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Welcome to Mind Chatter #133, the March 1, 2004 Interim Report.
In these Interim Reports, I leave out the "extras" we add to the full mid-month issue of Mind Chatter, and just share with you an article I've written or my thoughts on a particular subject.
On March 16, you'll receive a full issue of Mind Chatter.
This issue's article:
You Can Create Whatever You Want
by Bill Harris
But first:
If you're at all interested in creating a truly intimate relationship that really works, please listen to the free Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks relationship tele-seminar. Here are the details:
About a year and a half ago, I met Gay and Kathlyln Hendricks. Gay and Kathlyn are known all over the world, and have appeared on Oprah (twice), Larry King Live, Good Morning America, and many other major TV shows. They've taught tens of
thousands of couples, singles, and relationship professionals what they know about creating conscious, loving relationships. And, they're authors and co-authors of many best-selling books on relationships and other personal growth
topics.
They are the creme de la creme of relationship experts.
Recently, I convinced Gay and Kathlyn to give a free relationship tele-seminar, for which I was the moderator. This free seminar was held about three weeks ago.
I expected a few hundred people to call in to hear what they had to teach about how to create relationships that really work. Instead, we had over 5,000 people call in!
Thousands were turned away. To make sure everyone could hear this seminar on how to create relationships that really work, we repeated it three more times--and still many people were turned away.
If you'd like to hear this incredibly informative seminar, Gay and Kathlyn have posted it on their website, and you can go there and listen to it, free. Plus, anyone who listens get two valuable FREE gifts from them, which are described in
the seminar.
We also received many emails thanking Gay and Kathlyn for the seminar. Here are a few excerpts:
I was able to get in last night after several tries and given a different phone number and my persistency paid off. I was very impressed with the ease of everyone speaking. I greatly enjoyed and so much appreciate the Hendricks giving
their time to help us all. Please forward my many thanks to them.
--Connie C.
I was on-phone Wednesday night! It was terrific. Having been on teleseminars before, the best to do was be patient, stay on-phone, say nothing and listen. I was astonished how many people showed up for the call. Overwhelming!
--David
Thank you. I was one of the lucky ones. I did sit for a couple of minutes at one point with dead air, and wondered if I had been cut off, but decided to hang on a little longer, and was glad I did. I have to say that I am absolutely blown
away by the miracle of technology these days. Thank you so much for setting it all up. Needless to say, I greatly enjoyed the seminar and found it both interesting and informative - and also very clear and well presented... and, of course,
I learned from it - and look forward to downloading my gifts - which is next on the agenda. Again many thanks - it was GREAT!
--Betty.
To hear this free seminar online, just click here:
http://www.therelationshipsolution.com and click the link for the teleseminar (at the bottom of the page).
Also, please tell everyone in your address book about this seminar. After all, it's free, and free is a very good price.
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You Can Create Whatever You Want
I get a lot of questions about whether or not it's really possible to deal with day to day life in a more conscious way, especially if you're really caught in anger, fear, depression, addiction, anxiety, or some other intense
dysfunction.
Before I give you my answer, here's what I mean by dealing with life in a conscious way: it means being able to see the process by which you are creating your feelings, your behaviors, and your results. It means being able to see the
initial trigger, the sensory information that initially stimulates you, and then to notice what you do with it, inside, that leads to how you feel, how you behave, and the people and situations you attract into your life. When you deal
with life consciously, you stop operating automatically. Instead, you can see how what you do inside creates what happens.
So, is it possible to do this? What if you are depressed, or anxious, or addicted to drugs, or incredibly angry? What if you're so caught up in your dysfunction that you can't see anything? Can you learn to live consciously and
intentionally create the feelings and outcomes you want?
My answer is "yes, definitely." It is possible.
Perhaps you think I'm being unrealistic. Or, you're sitting there thinking "Sure, that's easy for him to say. He's not going through what I'm going through. He's running a successful company, probably has a lot of money, and does pretty
much what he wants to do. I'd like to see him deal with what's going on in MY life."
Before you get too comfortable in that excuse, I want to remind you that when I turned 35 I had no career, few friends, and made hardly any money. I was very angry most of the time, and when I wasn't angry I was depressed. I had been high
on drugs every day going back 17 years. My life was definitely not a model of success. I remember, quite often, sitting in my living room in the dark, at 3 AM, so depressed all I could do was sit and stare at the wall.
I could go on, but I think you get the idea. I often tell people that if I can do it, you can do it, and I mean that, and I speak from experience. In fact, the reason I usually help people figure out why they are stuck and help them get
un-stuck, is that the chances are very great that I was stuck in the same way. My great strength was that I was unrelentingly persistent in trying to get better. I just kept going and going and going, trying everything.
