1. Welcome to Issue #170 (March 2007) of MIND CHATTER, the e-mail newsletter of Centerpointe Research Institute: http://www.centerpointe.com. Mind Chatter is published once a month, on or about the 16th of each month. Please send Mind Chatter to a friend, and please send us your questions, comments, and suggestions. If this issue has been forwarded to you, and you'd like to subscribe to Mind Chatter, visit http://www.centerpointe.com/newsletter. To view Mind Chatter archives, visit http://www.centerpointe.com/newsletter/archives.php ................................................................................ 2. If you would like to unsubscribe, you can manage your account via the link at the end of this newsletter. (But please don't. We like you and we want you to stay.) ................................................................................ 3. In This Issue // MindQuotes (scroll to #5) // A few recommendations that may benefit you (scroll to item #6) // Feature Article Two Parts of The Secret No One Talks About-- And Why The Secret Won't Work Without Them by Bill Harris, Director (scroll to item #7) // Participant Letters (scroll to #8) // Life Principles In Practice (scroll to #9) // Coach's Corner (scroll to #10) Welcome to our new feature, where each month a Centerpointe Support Coach shares their personal experiences with books that have inspired them, life-changing coaching experiences, and other information we're sure you'll find enlightening and enriching. This month, we hope you'll enjoy: What's in Your Toolbox? an Interview with Support Coach Laura Brewster by Kate Sparks ................................................................................ 4. MIND CHATTER contains articles about: // How you create your life--and how you can stop unconsciously creating experiences and outcomes you do not want, and instead begin to create exactly what you do want // Personal and spiritual growth in general // Meditation (high--and low-tech) // Recovery from emotional trauma // Pretty much any other subject I get excited about and want to write about. After all, it's my company and my newsletter, and I can do whatever I want with it. So there. ................................................................................ 5. Mind Quotes In the final analysis, the questions of why bad things happen to good people transmutes itself into some very different questions, no longer asking why something happened, but asking how we will respond, what we intend to do now that it happened. --Pierre Teilhard de Chardin I believe that one defines oneself by reinvention. To not be like your parents. To not be like your friends. To be yourself. To cut yourself out of stone. --Henry Rollins Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? --Mary Oliver A rooster crows only when it sees the light. Put him in the dark and he'll never crow. I have seen the light and I'm crowing. --Muhammed Ali ................................................................................ 6. Free Online Course! Now YOU can become A Master Of The Secret! This Free Online Course, featuring 7 stars from The Secret, reveals how to use The Secret to Create ANYTHING you want in life. You've seen it on Oprah...You've seen it on Larry King...You've seen it on Ellen DeGeneres...You've seen it on Montel... And now you can get the inside scoop on the hottest phenomenon out thereright here on your computer. Go to www.themastersofthesecret.com and enroll in The Masters Of The Secret With Bill Harris right now. This hot new online course reveals the most powerful concepts and real-world practical information about how to implement The Secret in your life. You'll learn all about The Secret from Jack Canfield, Lisa Nichols, Michael Beckwith, James Ray, Hale Dwoskin, John Assaraf, Joe Vitale, and (of course), Bill Harris. This is your chance to learn the important (make that critical) points that many of the teachers didn't get a chance to explain in The Secret. In fact, in one lesson Bill reveals two amazing concepts that are virtually required to make The Secret work for youand you won't find them anywhere else. Remember, this amazing online course won't cost you a dime. It's absolutely FREE to all Mind Chatter subscribers. So, register now using the easy one-step form. Learn The Law of Attraction Directly from the Stars of The Secret A powerful online course like The Masters of The Secret with Bill Harris would normally sell for $79.95 or more, but I don't want a financial barrier (no matter how small) to get in the way of you being able to use The Secret in your life. So, I've decided to allow as many people as our computer systems can handle to participate in The Masters Of The Secret With Bill Harris absolutely FREE. Just go to: www.themastersofthesecret.com to register. But do it now before we reach the maximum capacity of our system. Don't miss your opportunity to master the secret to creating incredible happiness, inner peace, and personal success. Go to www.themastersofthesecret.com and register now. As you'll soon discover, this course is unlike anything else you've ever experienced. You'll enjoy seven weekly lessons, each featuring an unedited, spontaneous conversation between me and one of my Secret co-stars as we show you exactly how to apply the Law of Attraction to your life. And of course, you'll also get the bonus call where I explain what you absolutely must know in order to make The Secret work for you. So go to www.themastersofthesecret.com and register using the easy one-step form. Harness the Law of Attraction to Improve Your Life Right Now! Throughout these seven easy-to-understand and easy-to-use lessons you'll learn first hand how The Law of Attraction impacts your personal growth, spirituality, prosperity and success. You'll also learn how to... * Master the Law of Attraction & apply it to your life right now... * Focus your mind with laser-beam intensity so you can achieve any goal... * Turn any adversity into an even greater success... * Find out who you are and answer the age-old question "what's it all about?" * Understand what self-sabotage is & how to stop it instantly... * Tap the hidden reservoir of positive energy that surrounds us all... So, don't delay, go to www.themastersofthesecret.com and register using the easy one-step form. We've already had over 80,000 people enroll in this exciting course. I don't know how many more our system can handle, but once it's full, enrollment will be closed. Don't wait until it's too late, go to www.themastersofthesecret.com and register now. ................................................................................ 7. Feature Article Two Parts of The Secret No One Talks About-- and Why The Secret Won't Work Without Them By Bill Harris Unless you've been living in a cave, you've heard of the hit DVD movie, The Secret, which I was fortunate enough to have participated in. The Secret has developed into quite a phenomenon. Many of the teachers who appeared in it have appeared on Oprah! and Larry King Live, and several other national television programs. Hundreds of thousands of people have watched the DVD, and those who have are hungry for information on how to implement what many people call the Law of Attraction. This month I want to share my take on The Secret and the Law of Attraction, and talk about what you can do to put these principles into action in your own life. As powerful as The Secret is, there are a few things--a few very important things--it either leaves out, or de-emphasizes. I want to discuss these things, because once you understand them you'll have the maximum ability to use these important principles to take change of your life. Without them, The Secret won't benefit you at all. My belief is that there is a way, no matter who you are, and regardless of your past or present circumstances, to master your life, to master your mind, and to create anything you want in life. The Secret describes a part of how to do that. It's a very important part, but it's still just a part. I want to tell you about the other parts, and share some of the practical details, the "how-to," of what I and the other teachers talked about in The Secret, because there's more to The Secret and the Law of Attraction than just putting something out to the universe and hoping to get