’ is a great one if you need to put things into perspective without attaching ideas.

    One question I have Bill. Can you ever intuitively know that something is true (ie I KNOW it’s true because I can FEEL it is) without proper inquiry?

    Feeling so much better.
    With thanks

    Catherine

    FROM BILL: I agree, though I don’t think anything was “meant to be.” That is an example of adding a meaning from the outside and assuming that the thing or event intrinsically “means something.”

    And, IMO, no one knows “what is true.” Everyone is guessing; no one will ever know what it’s all about, why we’re here, where all of this came from, or where it’s going. True spiritual maturity is being okay with the unknowable-ness of reality (while we still look for answers anyway because it’s fun, it’s interesting, and what else is there to do?). Certainly there are “facts,” such as Oxygen has 8 electrons, but when people start talking about “Truth” they’re BS-ing themselves.

  53. Matthew says :

    I’m talking about the space that is created BECAUSE of awareness. You say it’s automatic after that and whatever you want will happen automatically. I think it takes an active effort to direct your focus in a healthier fashion. Whether that be to ask different questions, create new symbols, ideas, concepts, pictures, sounds, feelings, scenarios, logic or whatever.

    It reminds me of the idea that you can never just drop anything unhealthy, cold turkey. That hardly ever works. You can only replace behavior with another behavior or one idea with another or whatever. At least that’s what I’ve noticed. But, even then, you say that’s automatic.

    Maybe there’s just a dispute on what we mean by automatic. Do you automatically drive a car? Yes, but obviously you’re not just sitting back and letting your body-mind do all the work like a robot. Same with reading. Or painting I guess. Or running.

    In the end, we’re saying the same thing, anyways. Because i’m not talking about focusing proactively by itself and you’re not talking about awareness by itself.

    FROM BILL: Well, I guess we disagree. I will say, in defense of my position, that I have been trying to teach people this stuff for over 30 years and I haven’t found a single person who can do what you are advocating, while anyone who is willing to practice can learn to do what I am suggesting. And, it works. I’m going to guess that what you are saying doesn’t come from years of personal investigation, but is rather an intellectual theory.

    I have no idea what “creating a space” means. Sounds like gobbltygook to me.

  54. Richard Martin says :

    Hi Bill,

    I’ve been reading a lot of the Stoics, specifically Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius. Have those writings been an influence on your thinking and development, or is it just that awareness leads to philosophical convergence?

    Rich

    FROM BILL: I have read them, but it has been a number of years ago. Though I have read lots of different philosophers and spiritual teachers over the years (starting when I was a teenager), it was really my own inner experiences that caused me to “get” what they were talking about. I thought I understood them, when my understanding was merely intellectual. Going back and reading again after the understanding had become more experiential caused me to say, “Ahh, so THAT’S what they were saying. I thought I understood this, but I really didn’t.” Intellectual understanding really doesn’t cut it. As I’ve said before, it would be like thinking you understood flying an airplane because you’d read books about flying, but had never flown, or that you understood Mexico from book but had never been there.

  55. Sam says :

    I think that actively attempting to cultivate an awareness practice is useful, and it is also useful to witness imperminence and recognize how things change of their own achord in due time and with pervasive focus on what one wants. I can for instance notice areas of life where I’m stuck and come up with practices to address those areas wherein I have trouble, for instance regarding problems in relationships or work situations at the office etc. If there is an area of life that isn’t working there is certainly a line of development that is underdeveloped and one can focus on that line and make particular emphasis on cultivating awareness in that line, and it’s very clear what action to take. For instance if I have problems connecting with people I might ask myself to speak internally to “the voice of the one who is good at relationships” by calling up an internal representation (picture for instance) of someone I know that is good at relationships; someone from television that looks good, for instance, who has those qualities I want. At a certain point in this process I find myself sink into the type of person I’ve selected because I feel a shift in my state wherein new resources are available to me, and I notice that the difficulty I had in relationships is greatly deminished (I no longer react to feelings in my stomach but rather to the situation at hand). This is a fairly new process to me however I think that the point is clear; look up method acting to get a clearer description.

    At any rate at this point–the point when one shifts from one “type” of awareness to another–it is possible that what Bill says is true: anything that doesn’t serve me (like for instance reacting and responding to feelings in my stomach rather than the actual situation) can no longer persist once observed with conscious awareness. If I switch to a confidant type of experience I no longer have to respond to those feelings because I am resourceful enough to deal with this situation and therefore the gnot or anxious feeling falls away to be replaced with a hearty feeling of confidence or pride or whatever. I believe that Matthew is right about there being some effort involved (if I understand the argument) because I can switch to “the one” who feels confident however I then have to go to the other side–the one who feels quite inadiquate in social situations–and pick up the feelings and perceptions of that self before I can stand between these two and hold them both in awareness: I have to hold the confident space as well as hold space for the volnerable part that might feel a bit shy in social situations so that the confidant one can bring the shy one out to play so to speak. There’s work to be done to ensure that the confidence becomes a stage of development–I am a confident person–rather than just a shift to a state experience–I feel very confident.

    Having confidence whenever you need it is a great thing, however having the desire to engage with life knowing that the confidence is there naturally is much better. If one is only interested in getting rid of the symptoms of anxiety for instance than it’s possible to shift to a more confident state and utilize this resource, however after some time one notices that often times what happens is symptom substitution and therefore no real change; I might act out of anger thinking that I’m confident to cover over my anxiety which, by the way, everyone notices because it’s fake.

  56. Sam says :

    By the way when are you doing that hypnosis show? Is it one you’ll be in live?

    FROM BILL: I have no idea what you’re talking about. Maybe someone hypnotized you.

  57. Matthew says :

    There isn’t necessarily anything to disagree about. As I said I don’t necessarily disagree, since what I’m saying includes what you’re saying anyways. I think your ‘automatic’ is my ‘intentional'[manual]. And really it can go back and forth anyways, depending on the situation, content and complexity.

    I think we’re saying the same thing, but from different angles. I also think you still think i’m saying that you need to focus on what you want intentionally in order to create change, period. I am not.

    To make it simple, it would be like choosing between eating chocolate for dinner or chicken if you want to be healthy. There is a process that takes place when you make that decision. What I’m saying is that taking the time to think about healthy food, is a manual process. That takes intention. And it sounded like you were saying you don’t have to go through that process in order to end up at “I’ll have chicken”.

    So, again, I think we’re saying the same thing, but each arbitrarily labeling “automatic” and “manual”. I’m not talking about will power, or mind over matter or anything like that.