Most of what I tried didn't seem to work at all. I was one of those people (a lot of whom come to us at Centerpointe) who said "nothing works for me." It was very discouraging, something some of you, I'm sure, can relate to. Looking back,
I'm glad "nothing" worked for me. It was a blessing in disguise, though I certainly didn't like it at the time. Because of it, I eventually figured out what's going on when "nothing works." All my failures, though I didn't know it at the
time, were part of my tuition in the school that led me to be able to help so many other people.
So I'm not saying that you can learn to consciously create your life, regardless of your past or present circumstances, from a pie-in-the-sky perspective. Believe me, I've been at the bottom, and it is possible to turn things around.
So, what do you do, then? If you're totally caught in your anger, fear, anxiety, depression, addiction, or whatever, what do you do?
Here's what I suggest you do:
First, before you do anything else, you have to acknowledge that even if you can't see how, what happens to you comes from something you're doing inside. The feeling you have, the internal states you experience, the impulses to act or not
act, all are a result of something you're doing inside. The same could be said for the situations and people you attract and are attracted to.
Especially when things are going wrong, it definitely does seem as if it's the circumstances around you that create your feelings and results. It seems this way because the creative process going on inside of you is, for almost everyone,
unconscious. This makes it invisible to you.
But before you can make any progress, you have to acknowledge that even if you can't see how, something you're doing inside is creating what's happening.
Some people equate this with blaming themselves for what's happening. I want to be very clear that this is not what I'm saying. Blame implies that you are doing something wrong, that someone is at fault, that we're looking for someone we
can label as being bad, or wrong. What we're interested in is personal power, not blame. When you realize you're doing something, that gives you the option of not doing it, or doing something else. Discovering that what happens is the
result of something you're doing gives you power. It takes you from being a victim to being in charge of your life.
Also keep in mind that no one would intentionally do something that would cause themselves pain and suffering over and over. Even masochists, through convoluted logic, have convinced themselves that hurting themselves is good for them. So
if you are creating internal states and external outcomes that you don't want, you aren't doing it on purpose. You just don't yet know how to create these things consciously and volitionally.
So the first step is to take responsibility for what is happening in your life, even if you can't see exactly how you're doing it. And, I admit, this is something, in the beginning, you might have to take on faith, because (for some odd
reason) you find me credible when I tell you this is true.
The second step is to realize that the fundamental driving force behind what happens in your life, both inside and out, is how you focus your mind. Your mind is incredibly powerful in it's ability to take what you focus on and make it
happen in reality. Everyone has this ability. It's inborn, and it always works.
"You've got to be kidding," you say. "I can't create anything." But you can, and you are. It's not your ability to create that's haywire, it's how you're doing your focusing. You are creating whatever you focus on, but you're doing your
focusing automatically and unconsciously. This means that sometimes, if you focus on something you want, you get it. Other times, if you focus on what you don't want, you get that. If your focusing is just happening, like a runaway car
careening down a hill, you'll get some results you like and some you don't. If you're lucky, the car will miss everything, but it will probably eventually smash into something.
Just to avoid confusion, let me define "focusing." Focusing means making pictures in your head, hearing sounds in your head, experiencing feelings in your body, experiencing tastes and smells internally, or talking to yourself--what most
people would call "thinking." But let's just boil this down to the essentials and say that focusing is making pictures in your head or talking to yourself, because most of the time, that's how you do your focusing.
So step two is to realize that you create what happens based on how you focus your mind, and that right now you're probably doing your focusing automatically and unintentionally. If you make pictures in your head of something you want,
you'll probably, in one way or another, get it. If you focus on what you want, you'll probably find a way to get that.
How does this happen? Well, here's how it doesn't happen: you don't think about being rich and a big truck filled with gold coins dumps its load in your driveway, or you buy lottery tickets and you win because you closed your eyes really
tightly and imagined yourself winning.
This isn't magic.
When you focus on something, it creates the internal states that cause you to act or not act (depending on what is required) to have something happen. It causes you to notice things you wouldn't have noticed otherwise--for instance, pieces
of information that lead you to the result you've focused on. It causes you to be attracted to people and situations that will help you get what you focused on, and for those people and situations to be attracted to you. It causes you to
act in such a way that you make what you're focusing on come to pass. And, sometimes, it causes you to interpret what is happening in such a way that it seems as if what you've focused on had come true.