something back. As the people who made The Secret have said, it's true that for thousands of years a certain small segment of the population has known about and used this secret, and that those who've known it and have used it have prospered in extraordinary ways, and have influenced the world in ways that have seemed almost magical to those who don't understand this secret. But you need to know more than generalizations about this secret in order to fully implement it, and I want to share some of that with you. Before I get into some of the nuts and bolts, I want to tell you about two aspects of this secret that were not emphasized in The Secret DVD and book. I'm sharing this with you because these two additional aspects of The Secret are crucial, and if you leave them out, The Secret doesn't work. What you focus on creates your life--but it ain't magic! Let's start out, then, by acknowledging that it's true that you create in reality, in one way or another, whatever you focus your attention on. Your life is going to be an outcome of where you predominantly place your attention. There are, of course, as I said, some things you need to know about the how-to of this in order to get all the benefits, and I'll talk about that in a moment. What is unfortunate, in my opinion, is that all too often people think that all you have to do is focus your attention on what you want, and then, in some magical way, you'll get it. I will say that the way this law works does seem like magic, especially when you first use it and see your results suddenly change from dismal to successful, but there is no magic involved, and without the second two principles I'm going to share, you'll end up being nothing but a wishful thinker, wondering how long this "Secret" stuff is going to take. I know because I get many letters from people asking me how long it's going to take, and I have to truthfully tell them that if all they do is focus their attention on what they want, it's going to take forever. So let's look at these other two principles I mentioned, and then we'll get into some of the nuts and bolts of how to focus your mind in a way that really works. The first principle you heard a lot about in The Secret DVD--the fact that what you place your attention on you tend to create or attract into your life. However, if you stop there, not much happens. After you place your attention on what you want to create or manifest, you have to use the second principle, which is to then take action to get it. Forget about the Wish Fairy Yes, I hate to break this to you, but if you want money--or anything else, for that matter--you can't just wish for it. Whether you want great relationships, a fulfilling career, good health, or anything else, in addition to focusing your attention on what you want, you also have to take action. And the action you take also has to, in some way, be of value to the world, and to other people. You could act your ass off, but if your action has no value for anyone, you won't get anything back. This is why they call it the Law of Attraction. You get back what you put out. To get value, you have to give value. That's the way it works. For some of the people who come to me, or the other teachers you saw in The Secret, life isn't working so well. I know what that's like, because I used to be one of them. Such people aren't making much money, usually. They very often aren't in a fulfilling career. Their relationships aren't satisfying. They don't feel happy and peaceful. Their health may not be very good. Many of them feel very lost in the world. They sometimes feel like, well, like losers in the game of life. Often such people don't have the skills that allow them to offer a lot of value. That doesn't mean that they couldn't develop those skills, or in some other way figure out how to create value in the world, but at the present time they either don't have the skills or don't know how to use them to create benefit for others. You see, the problem is that such people--and remember, I used to be one of them, so I understand the thought process--such people would LOVE to find out that there's a magic way to become prosperous, popular, respected, happy, and loved. Then, when someone comes along and tells them to just "put it out to the universe" it almost becomes a cruel joke, because to create the kind of life I just described, you have to do more than just think about it or wish for it. I want everyone who feels lost and discouraged about creating the life they want to know that while you can't JUST focus your attention on what you want, it isn't that difficult to add these other two principles, and, having added them, you can learn how to have everything you want in life. It isn't magic, and it isn't difficult, but there is a price to pay. My career, once I found it, albeit late in life, is about showing people what that price is, and then showing them the easy way to pay it. Here's how it works... So let's look at the first principle, what most people think of now as The Secret--the idea that what you place your attention on is manifested in reality. This is a solid, real, principle, but it isn't magic. Here's why this principle works--if, of course, you use the other two principles with it. When you focus your attention on something you want to create or attract, several things happen. Your mind is a very powerful goal-seeking mechanism. You just have to give it a goal, and it gets busy figuring out how to get it. When you focus on something, your mind takes it as an instruction to figure out how to create or attract whatever you've focused on. In fact, right now, you're already using that power. The problem isn't a lack of ability to manifest what you focus on, but rather a lack of conscious and intentional control over what you focus on. In other words, most people focus their mind unconsciously and unintentionally. Their focus runs on autopilot. Your mind was pre-set to focus in a certain way during childhood, and now it just runs on automatic. Depending on what happened while you were growing up, your mind focuses a certain amount of the time on what you want, and a certain amount of the time on what you want to avoid. Either way, though, it attracts or creates it. Here's how it works. Now remember that this first principle works in conjunction with the other two--taking action, and making sure the action is of value to someone. So when you focus on something you want to create or attract, a number of things happen. First, you get ideas about what actions you could take. If you want to attract a glass of lemonade, you think about having it, and your mind immediately suggests that you go to the kitchen, if you have some lemonade there, or take a trip to the supermarket to buy some, if you don't. Instantly, you get ideas about what action to take in order to make your idea a reality. Turning wishes into lemonade You can probably see that sitting there visualizing lemonade without doing something about it is a belief in magic, and if that's all you do you're not going to get lemonade. Even if someone walks into the room just as you think of lemonade, and you ask them to get you some, you've still taken action. And, if by some coincidence you thought of lemonade and right then someone walked into the room and said, "I was wondering if you'd like some lemonade?" this is not happening because you thought about lemonade. A lot of magic-believers would like to think so, but you could sit there every day and think about lemonade, and it would be a long time before that method would work again. Scientists have a name for this. It's called a coincidence. People who believe in magic turn coincidences into evidence, but that doesn't make it so, and you can easily prove this to yourself by thinking of lemonade the next day, and the day after that, and the day after that, and finding out what happens. What will happen is that no lemonade will manifest the next day, or the next, or the next, unless you get up out of your chair and take action to find some. How to find all the resources you need So the first thing that happens when you focus on getting something is that your mind generates ideas about how to get it, ideas about what actions you could take to get it. The second thing that happens is that you begin to notice resources you could use