    I hope that clarifies?

    FROM BILL: We aren’t saying the same thing.

  58. Johnny says :

    Bill,

    How did you change as a jazz musician as you progressed through Holosync?

    FROM BILL: I got better.

  59. ROSARIO [Italy] says :

    Dear BILL,
    with VOICES DIALOGUE process,
    the EGO becomes an AWARE EGO
    or
    is the AWARENESS that becomes AWARE of the EGO ?
    THANK YOU.
    ROSARIO [Italy]

    FROM BILL: This is useless intellectualizing. What difference does it make?

  60. ROSARIO [Italy] says :

    FROM BILL: I am NOT saying that you “should” move toward what you want, and do it as much as you can. DECIDING to move toward what you want (”focus on what you want every chance you get”) doesn’t work if there is an underlying feeling of danger, which is what would keep a person from moving toward what they want naturally, all the time. What allows a person to get rid of that sense of danger, which pulls their attention to what they don’t want, is to watch themselves focus on what they don’t want with awareness. Changing your focus to what you want every time you notice you’re focusing on what you don’t want doesn’t work except in the most superficial of situations (ie, where the sense of danger is minor). This is not about making a decision to focus on what you want. You’ll either do that naturally, if there is no sense of danger, or you won’t do it because there is. If there is a sense of danger, you will focus on what you don’t want, and using will power to change your focus doesn’t work. What works is watching with awareness, which causes you to really see that there is no danger in that moment. Once you really see that, you stop focusing on what you don’t want, but it happens naturally. Whatever you’re doing, if you do it with awareness (seeing how you create it, as you do it, including seeing the consequences), whatever part of it that doesn’t serve you will fall away.

    Dear BILL,
    What is WILLPOWER ?
    -DECIDE to CHOOSE “WHAT I WANT TO BE, HAVE, DO” is WILLPOWER ?
    -DECIDE to FOCUS ON “WHAT I WANT TO BE, HAVE, DO” is WILLPOWER ?
    -DECIDE to THINK “HOW CAN I …. ?” is WILLPOWER ?
    -DECIDE to TAKE MASSIVE ACTIONS TO MAKE IT HAPPEN is WILLPOWER ?
    THANK YOU.
    ROSARIO [Italy]

    P.S: What does it mean “moving toward what they want naturally” ?

    FROM BILL: See my previous answer to your previous question.

  61. Matthew says :

    Well we are, actually, but I don’t think you see my point. In fact, I know you don’t. For example setting goals or figuring out new character traits to adopt et al are a manual process. Adopting new behavior, new thoughts, a healthier perspective, different beliefs, filtering different information et al are more of what you’d call automated. Or a more definitive way to understand it would be that anything you don’t have information on, you do manually (because you have to figure that stuff out…obviously) and everything that you already have information on (to a satisfactory level anyways) you do automatically. Simple.

    If you don’t think we’re saying the same thing, that’s fine (I don’t really see how you could say that?). If you think all of that goes on automatically, that’s fine. In that case, you’re correct, we definitely disagree about that. At the very least it clears up that what you used to say is no longer what you say now.

    FROM BILL: I don’t think we’re saying the same thing, because I don’t think you fully get what I’m talking about yet. From your point of view it’s an idea I’m describing that doesn’t fully line up with your idea (or, you think we’re saying the same thing but in different words, which I don’t think is happening). To me, though, this isn’t an idea. It’s something I’ve lived at a very deep level, and have taught to other people–who, when they get it, have the same sort of shift I’ve had. At this point I would leave it alone in terms of trying to figure it out.

    In order to experience what I’m talking about you have to have enough awareness, which takes decades of meditation or at least 4-5 years of Holosync, plus probably a year (at least) of dedicated practice watching your internal processes until you can watch them in the way I describe and clearly see how what you do inside creates your life. I don’t know if you’ve done that work yet or not. And, there’s no benefit to getting your ego involved and thinking you have if you haven’t. And, maybe you have. All I have to go on are your posts, which, quite frankly, indicate that you are looking at this as one theory vs another and that you don’t really get what I mean by awareness. If you really got what I’m saying we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

    When you actually begin to see how your internal processes are creating how you feel, how you behave, which people and situations you attract or become attracted to, and what meanings you are assigning to the events around you IT IS UNMISTAKABLE. We would not be having this back and forth if you really were able to do this.

    My suggestion would be to drop this bantering and instead work on developing your awareness, by which I mean regular Holosync use and regular practice watching internal representations and the other parts of your Internal Map of Reality until you can clearly see how they are creating your experience of life. Not thinking about it, or mulling over your ideas about it, or theorizing about it, but just plain watching to see what you are doing inside and what is created as a result. Once you can really do that, what I’m saying will be as clear as glass to you. Until then, it’s just an idea you don’t agree with.

  62. Sam says :

    That would be an interesting challenge. You sent out an email a while ago about an upcoming hypnosis training with Jim Katsoulis called “truth about hypnosis” or something like that. I just wondered if you would do the training live or if he might play a recording of a call you’d done previously. No big deal; I just think that the study of socionomy and what people do under certain conditions is a great compendium for the hypnosis training. It seems that when we’re in a sort of trance we create our internal representations or create an internal movie of whatever we want (or whatever one is guided to experience by the hypnosis practicioner) and that this is good for practice.

    FROM BILL: I have nothing to do with this training other than endorsing it to those who want the benefits it provides.

  63. Matthew says :

    Sam, I exactly agree. “Intention” by itself is not very effective. That’s why awareness is integral to growth. Sometimes that intention happens naturally with no effort required, sometimes there’s a bit of an effort. But either way, it doesn’t matter, as long as you’re aware of the whole process and you see what you’re doing then you’ll integrate at the fastest pace that you can.

    That’s what I’ve gotten out of this whole exchange.

  64. catherine says :

    From my own experience I’ve found it is indeed as Bill says. As your awareness increases you get to see how you create your experience of life. When you actually witness yourself sabotaging your own health and happiness it has a very powerful effect! You do indeed seem to drop what isn’t serving you and gravitate automatically to what does. It isn’t like cold turkey at all. It is very healing and leaves you in bewilderment as to how you could have missed the obvious. It is also on going!

    Catherine

  65. Matthew says :

    I agree with the back and forth exchange. I’m over it. I agree with what you say about awareness. But apparently we disagree on how focusing takes place, in the context of awareness.

    Thank you for taking the time to write your replies. I appreciate them.

  66. Sam says :

    You said in the email that you are involved in the training.

    FROM BILL: I am not involved in any trainings.

  67. ROSARIO [Italy] says :

    FROM BILL: I am NOT saying that you “should” move toward what you want, and do it as much as you can. DECIDING to move toward what you want (”focus on what you want every chance you get”) doesn’t work if there is an underlying feeling of danger, which is what would keep a person from moving toward what they want naturally, all the time. What allows a person to get rid of that sense of danger, which pulls their attention to what they don’t want, is to watch themselves focus on what they don’t want with awareness. Changing your focus to what you want every time you notice you’re focusing on what you don’t want doesn’t work except in the most superficial of situations (ie, where the sense of danger is minor). This is not about making a decision to focus on what you want. You’ll either do that naturally, if there is no sense of danger, or you won’t do it because there is. If there is a sense of danger, you will focus on what you don’t want, and using will power to change your focus doesn’t work. What works is watching with awareness, which causes you to really see that there is no danger in that moment. Once you really see that, you stop focusing on what you don’t want, but it happens naturally. Whatever you’re doing, if you do it with awareness (seeing how you create it, as you do it, including seeing the consequences), whatever part of it that doesn’t serve you will fall away.

    Dear BILL,
    to GET WHAT we WANT to BE, HAVE and DO
    we have just WATCH to SEE HOW we CREATE
    1) every feeling
    2) every behavior
    3) how we attract or become attracted to the people and situations in our life
    4) how we attach certain meanings to the events of our life and what consequences those meanings create,
    and everything happens naturally
    or
    we have to use NLP, NAPOLEON HILL teaching, ect.
    (is that WILLPOWER ?)
    THANK YOU.
    ROSARIO [Italy]

    FROM BILL: Won’t it be interesting for you to investigate this question for yourself?

  68. Matthew says :

    “There’s enough difficulty in being being human without adding your resistance of those difficulties into the mix. Most human frustration and suffering isn’t the result of one’s circumstances, but rather of one’s response to those circumstances. That response is a choice, but you have to be aware enough to see it. [b]Then, once you see the choice, you have to exercise it.”[/b]

    So much for automatically focusing.

    FROM BILL: And, the exercising of it happens automatically, because the choice is so obvious that it becomes impossible to choose what doesn’t serve you.

    I’m not interested in going back and forth about this any further, however. I get how strongly yu need to be right about this. You are free to do your life in whatever way you like, so if you think what you are advocating works, do it your own way. I am not interested in arguing over this or that theory. Anyone who actually DOES what I’m talking about knows exactly what I am saying. The only way you could not understand is to be lost in intellectual land–and to have a strong need to be “right.” I’m trying to teach something here, which anyone can test for him or herself by doing it. I’m not interested in arguing about how many angels can dance on the head of a pin.

  69. nick says :

    Re: Ghislaine so…If I take the LPIP course and good things happen – then I can attribute it to the course…but if bad things happen then it’s my fault??? Am I getting this right?

    FROM BILL: You think that’s what I’ve said about those who take the LPIP courses? My, my. How did you get that idea?

    What I teach in these courses absolutely works, if you do it. If you are successful as a result of taking the courses it will be because a) what I ask you to do allows you to gain tremendous choice regarding 1) how you feel, 2) how you behave, 3) which people and situations you attract or become attracted to, and 4) which meanings you attribute to the events in your life; and b) because you did the work involved at internalizing (not learning ABOUT, but internalizing) the skills I’m teaching. Those who really commit to mastering these skills have huge positive changes.

    So, if I see someone who misses the point, or who just learns ABOUT the their internal processes, without learning to become aware of how they use them, then I owe it to them to point out why they aren’t succeeding (because they won’t if they just learn ABOUT the material).

    I’m not sure how Ghislaine comes into this, since she probably did as much as any student I’ve had since I started these courses in 2003 to really work on learning to observe her internal processes so she could see how she was creating her life. Because she did, her entire life changed. I’m not sure where you got the idea that I was taking credit for her success, or that any of this involves someone being at fault. I teach the information, show people how to master it. Some do, others don’t pay the price to really learn it. What can I do? I give as much support as I can, because I really want people to succeed. Ultimately, your life is up to you.

    If you experienced the kind of changes Ghislaine experienced, I doubt if you would be thinking I was trying to take credit. In fact, I keep reminding her that SHE DID IT, not me. Interesting that you would take this perspective on it, though.

  70. Catherine says :

    Before I voice a judgement about somebody or something, I ask myself “can I know if what I am thinking is really true?”
    The answer is almost always no. What I usually find is that I’m projecting my own doubts, fears or whatever it may be onto that person or event. I guess you could call it tunnel vision. Asking the question really works! wish I’d done it years ago but you live and learn.

    I would like to pick up on a comment you made earlier about nothing having any intrinsic meaning if I may. This was something that went in one ear and out the other for a good while but I understand now. In fact it seems to be the only logical conclusion to draw. Oddly it kind of takes the pressure off in a positive way. I still have a lot of work to do however as is obvious to you I’m sure!

    Having ironed out the main problems that brought me to holosync, I now find myself in a strange position. I finally get what you’re saying and how simple it is in truth, but knowing that I am still looking at reality with a distorted lense makes happiness elusive for me it seems. How can I be truly happy in this moment when I am deluded and I know it?

    FROM BILL: You can’t be happy and be deluded?

  71. Catherine says :

    I pressed submit by mistake on this highly sensitive iPad.
    I know the answer. With practice, patience and awareness. Being ok with things as they are. Any other insights? I want to get out of this ‘filling my time until I’m perfected’ mentality.

    Catherine

  72. Catherine says :

    Just to clarify, my definition of ‘perfected’ means able to see reality as it, not as in being perfect in the traditional sense of the word.

  73. Matthew says :

    haha, if you only knew. No, it’s a difference in view that we’ll never come to terms with. That’s clear as day now. Our minds think differently about things.

    I will say one thing though. LIFE happens automatically, when you really get down to it. It couldn’t be any other way.

  74. Sam says :

    ROSARIO: I noticed how in your post at one point you became a lot more clear in your articulation of what Bill is attempting to teach us: 1) every feeling 2) every behavior3) how we attract or become attracted to the people and situations in our life 4) how we attach certain meanings to the events of our life and what consequences those meanings create, and everything happens naturally. It seems that you were extra focused durring that part of the post, and I’d be willing to bet that there is a reason for this; I don’t know what it is but I found this interesting because I was more “attracted” to what you were saying when you were more clear (it made more sense to me thus I felt better about accepting it regardless).