in getting what you want. You might notice people who could help you that you weren't noticing before. You might suddenly become aware of information, books, seminars, TV shows, or whatever, that previously you had not noticed. Perhaps you've had the experience of wanting to learn about something and going to a bookstore. Suddenly you see all kinds books about the subject that you never noticed before, and would have just walked right by if you hadn't told your mind to notice them. Let's say you're driving down the street and you decide you want an Italian meal. If there are any Italian restaurants on that street, will you notice them? Of course. Would you have noticed them if you hadn't focused your attention on Italian food? Probably not. When you focus your attention on something, your mind develops a kind of radar that causes resources to wave little red flags at you, and to almost jump into your arms, or at least into your awareness. But again, you can see how this relates to taking action, because these resources you notice are useful only if you use them. Okay, so far, by focusing on what you want, you've begun to develop some ideas about how to get it, and you've started noticing resources you could use. Next, focusing on what you want causes you to become motivated to act. Because you're thinking about what you want, and about how you'll feel when you get it--good, probably--you become motivated to do something, to take action. You can be a high-quality person And, finally, focusing on what you want causes you to tap into or develop certain internal qualities that help you to get it, such things as courage, or persistence, or focus. Because you're focused on what you want, and are thinking about the benefits of having what you want and imagining how good it will feel, you're more likely to be persistent, to focus your attention, to be disciplined, to be self-reliant, to take personal initiative, to use your imagination, and to be enthusiastic. Those who focus on what they want develop all of these personal qualities, and, depending on what qualities are needed in order to create what you want, possibly others. And, the more and the longer you focus on what you want, and the more positive emotion you add, the more these qualities become part of your personality. So focusing your mind in the way described in The Secret causes you to have ideas, to notice people and resources that could help you, to become motivated to act, and to develop internal qualities that will help you act to get what you want. You can see, then, how incredibly valuable focusing your attention on what you want can be. If you've ever wondered why some people seem to have so many ideas, how they seem to always find the resources they need or the people who can help them, how they stay motivated, and how they seem to have all these amazing personal qualities, now you know. They did it by continually focusing their attention on what they want and then taking valuable action. Ask the Magic Question Now here's a really easy way to focus your attention on what you want. I call it the Magic Question, but again, it really isn't magic. To focus your attention on something you want to create or attract, ask yourself, "How can I create X?" whatever X is, or "How can I get X?" Sometimes, if you're in what seems to be a particularly bad situation, you might say, "Given that I'm in this situation, what can I do to get X?" For instance, if you just lost your job and you have a lot of debts, you might ask yourself, "Okay, given that I'm in this situation, what can I do right now to create a new job and create enough money to pay all these debts?" When you ask this type of How Can I? question, it focuses your attention on what you want, and in doing so you enlist your mind in finding an answer--in other words, to figure out what you could actually DO to begin creating or attracting what you want. Then, as you get ideas, you have to act on them. Sitting there wishing and hoping for a miracle, or hoping that a coincidence will slam into you is what NOT to do. Dr. Phil, if he were here, would be asking such a person, "How's that workin' for ya?" I know a lot of very successful people, including nearly every teacher who appears in The Secret, and believe me, none of them sit around waiting for a miracle to land on them. Even the few of them who actually, and in my opinion mistakenly, teach that focusing on what you want is magic, when you watch what they're actually doing, they are taking action. How they can miss the fact that they are is beyond me, but a few of them--who shall remain nameless--do teach people to just "put it out to the universe" and that no action is necessary. They too, though, take action, but I guess they somehow fail to see the connection between the action they take and the results they get. If you look around at successful, make-it-happen people, you won't see any of them who don't take action. It only looks like they're not taking action Now I'll admit that sometimes the results can look as if they are coming to a very successful person awfully darned easy and awfully darned quickly, but these results are still coming from action, preceded by focusing on what that person wanted. My friend Gay Hendricks, along with his wife Katie, have been bestselling authors of books about relationships for over twenty years. Another friend, Jack Canfield, is also a bestselling author. Either one of them can pick up the phone, call a book publisher, tell them an idea for a book, and get a book deal instantly. If some other person wanted a book deal, it could take them years to make it happen. If their idea didn't have value, based on what the publisher wanted, they might never make it happen. To someone who did not understand the principle of taking action and the principle of creating value, it might look like Gay or Jack made something happen as if by magic, without taking action. However, in this case the book deal happened quickly because of actions they'd previously taken. In fact, Jack visited scores of publishers with the original Chicken Soup for the Soul book, and was almost ready to give up, when he finally found a publisher willing to print his book. But now, after selling well over 100 million books, he's already proven that he can create a bestselling book. He's already taken the action necessary to get a book publisher to send him a contract and a check. The same goes for Gay Hendricks. I can create a new course or a new product, and Centerpointe program participants will buy it tomorrow, in droves. This isn't magic, though. It's the residual of thousands of actions I've already taken which have convinced my customers that when I create something, it's going to be worth it for them to buy it in order to get the benefits. I've already taken the required action, and sometimes that makes it look as if little or no action is being taken in order to get a certain outcome. Will the Wish Fairy give you a raise? Let's take this down to a more mundane example. If you work in an office, and your boss approaches you and offers you a better job in the company, with more pay, why does he do this? Is it magic? Is it because you've been sitting in your cubicle putting it out to the universe that you want a better job with more money? I doubt it. If your boss offers you such a promotion, I'll bet you anything it's because of past actions you've taken that have convinced your boss that you're worth the raise, and because he's pretty sure that your future actions will make it worth his while to give you new responsibilities and more money. Now, let's look at the third principle, the idea that the action you take has to benefit someone, that your action has to create value. Think of it this way. From time to time you give money to other people, right? You pay your electric bill, you pay your car payment, you give money to the supermarket, you give money to the clothing store, or the gas station. Why do you do this? Is it just because you like these people? Is it because they put it out to the universe that you would stop by and give them money? Well, you might like them, and they probably did sit down and focus on how to get you and other customers to give them some of your money, but when it comes right down to it, you gave them money because they have something you want more than you want the money. Like everyone else, unless it's just because you love them, you give money to others if you get something valuable in return. What's more, you're the sole judge of whether what they have is valuable. It doesn't matter who else thinks it's valuable--if you don't think it is, you don't give up your money for it. The ONLY reason people will give you money Other than money you might give to someone just because you love them, this is the only reason why money changes hands. This means that if you want money, someone else is going to have to give it to you, and they're going to use the same criteria you use. If giving you money gets them something they want more than the money, they'll give you the money. In order to get more money, then, you have to figure out a way to create more benefit, more value. This is really the essence of the Law of Attraction. The amount of money you attract is equal to the value you provide. This applies to more than money, of course. As the Beatles said in one of their songs, the love you get is equal to the love you give. I'm only talking in terms of money because that's what most people think of when they think of The Secret and the Law of Attraction. But whatever you want--love, respect, friends, or anything else--you'll receive it to the extent that you put out, through your actions, something of equivalent value. Be a good friend, and you'll have friends. Act in a way that invites respect, and you'll be respected. And so on. The main point, though, is that for you to get something in this world, you have to give. As Emerson said, the universe's books are always balanced--which, by the way, also means that you can't fail to receive when you give, and if you have to wait, you build up interest, you might say, while you wait. Now, some people struggle, at least partially, because they haven't found a way to offer very much value, so they don't make much money. If you're flipping burgers, it's probably because you don't have the skills that make you more valuable to someone else, which means others aren't willing to trade very much money for whatever you provide. The burger-flipper needs to be reliable enough to show up, smart enough to follow directions, and be able to get along with the other employees, but not much else is required. It's also possible that you have something that would be of value to others, but you haven't found a way to let others know about it. In that case, you have a sales and marketing problem, and you need to find a way to convincingly let others know about the value you could provide for them. The more valuable you are, the more money you make But there's a solution to this, and it isn't wishing and hoping. If you don't have a way to create very much value for others, you can always get more knowledge or more skills. I have people who work for me who know how to take orders over the phone and enter them into the computer, and they do it well. However, a lot of people can do such a job, so it isn't a very lucrative job compared, for instance, to someone who knows how to manage people, or who knows how to run a computer network, or who knows how to create an advertisement that creates a lot of sales. Such people end up getting more money because they provide more value. And, they can provide more value because they've paid the price to have those skills and that knowledge. So if you aren't making as much money as you want, you need to figure out a way to create more value, and you need to figure out a way to make sure people know you have this value. The value could be your ideas, it could be your labor, it could be a product you create or sell, or it could be a service you provide. If it has value, and if you can find a way to make sure people know about it, you'll make money equivalent to the value you provide. And, of course, none of this will happen unless you take action, and you won't take action--or know what action to take--unless you begin by focusing your mind on what you want and asking yourself how you can get it. But please don't think that you can just wish for something or "put it out to the universe," and then, without taking action or providing any value, expect to get it. In fact, let me clue you into another aspect of the Law of Attraction. If a random event brings you something, for which you haven't provided value--something you haven't paid the price to have--I hate to tell you this, but you still have to pay in some way. If you win the lottery, you've received a bunch of money without having provided value in exchange. You know what happens to nearly all people who win millions in the lottery, don't you? That's right. They almost always lose all the money within a few years. Unless that person does something with the money that provides value to others, they'll find a way to lose it. And, by the way, this is the way debt works, too. If you go into debt in order to have something before you've earned the money, you end up paying more for it. There is a price for everything, and when you pay in advance the price is lower, and when you pay in arrears the price is higher. One of the big secrets to success is to find out what the price is for what you want and pay it, in full, as fast as possible. The price might be money, but it also could be time, experience, learning, work, or something else. Sometimes the price is a series of events that look like failures, but are really preparation for success. But whatever the price is, the faster you pay it, the better. This is what the second two principles are about. Who wants $100,000? Okay, let's take an example to see how you could use these three principles to get what you want. Let's say that you do want more money, and you realize right away that you don't yet have a way to provide additional value to others, which is what would qualify you to receive more money. For that reason, no one is giving you money. What do you do? The first thing to do is to use the first principle, the principle of focusing your attention on what you want. "I want more money," you say. You ask yourself, "How can I get more money?" Notice that I'm using that "How can I?" question again. It's always a great question to ask because it focuses you on what you want. It would be even better, though, if you were more specific. I might say, then, "I want to make $100,000 a year. How can I do that?" Or, I might say to myself, "Okay, how can I make $100,000 a year? Many other people do it, so I know it's doable. How could I do it?" I would keep asking myself this question, and I would focus my attention on discovering a way to do it. Knowing the other two principles, I'd know that when I get an idea, I'm going to have to take action, and the action will have to benefit someone, so I'm keeping that in the back of my mind. So, what happens? First, you start getting ideas. Right now, off the top of my head, I'm just going to share with you the ideas that come to me, as if I was the person wanting to make $100,000 a year. The first idea that comes to me is to see if I can find out who else is making $100,000 a year. What professions make that much? Well, certainly a lot of people who have their own business make that much. A guy who owns a McDonald's makes more than that much for each store he owns. Someone who owns a couple of dry cleaning stores probably makes that much. I could probably go online and find through Google a whole list of types of jobs that make $100,000 a year. People who sell certain products online, or through the mail, probably make that much. Certain professional speakers, or authors, make that much. Someone who sells real estate can make that much, or more, and so can insurance agents. So one idea that came to me was to check out who's actually making this kind of money, because that might give me ideas for how I could do it. By finding this out, I could at least save myself from doing something that I think will make me a lot of money when in actual fact few if any people actually make that kind of money doing it. For instance, I see a lot of people in certain MLM-type businesses, but rarely do I see anyone who even makes $1000 a month, let alone significant money. I'm not trying to bash MLMs in general, because some of them are great, and I'm not saying it isn't possible