    MATTHEW: I wonder if you might lay out for me clearly what your position is on awareness, namely what is seemingly in conflict with what Bill says? I’m not trying to stir up any conflict however it’s rare that someone goes against what Bill says from any position other than “I’m right and you’re wrong” which, in my oppinion, is more about being an activist for your side rather than trying to argue a position; I’m not saying that you’re doing that, but I know myself I’ve been drawn into arguments wherein I was more advocating my side because I felt it was under-represented [by the current establishment] rather than my having a useful point to contribute. Just because I can throw someone off balance due to my training in an Aikido-like big mind training doesn’t mean I have to do it to proove a point.

    BILL: Although I want to avoid being redundant would you consider doing the same? I’m not sure what the argument is–it seems to me that yall are arguing differing points of training–and I’d like to get what the fuss is all about (without fussing myself). I think it’s important.

    I think that debate is important, and far too many of us who use holosync have allowed this muscle to attrafee in lue of some sort of awareness that’s supposed to support us and help us get what we want. I think that awareness really appreciates human intelligence in that it rewards those who reach for it, and I’d appreciate seeing more true debate (for instance wherein I consciously choose to argue for the other person’s position because it stretches me cognitivly) rather than simple arguing back and forth, and I’d like to see examples of frivolous argument pointed out and dealt with. This is mostly for my own sake and my own lack of abilities regarding awareness, however I hope that others recognize that when where they are doesn’t work that it’s their own choice to be strong enough to push for where they want to be when the time comes –and certain individuals choices dictate that they’ll stay where they are in a little discomfort for a lifetime to avoid going through a lot of temporary discomfort to make their futures better. I know I’m one of the ones who doesn’t like a little bit of discomfort now (like in arguing in debate logically and following through on lines of reasoning) and I’m trying to engage more with seemingly uncomfortable situations so that I can handle more in my life and become more productive in getting what I want: I hope I’m not the only one.

  75. Richard Martin says :

    Sam,

    Your post makes no sense whatsoever, especially the last part, where I presume you’re addressing a question to Bill. Do you honestly think that all this dissection of Bill’s or anyone else’s words will get you any closer to awareness? Who cares if Bill said “the” instead of “a,” or “awareness” instead of “consciousness.” You need to stop blathering on about your pet theories and just try to learn something. Ask yourself why you feel it necessary to write such long posts that go nowhere.

    Rich

  76. Richard Martin says :

    Matthew,

    What are you trying to prove, that you’re somehow “better” or wiser than Bill?

    I have been studying (and applying) Bill’s teachings for 6 years, with major results. I come here because I want to learn as much as possible from him in terms of creating greater awareness and personal development. Other aspects of life, I might not agree with him, such as politics, economics, or whatever. But in the area of development and growth, he is a mentor for me and I defer to his teaching and experience. If something he says doesn’t correspond to my thinking, I try to see WHY that is, rather than come back with my own speculations.

    Rich

  77. Sam says :

    Matthew: I don’t agree on the universe being on an automatic mode. I think that true Buddhists would say that the universe largely opperates under laws which seem automatic, and it’s the goal to get out of the world of automatic mode dictated by attachment and become free, but when you become free you realize something much deeper and more far-reaching than the universe of automatic mode and attachment. There are times when the Buddha is in the world and there are times when the Buddha is not present, and in the times of the Buddha being absent from the world there is a spiritual darkness; this is because the Buddha is the one true way and all others are bound for hell (I hope all can see the joke). I think that Bill is trying to help us to deal with the darkness and recognize that we can create this world any way we choose, including bringing the light of the Buddha–or awareness–into the world through our practice.

    I’d still like to hear what the argument is from both sides. I’m also curious if you two could tell me what you perceive the other person’s position is. This might be redundant but it might help to eliminate some of the bad feelings, and it would sure help me out a lot in my understanding.

    FROM BILL: Did the Buddhas tell you this recently, or a while ago?–Because I understand they’ve changes their position on this questions after the last Sinod of Buddhas.

  78. catherine says :

    FROM BILL: You can’t be happy and be deluded?

    Yes, but you know what I mean I think. I need to work on it.
    I also need a lie down after Sam’s post!

    FROM BILL: You’ve always been deluded, and you’ve been happy part of the time, so it must be possible to be happy and deluded.

  79. Catherine says :

    Dear Bill
    I wonder if you might lay out for me clearly what your position is on having a bad hair day? You see when I speak from the voice of confidence and my hair’s in a mess I kind of feel crap………..

    Seriously though just do the work that is being suggested and then you can speak from the voice of experience.

    When I began holosync 7years or so ago I had fallen into the abyss. I was anxious, nervous, highly emotional, smoking like a truck driver and relying on alcohol to relieve the symptoms. I had tried many different methods of self improvement including willpower, positive thinking and immersing myself in difficult situations to face my fears. None of it helped in fact I actually worsened. As my awareness increased using holsync those behaviours evaporated. It is automatic. Cognition is involved on reflection NOT at the time. Smoking became disgusting. The last cigarette I had all those years ago actually made me puke. Same for alcohol. Not a drop has passed my lips since NO WILLPOWER REQUIRED. I now see that I have a choice where as before it seemed out of my control but again that is on reflection, after the behaviour has fallen away. This is what happens when the nervous system reorganises at a higher level not when you make a

  80. Catherine says :

    ……….decision to eat salad or chips.
    Sorry, iPad malfunction again.

    Catherine

  81. Catherine says :

    May I just add that in those early years of holosync when huge improvements were taking place very rapidly, I had not read a single book, article in fact zilch about spirituality, awareness, the nature of reality and so on. I just stuck the headphones on and hoped for the best. I couldn’t have cared less, I just wanted to feel better.

  82. Sam says :

    I was told this quite some time ago before the downfall of the one buddha for the sake of the many Buddhas. Can you tell me what you witnessed at that time (you were there). Also thank the man who allowed me to enter this stream when you come upon him and give him my blessing.

    Richard: perhaps you could cool off a bit as well?

    FROM BILL: I wish I could be more gentle about this, Sam, but you are seriously full of shit. Most of what you say makes little or no sense.

  83. catherine says :

    FROM BILL: You’ve always been deluded, and you’ve been happy part of the time, so it must be possible to be happy and deluded.