to make good money in MLM, but if you're looking for a way to make a lot of money, wouldn't it make sense to avoid something where nearly everyone who does it fails? If you want to start a business, do a little checking before you act and find out what other people in that business are making. Daydreaming, or acting? Here's something else to keep in mind. If you sit around and focus your attention on something you want, but you're daydreaming, you aren't going to get it. Why? Because daydreaming is a kind of thinking that already has lack of action built into it. There's a huge difference between thinking about something when you're in wishing mode, and thinking about the same thing when you're in acting mode. If you want to create something, always do your thinking while in acting mode. But let's get back to creating that $100,000 a year. I've already mentioned that focusing on how to do this gives you ideas. But it also causes you to notice resources you might use. You might, for instance, notice books about how to make more money. Or you might notice that someone has a seminar about how to make more money. It occurs to me as I'm thinking about this right now that my friend Harv Eker, for instance, has a great seminar, and a book, about making money. If you Google "Harv Eker," you'll see all kinds of offerings he has. I know they're good, and if you follow his advice you'll learn how to make more money. Jack Canfield has some great stuff, too, and his book, The Success Principles, is a very complete guide to how people create what they want in the world. I have a very powerful online course that will teach you, in-depth, exactly how to create whatever you want, which I'll tell you more about later. There are almost unlimited resources available about how to make money. You usually don't notice them because you haven't focused your attention on finding them. Then, of course, when you find them, you have to take action and use them. This is where most people fall down. There's a price to pay to get what you want in this world, and most people would rather not pay it. Paying the price--and enjoying it The people you see who are getting what they want in life are almost always those who have figured out how to enjoy paying the price, which of course makes it easy to pay. As I said earlier, this is the essence of the Law of Attraction--the price is just whatever you need to give in order to attract or create what you want. That's why just sitting there hoping and wishing doesn't work. When you do that, the only thing you're putting out is an intention, which, while it's a good start, is of no value to anyone--unless you act on it. The resources you begin to notice when you focus on what you want might also include people who could help you. And when you begin to spot such people, you have to keep in mind that if you want their help you have to make it worth their while to help you. This might mean paying them, but you could compensate them in many other ways. You could make them a partner. You could give them a feeling of being a good person who helps others. Or anything in between. And, quite often, if people who have the ability to help you see that what you have has real merit, some of them will help you just to help you, because they understand the Law of Attraction and they know if they help you it will come back to them in some other way. Often the people who have really mastered the Law of Attraction have so much, and they create what they want so effortlessly, that they just want to give back by helping others. It never hurts to ask It never hurts to ask for help, even if you're not sure how to compensate the other person. But always start with the willingness to compensate them in some way, even if you don't yet know how. In fact, if you aren't sure, you could begin by saying, "I'm not sure how at this point to make it worth your while, but I sure could use your help." Ask, and see what happens, and always be open to compensating the other person in some way, even if you haven't yet figured out what it might be. In fact, be eager to compensate them. So, you focus on what you want, and you ask yourself questions such as "How can I make $100,000 a year?" Because of that, you get ideas, you notice resources, you attract or notice people who might be able to help. Focusing on what you want and imagining how good it will feel to get it causes you to feel motivated to act, and so you take action. Then, after you act, notice what happened. Evaluate your action. Your action was either successful or not, or something in between. Whatever happens, you'll get feedback. If your action worked, you might want to do more of it. If it didn't work, learn whatever you can from it, and then take another action based on what you learned. Keep acting, evaluating, and then acting again, until you create or attract whatever it is you're trying to get. Even if you have to refine your actions many times, you're still benefiting because you're gaining wisdom. This is why successful people are so successful. They've acted, and received feedback, and acted again, and received more feedback, and have done this so many times that they've become wise. They've become experts. So be willing to pay the price to become an expert. All these little so-called failures are really tuition in the school of life, and the learning they bring is very valuable. All the while you're doing this, of course, you're remaining focused on where you want to go and what you want to create, and you've already decided, in advance, that nothing is going to keep you from getting there. If you slip up, if what you're doing isn't working, if you fall on your face, you learn everything you can from what happened, and continue to focus on how to get where you want to go. This constant focus on the end result, along with taking action, and always trying to think of how to create value for others, always, eventually, gets you there. The only way you can fail is if you're mistaken about the value of what you provide, or you quit before you get there. You might change your approach for getting there a number of times, based on what you learn, but you otherwise just keep focusing your attention on what you want and acting to get it. The Secret Shortcut Now, would you like to know a huge shortcut to this process? I thought so. It's easy. Find other people who are already successfully doing what you want to do, or getting what you want to get. Then, find out what they're doing, and copy them. Also, while you're at it, find out how they're focusing their mind. So far I've spoken about focusing your mind as if it was a pretty simple "one-size-fits-all" thing to do, but there are actually a number of important things to learn about how to focus your mind, and I'll tell you a little bit more about that in a moment. For now, just know that it's very beneficial to find out what the person you're modeling believes about what they're doing, what they think is important about it, how they decide what to pay attention to and what to delete from their attention, and many other nuances about how they focus their attention. And, then, of course, you want to find out what actions they've taken to create what you want to create. All of this you can copy, which gives you a huge head start. Then, as you gain wisdom through your own actions, you can add your own twist to what you learned from them. How do you find these people? First, just asking yourself that question--"How do I find people who are successfully doing what I want to do?" causes you to think of ways to find them. But just off the top of my head, I can think of a few ways. Again, you can use Google. You can find books they've written. Ask other people if they know someone. You can look in the Yellow Pages. You can spot them in the newspaper. Many people are selling information on doing many of the typical things someone might want to know how to do, in the same way Harv Eker is teaching people how to make money. How to get what you don't want Now, let's talk about the other side of the coin. What happens when you focus on what you don't want? Actually, the process works the same way, except you end up getting what you don't want instead of what you do want. Whatever you focus on, you mind takes it as an instruction to create or attract it. And, as I said earlier, your mind is very good at creating or attracting whatever you focus on. If you focus on not being poor, for instance, your mind will get busy figuring out how you can be poor. If you focus on not being anxious, you're mind will figure out how to make you feel anxious. If you focus on not making a mistake, you'll make mistakes. As if it wasn't bad enough that you create it, the other big penalty for focusing on what you don't want is that you get to feel bad. All bad feelings--anger, anxiety, fear, confusion, panic, depression, annoyance, shame, guilt, hopelessness, or anything else--come from focusing on what you don't want. This is the flip side of feeling good when you focus on what you want, especially if you're taking action, and that action has value. When you focus on what you don't want, or what you're worried about, or what you're afraid of, or what you want to avoid, you put your mind to work creating it, and you feel bad. Both of these penalties obviously make focusing on what you don't want a bad idea. In fact, focusing on what you don't want is poison to your life. But how does focusing on what you don't want affect the second principle, taking action? When you focus on what you don't want, one of two things happens. You might, as a result, not take any action, which is a kind of action, with its own results (or lack of results). If you're afraid of making a mistake, you might avoid acting, and the very failure to act is, in and of itself, a type of mistake. When you don't act, you always know what will happen. Nothing. Or, you might, ironically, take an action, driven by your fear, that creates the very thing you don't want. Not wanting to make a mistake, you act in a way that creates mistakes. Not wanting to make a bad investment, you figure out a way to become attracted to bad or risky investments, or you fail to learn what you need to know to make an good decision. Not wanting your business to fail, you are led to take the very actions that do make it fail. I see this all the time among my students. They focus on avoiding something they're afraid of or worried about, and (almost) as if by magic, they create it. The mind is ingenious in creating what you focus on, and it doesn't care whether it's what you want or what you don't want. For this reason, it's crucial that you focus your mind consciously and intentionally. Your mind is always focusing on something. As I said earlier, it isn't that you can't manifest what you focus on, it's that you're very likely choosing what to focus on automatically, unconsciously. What you focus on is very often driven by past events, childhood decisions and traumas, that cause you to focus on what you don't want at least some of the time. Attracting danger Here's how it works. When you are traumatized during childhood (and the trauma can be quite unintentional), you develop a belief that the world is a dangerous place, or at least a potentially dangerous place. In order to avoid this danger, you have to watch out for it. To do that you have to focus your attention on it, and there you are, giving your mind an instruction to create or attract the very thing you don't want. So The Secret is a wonderful thing. It works--especially if you add the second and third principles I've shared with you. But it's like electricity. You can light up a city with it, or electrocute yourself. You can only use The Secret to get what you want to the extent that you can consciously and intentionally direct your attention. As long what you focus on is chosen without conscious intention, you're going to find yourself attracting and creating, at least some of the time, some things you don't want. And some people are unfortunately attracting a lot of what they don't want, a lot of the time. But it doesn't have to be this way. You can develop the awareness and the ability to use it to intentionally direct your focus. You can turn off the autopilot. This is why Holosync is so powerful, because it increases your ability to be aware, to live consciously rather than automatically. As your awareness grows, you clearly see how your focus creates what happens in your life, and as you watch this happen it becomes more and more difficult to focus on what you don't want, and much easier to focus on what you do want. It's not an accident that so few people are truly successful. Success, in whatever way you define it, flows directly from focusing on what you want, and then, as a result, taking action that is of value to the world. If you can't focus intentionally, though, this process becomes very difficult. You can't focus on what you've deleted It also becomes easier to implement The Secret in your life if you better understand the focusing process. In this discussion I've treated focusing as a simple process, but it's actually a complex cognitive process. There are many steps, and they whiz by very quickly, mostly outside your awareness. For instance, you have dozens of mental filters that delete much of what comes in through your senses, then distorts (sometimes in a positive way, and sometimes in a negative way) what is left. Why does this matter? Well, you can't focus on what has been deleted from your awareness. What if, for instance, you delete some--or even all--of the possibilities? Many people do this. When they look around, there are no possibilities! I correspond with people everyday who tell me that they see no possibilities, yet the same possibilities are actually available to them, as to anyone else. But because they've filtered them out, they aren't there. And this is just one of twenty-some filters people unconsciously use before they ever get to the part of the process where they focus on something. People filter out possibilities, solutions, ideas, resources, ideas, kindnesses, love, what they could be grateful for, and all kinds of things. Many people filter things in such a way that all they see are problems and what is wrong. They have nothing left to focus on but what they don't want! Can you see how it would be valuable if you could consciously choose how to use these filters? We unfortunately don't have room here to go through the entire process by which you focus your mind. However, even if you know nothing about this, other than to focus as much as possible on what you want--and you're willing to take action and to do whatever you can to make sure your actions are of value to others--you'll get results that are head and shoulders above those achieved by other people. However, I invite you to consider the possibility that you could master this internal focusing process, by taking my online course, The Internal Map of Reality Expander. Those who master this process tap into a power that allows them to do or achieve anything they put their mind to. There's no reason why you couldn't be one of them. You can find out more, and listen to a free preview lesson, by going to www.centerpointe.com/life/preview. I also invite you, if you aren't already doing so, to use Holosync audio technology to increase your conscious awareness (and to get all the other mental, emotional, and spiritual benefits it brings). You can get a free Holosync demo CD and a free Special Report at www.centerpointe.com. The Secret isn't a secret, and the Wish Fairy is a fraud The Secret really isn't a secret. It's been around for thousands of years, and many people have taught it in many different forms. The only reason it can be referred to as a "secret" is that very few people actually use it. It's been estimated that about 2% of people actually embrace the three principles I've described and commit themselves to using them consistently. Or, if they try to use the first principle, they skip the second two and insist on wishing and hoping and believing in magic, eternally waiting for the Wish Fairy to give them what they want. I'm hoping that you'll be one of those who embrace these principles and actually use them. And I am here, along with my staff, to help you use the tools we've created to become happy, peaceful, and successful, and to create whatever you want in life. Be well. Bill ................................................................................ 