    Yes but I didn’t know I was deluded before. Ignorance is bliss in some ways no?
    At least if you’re happy and deluded and don’t know it, that is. I feel a song coming on…if you’re happy and deluded clap your hands…….!

  84. Sam says :

    For once some honesty! That’s what I’m trying to get at. How could the buddhas change their positions on what you’ve termed a load of shit with the coming of the last sonada of buddhas? How can you proove that the whole nervana thing isn’t some sort of elaborate fiction? How can anyone ever articulate this state of nebana beyond the mind? What’s the practical value of any of it?

    Don’t try to be gentle; be successful at compassion.

    FROM BILL: Who gives a shit what “the Buddhas” think? I just said that they changed their positions because caring about “their position” is so stupid. If you want to find out about nirvana, it won’t be from what someone else said.

  85. Peter says :

    Bill, you said that a person needs at least 4-5 years of Holosync and at least a year of dedicated practice watching his or her internal processes to gain the level of awareness which is needed to clearly see how what they do inside create their life. I understand it and I’m willing to do that. I’ve been using Holosync for 2.5 years and I’m sure that it helps me to improve my life but some things in my life seem to be the same way no matter what I do. I know that I’m stuck. Somehow I believe (maybe hope is a better word) that going deeper into the program will help me to solve those problems. But I’ve got a question: what can I do if I know that I am sabotaging my life in countless ways but don’t have enough awareness yet to see how I do it? It’s so frustrating to live your life knowing that you are making it so complicated but not being able to change anything about it and what is more knowing that there is a way to do it.

    The biggest problem of mine is the lack of self-confidence and a belief that I’m not worthwhile. I’m almost 28 but I still live with my parents in their house because somehow I feel insecure in my life and I’ve always been afraid that I will not cope with life well. And these beliefs really are creating my life cause I constantly see that I’m proving that they are true (I don’t mean that I precisely see how I do it). On the conscious level I’d love to drop this shit and be free of it but unconsciously I’m so attached to it that I’d rather kill somebody then let it go. It’s crazy and it doesn’t make sense but it’s true.

    I’m also a participant in your on-line courses and I understand how my map of reality works and I can see some parts of it in action but it seems so complex to me that it’s overwhelming. I sometimes wonder how can I get motivated about learning this material if I’m not fully aware of how my motivation strategy works. And somehow when I think about your courses I feel unsafe again because it reminds me about my negative beliefs and all the other shit that I carry in my head. The deeper I go the more I see that I’m still an ignorant in this stuff… Can you say what do you think about it, please?

    FROM BILL: You don’t feel unsafe because of my courses, or because of your parents or what they’ve told you, or from any other outside cause. You feel unsafe because you make internal representations of what you don’t want. Observe yourself creating these bad feelings and you’ll probably drop them. Instead of thinking about motivation strategies, or beliefs, or whatever, watch what you do inside until you see how it creates your response to life.

    Also, give up this idea of getting rid of your problems. Problems never end. Being a human means one problem after another, no matter who you are. If you work on your awareness you can stop creating unnecessary problems for yourself, but there will be plenty of other problems you have no control over.

  86. Gloria says :

    Bill, Would you allow a link to a video which goes into some depth on the Principle of ‘Allowing whatever happens to be O.K?’ Sometimes a teaching coming through another means can strike a chord when the teaching has become a bit repetitive. http://www.adyashanti.org/cafedharma/index.php?file=video

  87. Alan H says :

    Hi Bill,

    I wanted to thank you for publishing this letter. I certainly can relate to Nicholas having just recently lost my job as well. Maybe its my use of Holosync ( moving to Awakening Level 2 in a few weeks) that has helped me, because I know that before I really would have resisted and gotten all pissed off that this was happening so suddenly. Instead, I made a promise to commit to Holosync back in January ’10 and give your advice a try, after all my ways weren’t working, and its really helping me through this.

    Sure not everything is perfect, or even the way I’d like it, but my response to it is more resourceful. Instead of fighting, I accepted what is and came up with a new idea to open my own business. I am currently training with my step-father, who is regarded as an expert in his field, and am picking his brain to achieve the results he is getting. Also, in a webcast that you made several months ago, you talked about the changing economy and how to better position yourself for the economic downturn. Well, I followed your advice and got out of debt and built up an emergency fund.

    There are ways to handle bad new like this, and focusing on the bad is really not that great. A year ago I would have been terrified to try and open my own business. Now it really feels possible, even if I havnt worked out all of the details quite yet. Thank you Bill

  88. ROSARIO [Italy] says :

    Dear BILL,
    after we have completed the HOLOSYNC programm,
    we will dissolve all underlying feeling of danger,
    which is what would keep us from moving toward what we want to be, have and do naturally
    and getting it ?
    THANK YOU.
    ROSARIO [Italy]

    FROM BILL: No, I don’t think so, because there IS danger in the world. You’re going to die, for one thing. And, there are many other potential dangers out there, and many people who will do things that cause you to get what you don’t want or fail to get what you do want. You may stop feeling a sense of danger where there is none, however, and you might relax about how much you NEED to get what you want.

  89. ROSARIO [Italy] says :

    FROM BILL: No, I don’t think so, because there IS danger in the world. You’re going to die, for one thing. And, there are many other potential dangers out there, and many people who will do things that cause you to get what you don’t want or fail to get what you do want. You may stop feeling a sense of danger where there is none, however, and you might relax about how much you NEED to get what you want.

    Dear BILL,
    with HOLOSYNC

    COULD HAPPEN TA-RIKI what you describe in course 2,
    KNOWING WHO WE REALLY ARE (ONE AWARENESS),
    and not what you describe in course 3 ?
    is that correct ?
    THANK YOU.
    ROSARIO [Italy]

    FROM BILL: I’m sorry, but I don’t understand the question.

  90. Sam says :

    I’ve never claimed anything on this blog that didn’t come from my own experience, and I have certainly not coppied the words of someone as substitute for my own in hopes of prooving my point; I’m not attempting to learn what nervana or anything else is by hearing what others say in hopes of repeating it to myself like a mantra until it sticks, or importing some foreign map of enlightenment to impress everyone. I appreciate your advice on the manner, and appreciate when you point out my doing so because it helps me get clear on what truth means for me, however in this last example I think you’re a bit off the mark.

    I have also not heard the Buddha speaking to me in some sort of other-worldly voice telling me these truths “I’ve” uncovered and I know full well I’m using an alegory when I speak of these things, and I also am aware of the pre-trans falacy and how readily one often gets caught up in it. I have at certain points also used Jungian philosophy to explain where I’m coming from–as with the man I asked you to give my blessing to–however this type of explanation probably doesn’t make sense unless you actually understand the idea of stream entry (a sense of humor also helps).