8. Participant Letters The question arises, What is the nature of reality? There seems to be a place we call Lake Tahoe, or Portland, OR or Mt. Hood. Can it be that I just make them up out of my head? If so, I share the illusion with many other people, n'est pas? What about other people? Do I just make them up or are they aspects of Sat? Aren't there desires, like the elimination of hunger, dire need or war that really do matter, so how the political game is played has the potential to lead to more satisfaction for more people and thus improve our world society? Finally, if I can materialize the world, isn't that like deeming oneself omnipotent, the leader of the band, the star of the show? This looks egotistical in the extreme and could be highly counterproductive. Your thoughts? --Jim Jim, There is something there, which you call Lake Tahoe. However, what you experience is not even close to what is really there. This is because of your sensory equipment, which picks up a tiny, tiny fraction of the available information (a slice of the electromagnetic spectrum, a slice of the sound spectrum, and so on, nothing of a whole bunch of other things we have scientific instruments to perceive, and nothing of a lot of other things we don't even know about). Then, you delete most of what you take in, distort it, make generalizations about it, make faulty internal representations about it, add meanings to it that are not really there. What you think of as Lake Tahoe is a distorted skeleton of whatever is there. I'm not saying that nothing is "there". I'm saying that you create a map of reality, and it's A MAP, not the reality. And, your map of reality is 99% made up. It is based, primarily, on the premise that there are individual, separate "things" and individual, separate events, which is not true. Individual things and events is a way of THINKING, but nothing like that is really there. Such "things" are units of thought. They exist conceptually, but not in reality, and they are (as I said) a skeleton of what is really there. In that sense, what you think of as reality is an illusion, and there are various penalties for taking the illusion for reality--fear, feelings of separation, various ways of suffering, and so on. I'm not saying you should disregard your Map of Reality, though. I'm saying that you should not mistake the map for the territory it represents. If you know who you really are (everything), and know what reality really is, you can live in the illusory reality created by your mind WHILE you know that it is just something you create conceptually, as a way of navigating through the universe. When you get absorbed in a movie, you allow yourself to get into it as much as possible, but you know it's an illusion. Life is the same sort of thing--if you know your mind is creating an illusion, and you know that this is the case, you can live in it without experiencing the penalties for mistaking the map for the territory. This is what separates the enlightened master from the average person--he or she knows what is real, knows who he or she really is, and plays in the world of (supposed) separation (which is the only game in town) without suffering over it. You ARE manifesting YOUR OWN VERSION of the entire world. There is something there already, but you distort it SO much that your version (which is reinforced by large parts of it been culturally distorted by others in a similar way) is only 1/100 of 1% (or less) of what's really there. So in the world of the mind you are omnipotent. You have the creative power to create your own reality. When someone actually goes to the trouble to really master what I've presented in my first online course, The Internal Map of Reality Expander, this is the very realization they have: I have the power to create ANYTHING I want. But if that is so, then what I'm creating can't be THE reality, because it's changeable and varies from person to person. So, then, what is THE reality? What is the unchanging reality behind the one I create with my mind? That's the subject of my second online course, The one you're currently taking! Be well. Bill Dear Bill, I cannot tell you how much I enjoy meditating...As I listen first thing in the morning, I plan my day. Simply put, I am hooked. But equally helpful are the books, pamphlets, retreat tapes that you have included. A few days ago I discovered your mindchatter articles. Especially helpful were your articles "Do You Believe In Magic?" I suddenly realized that yes I do/did. What a silly misconception! How much misery I have created for myself. The research you do is unbelievable. The time and effort you expend with it is amazing to me. Then you share your knowledge and wisdom so very willingly, which is also unbelievable. Knowledge is power and many people tend to be very selfish about sharing it with others. Thank you seems terribly inadequate, so I will simply use and share what I am learning and of course continue the program. I wish you the very best. --Judy Hi, My name is Bill. I live in NJ, and I've been a member of the Inner Circle since 1998. Recently I took a brain test that determines whether you are right-brained or left-brained. I'm neither. I'm classified as "balanced." I believe this has happened to my brain because of Holosync. I'm an accountant, and sometimes I have to work persistently to figure out why some items don't work out. I am amazed how the solution or a partial solution will pop into my mind when I'm doing something else. I told a friend about this and he said I'm "working too hard". I didn't say anything, but he thinks I'm working too hard because that's what he does(over-analyze) when he's trying to figure something out. Best regards to everyone, especially Bill Harris. Thank you for changing my life for the better in many ways. God bless. --Bill ................................................................................ 9. Life Principles In Practice Change your inside to change the outside Somehow, people do not get, at a root-cause level, that how they think and how they act generates the results they get. This causes them to think they can get different results without changing how they think and act. Getting different results does not come from changing your external situation. It comes from changing your internal situation. You are the all and everything Consciousness is not the same as what we would ordinarily think of as knowing, in a cognitive sense. This is not the same as your senses and your brain knowing or recognizing something, though that's one of the only reference points we have, intellectually, for understanding the term consciousness. Ultimately, you have to experience being it, and I'll talk more later about what I mean by that. This oneness, this unity, is aware of itself being everything. Pretend that you are this one energy. If you were everything, there would be nothing outside of you to fear. That would be like fearing your own hand. If everything is you, and you're everything, there's nothing to fear. There would also be nothing to get, nothing you could lack, since you're everything. There would also be no where to go, no journey to take. You're everything, always, everywhere, with nothing to want, nothing to fear, nowhere to go. If you were established in this awareness of who you are, you would be...happy, peaceful, and blissful. Your mind hides your bliss You aren't happy and peaceful and in touch with the fact that you are all and everything, everywhere, eternally peaceful and blissful, because of your mind. Your mind is in the way of your experience of who you really are. Your mind is creating an alternate reality that acts, in a sense, like dust covering a mirror, keeping you from seeing who you really are. You can't see your own eyes You live in a world of your own creation, one created by your mind. What is beyond the mind is not really graspable by the mind. As long as we're living in the realm of the mind that's the only way we have of trying to comprehend it. But since the mind cannot comprehend this "something" that is more fundamental than itself and what it creates, you tie yourself into a knot trying to grasp it. It's like trying to see your own eyes. You can't do it. Opposites depend on each other Opposites only seem to exist as opposites. Each side of a duality depends on the other side for its existence. "Here" makes no sense without "there." "Not me" makes no sense without "me." "Good" makes no sense without "evil." Each of these exist only in relation to the other. ................................................................................ 10. Coach's Corner Welcome to our new feature, where each month a Centerpointe Support Coach shares their personal experiences with books the have inspired them, life-changing coaching experiences, and other information we're sure you'll find enlightening and enriching. This month, enjoy: What's in your toolbox? An Interview with Support Coach Laura Brewster by Kate Sparks Laura Brewster has been working as a Centerpointe Support Team Member for four years. She brings years of experience in personal development and self-actualization to her work with thousands of Centerpointe Participants worldwide. She's skilled at helping clients identify their personal growth goals and moving toward them with intention. Her influences include Carolyn Myss, Gary Zukav, and Norm Shealy. Katie: So Laura, tell me about what you mean by tools as they relate to personal growth. Laura: Life-tools are like surgeon's tools or mechanic's tools in that they can be used to heal or to hurt, or to fix or destroy. In the same way, I use tools to create the person I want to be in life. There are two kinds of tools we all use to map our way through life. First are our internal tools, such as beliefs, choices, reflection, self-talk, fear, thoughts, feelings, sub-personalities, the witness, the child, the parent...etc. Second are external tools, such as books, CDs, people, music...in fact, everything around us is a tool. Katie: What are some of the tools in your toolbox? Laura: I've acquired many tools throughout my life. A few examples of internal tools I use are a deep belief in God, humor, optimism, choice, the belief that I'm never alone and I am loved deeply by this great Universe. I trust that no matter what happens I will always be ok. I also have some negative internal tools that I continue to work on as well. Some of the external tools that I use besides the basic food, water, car etc. are books, music, movies, exercise, meditation, motivational CDs, people as role models...the list go on and on. Katie: So what do you do with these tools? Laura: I use tools to gauge myself and how I want to show up for myself and other people through the day. In fact, before my feet hit the ground in the morning, I use my gratitude tool and say "thank you God." When I coach people on the phone I try to leave them with something to do, you know, to equip people with tools of their own. It changes their perception. I might have them list five things they don't want and make another list of five things they do want. It's an immediate action they can take to feel accomplishment and get unstuck. I also just let people know they're okay. That this is not who you are, this is what you're walking through now. In coaching I think it's important to remind people of their greatness. And humor...having a sense of humor, being able to laugh at ourselves. With every dark side there's a light side and no matter what I'm going through, if I take it too personally and think the world revolves around me, I get trapped in a story I tell myself. And you can't forget about the shadow side to humanity. In order to stay balanced and walk with all parts of myself I must be willing to recognize my shadow and that might be greed or jealousy, which we've all experienced. And when you love it just as much as the light, you get to strike a balance. Then you can be an example to others of how easy it is to balance the two. You can't change anyone who's not willing to step up to the plate for change, but you can remind them that with every dark there's a light. And you can assist them with trying to recognize that we all have a shadow. That helps to reduce the shame around it. And at any time you can get new tools. If you're carrying around your childhood toolbox full of mishaps and bad, or even fun things, you're limiting yourself to a child's perspective on what's happening for you now. Katie: How do you use these tools? Laura: I use these tools to guide my way through everything in my life. Life is like a map, you know, and the map isn't the territory. So, with what tools can I get from here to where I want to go? I use tools like humor, crankiness, witnessing (learning witnessing was a hard one for me), a motivator, sticky notes all over my work area, (just to name a few) as a constant reminder to remember of who I am and what I'm doing throughout my day. I don't use all of the tools at the same time. I don't use all of them during the day, or the same ones every week, or month, or lifetime even. Katie: How do you choose tools which tools to carry? Laura: Take inventory of what you have. Does my feeling like a victim serve my highest purpose of my life? Do I want to feel grateful, empowered? How do I get there? Look around you because every word, song, person is a possible tool for your toolbox. When someone walks by and says hello, is it in your toolbox to accept that they just wanted to say hello and not that they want something from you? Sometimes I tell participants who have questions or concerns about products we are promoting that these are just more tools. You have a choice to use it now, or later, or never. As you go though life, as you're picking your tools, ask yourself whether this tool is in alignment with who you are and who you aspire to be. And meditation is a great tool. I can't forget that one. Holosync has been a great tool for me to raise my threshold. Look around, you'll find the tool for where you want to go. I remember Carolyn Myss said once that if you can picture an angel showing up before you with a knife, saying, "When you grab this knife, if you grab it by the blade you will cut and hurt yourself, but if you grab it by the handle it will create." The tools we choose are like the knife--they can hurt or create whatever you want. It's your choice! Katie: How do you get new tools? Laura: Decide what you want. There is power in choice. If you've got unhappiness and you long for happiness, what tools are you using to create that? What tools can you start adding to create something new? You can't choose tools unless you know what you're trying to create. If you're a mechanic and you're trying to fix a car with a surgeon's knife, it won't work. Katie: What have been the most powerful tools for you in your life? Laura: A lot of my tools come from reading books or hearing phrases that I want to incorporate in my belief system. Motivational CDs also help me to get clear on what I want. And my imagination. Imagination is where all creation comes from. It's a great thing to tap into. Another tool is asking for help. Sometimes I yell at the universe when I know I'm supposed to be moving forward in my life. I say you'd better show up for me and show me what I'm supposed to do. Of course, most of the time, I just ask nicely. Katie: Are there any tools you'd like to leave us with? Laura: Yes, actually. This comes from a book I read everyday Words to Live By, by Eknath Easwaran. It's a Hindu story comparing the mind to the trunk of an elephant - restless, inquisitive, always straying. In villages in India, elephants are sometimes taken in religious processions through the streets to the temple. The streets are crooked and narrow, lined on either side with fruit and vegetable stalls. Along comes the elephant with his restless trunk, and in one sinuous motion, it grabs a whole bunch of bananas. He opens his cavernous mouth and tosses the bananas in - stalks and all. From the next stall he picks up a coconut and tosses it in after the bananas. No threats or promises can make this restless trunk settle down. But the wise mahout will give it a short bamboo stick to hold. Then the elephant will walk along proudly, holding the bamboo stick in front like a drum major with a baton. He doesn't steal bananas and coconuts now, because his trunk has something to hold onto. The mind is the same way. We keep it from straying into all kinds of situations if you just give it something to hold onto... So, I'd like to invite everyone to really examine what tools they are holding onto and to really keep their eyes open to any new ones that might help them create the life they want. I know it's made an enormous difference to me in my life. =//=