    I simply try to point out where I’m coming from to get an idea of where everyone else stands in relation to it, to see where I’m on course and where I’ve gone off course, and hold out hope that at least some people will check out what I say to see if it really makes sense for them or not. I’m looking very vigorously for points in my philosophy that don’t make sense and appreciate the feedback (I take heart from Stanislavski that I’ll figure it out with your help). I would hope that compassion is the order of the day on both sides and that we’re all reaching for some higher understanding (even if we learn only a little more about how what we believe isn’t always true). I must admit that it’s a bit difficult to take in feedback of the nature of “I have to lie down after that one” or “you’re full of shit” however I’ll keep working on it. Keep on living.

    FROM BILL: Forgive me, Sam, but your posts are a stream of IDEAS about spiritual matters, most of which have nothing to do with any spiritual experiences. You are so bound up in the world you’ve created in your head, your theories of this and that, and your conceptualizations of reality, that you’ve almost completely missed reality itself. I have to confess that I generally can’t even make it through most of your posts.

  91. Heikki says :

    Bill, lets move on!

    Let the airheads suffer ignorance. In real life main thing is not how you can learn more, its how you can remove harmful memes from your mind. (Holosync does it)

    So, it’s totally futile even speak/write to airheads.

    Because they unconsciously prefer to keep old memes in their mind.

    Like somebody have said in history, “you must clean your house first, then God can come in”.

    “God” is manitou, allah, higher power, bulibubu, whatever? The number of names of the list is endless.

    Pur3 cd3 now, what a life!!! And the story will continue even better and better.

  92. ROSARIO [Italy] says :

    Dear BILL,
    you have 2 products to help us:
    1. HOLOSYNC to create AWARENESS
    2. LPIP ONLINE COURSE to know WHERE DIRECT our AWARENESS

    This 2 products are not about to learn
    HOW we can get
    what we want to be, have and do,
    because THERE IS NO INDIVIDUAL DOER
    but
    it’s all about WATCHING
    to EXPAND our AWARENESS,
    to BE-EXPERIENCE WHO WE REALLY ARE,
    and AWAKE us from the ILLUSION
    of the SELF-VOICE-I-DOER
    that think that he can CONTROL, CHOOSE and DO
    what is HAPPENING SPONTANEOUSLY by ITSELF.
    Is that correct ?
    THANK YOU for your feedback.
    ROSARIO [Italy]

    FROM BILL: You don’t need an individual doer for there to be a “how”. There IS a doer, but it is the entire going-on-if-it all. It only seems like there are individual doers.

    Quit trying to figure this out. You can’t figure it out.

  93. Catherine says :

    Perhaps I needed a lie down because I found your post so profound Sam.
    You’ll never know. Maybe that’s the point.
    I think we are all ‘airheads’ to a degree which is why we’re still on this blog asking questions. What would be the point of posting a question if you were no longer ignorant? He who casts the first stone………….

  94. Peter says :

    Thanks for your reply Bill. I know that I’m probably thinking too much about it all and this thinking does not bring any resourceful results. I ask you such questions usually when I feel totally overwhelmed and everything looks hopeless. This times watching is the most difficult thing to do for me but I know it’s also the most helpful and I always try to do it. Luckily, I can admit that in my opinion I’m making progress in my watching practice because thanks to this for example my resistance to the outside events and the other people is lower now than it was before. And a couple months ago it seemed impossible to me. That’s a huge success for me! Thanks for being there and for your constant support.

  95. Sam says :

    The thing is that all I have are a bunch of ideas, and I want others to have the experience to help make the ideas fit. That is why I believe the spiritual teachings–Buddhist teachings, your second course etc–are those that they emphasise having the experience of. I believe that the spiritual teachings are the map and they’re looking for people who desire to experience the terretory; they don’t even know if some parts of the map are accurate, because nobody is willing to do the exploration and tell them how closely their map fits the terretory or where they can make corrections. There is the idea for instance of taking the chriticism on oneself that I might receive from other people and using it for enlightenment, for instance my deepening the chriticism from you about my posts into a space wherein I look to make improvements. In this teaching they talk a lot about how the person who chriticizes me is actually a wish-granting juel because you, in this case, help me fulfill my wish to make what I’m trying to explain make sense. I doubt very much that you feel to be a juel of the wish granting veriety or any other type, however I can understand how taking on what you say helps me make more sense; I have to “wish” to make more sense of all of this because it’s so impracticle that I’ll actually accomplish anything. I would have to do a practice like voice dialogue, speak from the voice of the inner chritic, and then take on what you’re telling me in a way that helps me chunk my map down more appropriately for the situation. I’d have to do the practice and, rather than do the practice, I buy out by believing in this wish-granting juel. Ironically there is also a space for this in the lam-rim because I understand that they expect silly spiritual people like me who need to actually do the practice to cultivate awareness. It doesn’t make any more sense to me than it does to you, however I have at least the capacity for faith that it will work out. I feel quite fraudulant in my spiritual understanding however I have to get clearly where I’m at before I can even think about where I want to be: are most other people doing that?

    FROM BILL: You THINK all you have is a bunch of ideas, because you are so absorbed in your map of reality. As a result, you completely miss the territory. There is no way to experience the territory when the map is in the way.

  96. nick says :

    What I was getting at in my post about Ghislaine is that I also took the LPIP course ( map of reality) and I wanted to make a change in my life. I wanted a better, more creative job, with more pay, in a better office with more opportunity. (My goal statement). I ended up with a crappier job, no increase in pay, less creative, and no opportunity. My point to you was some people have good things happen to them and others do not – regardless of whether or not you have taken LPIP. You printed her letter as an example of LPIP success did you not?

    FROM BILL: The purpose of the course is not to get a better job, or some other external positive change, though external changes almost always happen when the course material is mastered. The purpose of the course for you to clearly see HOW YOU create four crucial aspects of your life: 1) how your feel, 2) how you behave, 3) how you attract or become attracted to certain people and situations, and 4) how you assign certain meanings to what happens around you.

    Ghislaine did the work (or, rather, is in the processes of doing it) to learn to see how she is doing these four things. To the extent she has done this, she has gained choice over those four things. Before the course, she was also creating those four things, but the whole process was running on autopilot–as it is with nearly every human being, you included. Now, as a result of the work she’s done to become aware of how she creates these four things, she has more choice about them.

    That choice has caused her to stop doing a number of things that were causing her to feel bad a lot, to act in ways that created outcomes she didn’t want, to attract or be attracted to people and situations that caused outcomes she didn’t want, and to assign meanings to what was happening that made her unhappy or lead to negative outcomes. Because she better sees how she was creating what was happening in those four areas, she naturally has stopped doing a lot of it. The more she becomes aware of what she does to sabotage herself, the less she will continue to do it. Awareness creates choice, and once you have that choice, you always choose what serves you.

    If you aren’t experiencing that choice, it’s because you’re not yet aware of what you are doing to create those four things. That isn’t the fault of the my courses, but rather because you haven’t yet paid the price to get the results she has experienced.

    It isn’t the taking of the course that created the outcomes Ghislaine experienced. It was the work she did–the sincere and sometimes difficult work–to become more aware of how she was creating her life. This caused her to reap the substantial benefits that come to a person who increases her awareness of how she creates her experience of life.

    Being aware doesn’t, though, turn life into sunshine and lollipops. No matter how aware you are, the world is full of things that cause suffering. Suffering is built into the human condition. Seven billion other people are continuously taking actions, many of which may be at cross-purposes with what you want. Plenty of physical phenomena are happening that you have no control over–weather, the sun, geological events, gravity, cycles in the economy and in social mood, and so on. As a result, plenty of things happen to every person that they don’t want.

    So, as her life continues, Ghislaine will have plenty of things happen to her that she doesn’t like. She will, however–especially if she keeps working on her awareness of how she creates those four things–greatly reduce the amount of self-created suffering experiences by unconsciously creating bad feelings, acting in self-sabotaging ways, unconsciously attracting or be attracted to people and situations that lead to outcomes she doesn’t want, or assigning meanings to what happens around her that end up making her feel bad or lead to other negative outcomes.

    I would suggest that rather than crying about sour grapes you might consider actually paying to price so that you, too, can see how you’ve been creating those four things. That’s what you need to do: see HOW you do these things, as you do them. Once you can do that, you’ll experience your own version of what Ghislaine has experienced. Her greatest change has been inside, especially in how she feels about herself. When that changed, her outside changed, too.

  97. Sam says :

    Heikki: What are memes exactly? I’m one of those airheads whom should probably know that I’m carrying these things around with me so that I can either get them out of my head by force or by filling my head with something other than air. I need your help, buddy.

    FROM BILL: A meme is a conceptual unit, you might say, that is passed from one mind to another through writing, speech, gestures, etc. It’s often said that a meme is to culture as a gene is to biology. Societal values are memes. A belief in God is a meme. A belief in democracy is a meme. Hatred for those not like your own social group is a meme. Belief in global warming is a meme. A belief in enlightenment is a meme. A belief that a certain social group is oppressed, or that a certain social group is better than another, is a meme. The scientific method is a meme. The idea that government can and should solve your problems is a meme. That the free market is better than socialism is a meme. That socialism is better than the free market is a meme.

  98. Heikki says :

    Good explanation! Thanks Bill.

    To Sam, I got only one rule in my head.

    Its rule number 1.

    “There is no rules ”

    Fear and love grows when it use.

    Holosync helps me to make an active choice. Not anymore “reactive” (meme).

  99. Sam says :

    Do you think that it’s possible to speak from a certain aspect of our personality and consciously gain that meme’s positive effects while filtering out those effects that aren’t desireable? I’m thinking how cool it would be to have a Walt Disney meme active at certain times for creativity, but I’d have to choose consciously how I interact with this meme. I don’t believe that holosync “removes” the old memes but rather makes them inoperable within the new system that holosync affords the creation of, and perhaps that it’s more about awareness of how these things function unconsciously and consciously such that we can better choose the effects we want (and leave those effects that work just fine alone). The Disney meme might be a fun one however one must also engage in a practice for eliminating harmful shadow material: I had to create a script that makes sense in order for this to work and, as witnessed, I unfortunately rarely follow the script.

  100. nick says :

    here is a comment that you made to another participant:
    In order to experience what I’m talking about you have to have enough awareness, which takes decades of meditation or at least 4-5 years of Holosync, plus probably a year (at least) of dedicated practice watching your internal processes until you can watch them in the way I describe and clearly see how what you do inside creates your life. I don’t know if you’ve done that work yet or not. And, there’s no benefit to getting your ego involved and thinking you have if you haven’t.

    You’re right – I haven’t done decades of meditation or 4-5 years of Holosync. I have just been trying to get through the homework but some of the things you talk about I can’t get to work. Timeline, visualing images and playing with them, etc. When I email support (which sometimes I get no response at all) and other times when they just don’t answer my questions and I get some glib answer such as’ the reason you’re not getting results is that you believe you’re not getting results.’ And then they say I should pay Beverlee Taub for sessions. Unfortunately I don’t have that kind of money. You should have phone support for this course as the email process takes way too long.

    FROM BILL: What I’m suggesting you do takes practice. And, in the beginning you won’t be very good at it. I’m suggesting that you develop the kind of awareness that only a few human beings have. You CAN do this–and, it is SO worth it. Trust me on this. However, you have to go through a period where you aren’t very good at it, which is where you are now.

    You will eventually become skilled at ANYTHING you practice regularly. If you want to be good at it, you can’t just quit practicing because you aren’t able to do it well within a week or so. I understand that it’s discouraging to not be able to do something well in the beginning. I’ve learned to do a lot of things well in my life, and nearly every one of them began with a frustrating period of being incompetent.

    Most things that are really worth mastering are that way. If you wanted to learn to play the piano, you’d suck at first, and it would take a long time before you’d be able to play anything well. Learning to watch your internal processes is actually easier than learning to play the piano, though, in the sense that once you begin to get it, which doesn’t take THAT long, you begin to see results–you begin to see additional and quite tangible choices about certain things in your life–and once that starts to happen learning to be more skilled at it becomes much more compelling.

    My suggestion is to practice watching your internal representations (mostly your internal pictures and internal dialog) for 5 minutes or so three times a day: when you first wake up, when you turn out the light to go to sleep, and perhaps one other time during the day. Just pick something that happened during the day and think about it. Notice what internal pictures you make, and notice what you say to yourself about it. And, notice how your internal state (which includes your feelings) change as a result of the internal representations.

    You can also think of something you really want, notice the internal representations you make (and the internal state that is created), then think of something you strongly want to avoid, notice the internal representations you make (which will be of something you don’t want), and notice how your state changes (it will probably change to a negative state). Seeing how you create your internal state begins the process of having choice over them.

    Let it be okay that this watching isn’t easy at first. Just play with it a little bit every day and you’ll start noticing what you’re doing inside more and more. You’ll see ways you are sabotaging yourself by focusing on what you don’t want. As long as you do this outside your awareness, you can keep doing it, and keep creating bad feelings and negative out comes. Do it with awareness, though, and what doesn’t work falls away.

  101. Peter says :

    Sam, in my opinion you are totally lost in your thinking. I don’t understand most of your comments. You want to solve everything with your mind when most of the things you write about have no solution. Well, I’m partly that way too, but much less now than I was earlier. I recommend you to do what Bill is telling to all of us – watch and that’s enough. I also think a lot about improving my life but what I often realize is that thinking is not very resourceful. Watching makes life a lot easier and for me this watching becomes more and more natural as I go deeper into the Holosync program. I mean that I don’t have to force myself to do it usually, except when I’m overwhelmed (over my threshold) – then it is more difficult. I understand how it is to be attached to all your conceptions about life, but when you become more aware you will see that you don’t need many if not most of them.

  102. Kirby says :

    I have only been exposed to the Holosync Openings for a couple of months now. I did order the full program and anxiously wait for it to arrive!! So far, with all the things happening in my life (future divorce, Bankruptcy, possible loss of my home) I am doing relativel well with my daily meditations with Holosynce Dive!! If I am doing this well with the Openings, then watch out when the big dog arrives!! Thanks Bill for all you work and I also want to say that I listen the interviews with the “Masters of the Secret” series all the time!! Again, great job and I have learned to “let it be.”

  103. Erik says :

    Hi Bill,

    Great post as usual. I’ve been reading your blog for a few years now, but have never commented before. Even when I’ve had some questions they always seem to get answered by themselves if I keep an open mind(usually in a dozen or more different ways). This time however I have a question that I can’t figure out on my own.

    You say that our feelings(and behaviors ect.) are created by the internal representations we make, and as I understand, these representations are internal pictures(thoughts ect.). And unless we become aware enough these thoughts are automatically generated according to our Internal Map of Reality (or in other words our conditioning) and are at the same time a part of that Map. Am I right when I say that our Internal Map of Reality IS completely made up of internal representations?

    My real question is, what are those internal representations “leaning” on? What is their foundation? In other words, what is the foundation of our entire Internal Map of Reality?

    Just like when you build a house, you need a foundation. You can’t just lay bricks in the sky. These thought’s can’t just appear out of nowhere, can they? I’m not sure if my question makes sense or not because I’m feeling a bit confused right now…Anyway, I hope you can answer.

    Another thing…Because I’ve been working on my own website for the last couple of weeks and thought how far I could go with it, I’ve started to realize that there really are no limits to what an Internet entrepreneur can accomplish.

    That has led me to think about Centerpointe. And I wonder what you, Bill, could accomplish with Holosync and all your wisdom. What would it take for Centerpointe to become a billion dollar company? What if you could have your own group of brilliant scientists working constantly to improve Holosync(if that’s even possible) and create all sorts of cool technologies to add to it. What if LPIP would be taught in schools?

    Just a thought. :D

    Erik

    FROM BILL: Your internal representations are the building blocks of the rest of your Internal Map of Reality. Beliefs, for instance, are collections of internal representations about what you think is true. Values are collections of internal representations about what you think is important. All the other parts of your Internal Map are also constructed from internal represenations (internal pictures, sounds, kinesthetic sensations, smells, tastes, and internal dialog).

    Internal representations are really echoes of what your senses perceive. Internal pictures are either memories of what you saw, or internal constructions of what could be seen (which are based on what you have seen). You have a nervous system that learns how to interact, hopefully in an increasingly more resourceful way, with your environment. It does that by recording what comes in through your senses and storing it.

    Of course there is way too much coming in in each moment, so your nervous system sets up a protocol for what to keep, and what to filter out as being less relevant. How to do this filtering is also learned from experience. Any given person could have an excellent protocol, or an extremely poor one.

    You also learn to notice patterns, which causes you to make certain generalizations. Otherwise you’d have to learn what a chair is all over again every time you encountered one. This pattern recognition could also be extremely resourcefully carried out, or poorly carried out.

    Finally, your record of what came in through your senses is distored in many ways–your memories are faulty. This is partly the result of the filtering method, but also because once you believe something you will distort what comes in to fit the generalizations you’ve already made.

    Given all of that (and I’ve just skimmed the surface), your internal representations are echoes of sensory input that you use to navigate your way through life. An amoeba might be able to turn toward light or away from something toxic, but your nervous system is much more sophisticated and can create a much more complete and more helpful map. Still, it is faulty in an enormous number of ways.

    What I have discovered is that if you can learn to observe that map in action, and see how it creates certain aspects of your experience of life (what you feel, how you behave, which people and situations you attract or become attracted to, and what meanings you assign to what happens around you), you naturally stop doing the operations that don’t serve you. Many of the problems of life stop happening, or happen less because being aware of how you are creating them, you choose not to. Prior to this awareness, there is no choice because the creation of these things is happening automatically, outside your awareness.

    Then there are all the things that you don’t have choice about, because you don’t create them. You might have something to do with whether you place yourself in their path, and awareness of how you do that will keep some of this from affecting you. But many things are outside your control. I’ve summarized these things into two categories, cause and effect and impermanence, which I won’t go into here because I’ve written extensively about them already.

    The basic answer to your question, though, is that internal representations don’t just happen out of thin air. They are attempts to record what comes in through your senses so you can better natigate your way through life.

  104. Raoul Nanda says :

    Bill, I notice a shift in your tone the last few days, and I appreciate it. And thank you for promoting binaural beats to the world, its definitely part of the solution as we all try to work through the challenges that we face as a global community.

    FROM BILL: I will explain my “tone”–among other things–in Part 3.

  105. Seamus says :

    It is funny when people do not like the truth about discerning information. I posted on this blog and was edited out. I was not even critical of Bill philosophy. I only stated that this diatribe is nothing more than Bill’s opinion.

    Much Love
    Seamus

    FROM BILL: But that isn’t even remotely close to being true. It’s not “opinion” and it didn’t come to me. It’s not truth that I don’t like, but rather ridiculous statements like the one you made that add nothing to the discussion.

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