Let me give you a couple of examples. When I started Centerpointe, I focused my mind on several different things. One thing I focused on was eventually having a world-wide organization, with people using the program all over the world, and
a big staff of people who would help all the people who used our programs. Another way having more and more people join the program. Another way being a prominent personal growth teacher. Another was being financially prosperous.
No matter what I was doing, these pictures were swimming around in my head, and I've been focusing on them for about fifteen years now. As a result, ideas came to me, I was motivated to implement these ideas, I was attracted to people and
situations and ideas that would help me create what I was picturing. Focusing in this way caused me to act in a way that, over time, made all the things I was focusing on come true. It wasn't a straight road, and I had various setbacks and
"failures" along the way, but inch by inch, everything I focused on came to pass--not through magic, but because my focusing caused me to have ideas, attract people and situations, and take actions that led to the results I was focusing
on.
Prior to starting Centerpointe, one of the areas of my life where I was focusing a lot on what I did not want, was the area of relationships. I focused on not wanting to be alone, not wanting to be neglected, not wanting someone who would
mistreat me, not wanting someone who had problems with intimacy, and so on. In the same way as what I later focused on when creating Centerpointe came to pass, everything I focused on regarding relationships happened, too. I attracted one
relationship after another with women who had nothing to give, couldn't be intimate, didn't care about me, wanted to fight with me, and so on. It got so that I could tell you a woman's whole personal history, just by the fact that I felt
attracted to her, because the fact that I was focusing on what I didn't want was creating an attraction to women who would help what I was focusing on come true.
I also acted like a jerk, which helped it come true, and I often misinterpreted what happened in a way that helped the pictures I was making in my head come true. Just as with creating Centerpointe, my focusing gave be ideas, it created
motivation, it caused me to notice certain things, and it caused me to be attracted to certain things--all in such a way that I really did create what I was focusing on.
I hope this helps you see how what you focus on ends up happening, one way or another. My point is that there isn't any magic involved here. It's that focusing causes you to think and act in such a way, and draw to you situations and
people, so that what you focus on comes true.
This brings us to step three, which is that you have to stop doing your focusing unintentionally and unconsciously, and begin to do it consciously and intentionally. So how do you do that?
First, you have to get clear on what you want. You can't focus your mind on what you want unless you know what it is. The problem a lot of people have at this point is that they chunk down to specifics too quickly. The more specific you
get, the more difficult it is to know what you want. It's easy to say "I want transportation." It's also pretty easy to say "I want a car." It's a little more difficult to say what model of car you want, and even more difficult to say
which specific car.
For this reason, I suggest that you be more global, at first, in selecting what you want. You might not know what exact job you want, but you might know what career you want. If you don't know what career you want, you might still know
that you want something that pays you a certain amount a month and allows you to exercise certain talents you have. Keep chunking up until you get to a level where you do know what you want. If nothing else, you probably want to be happy
and peaceful and have a lot of energy. If all you did was focus on (think about and make pictures of) being happy and peaceful, that would be a great start.
So if you have trouble knowing what you want, start with "I want to be happy and peaceful," and fill in the details as you become aware of them. Don't try to be specific until you know the specifics. I know this flies in the face of what
everyone tells you about goal setting. It's true that the more specific you can be, the more your mind will know what to create, so be as specific as you can, but until you know, start with something that is more global, just to get
started.
The next step is where the rubber meets the road. You have to begin to notice when you're focusing on what you don't want, and when you notice that you're focusing on what you don't want, immediately switch to thoughts and pictures of what
you do want.
At first, you won't be very good at it. You'll realize, after a long period of focusing on what you don't want that, despite your best intentions, you've been focusing on the wrong thing. Damn! When you do change to focusing on what you
want, you'll often lose your focus within a few minutes and find yourself focusing, once again, on what you don't want. Damn again!
Just let that be okay. You're not going to be good at this at first, and you have to start somewhere. Just keep going, and you will begin to notice that you're focusing on what you don't want while you're doing it, instead of afterwards.
You'll be able to focus on what you want for longer without forgetting and going back to focusing on what you don't want. As you practice, you'll get better and better, both at noticing when you're focusing on what you don't want, and at
keeping your focus on what you do want.
Eventually, focusing on what you want will become the predominant habit, and once this happens, it will run automatically, just as focusing on what you don't want did before.
So there is a period where you very tediously have to pay attention to your focus, and keep reining it in, over and over. Be willing to go through this period.
If focusing on what you don't want is so destructive, why would someone do it? You do it because you have experienced some sort of negative emotional experience, probably more than one, and you have concluded that there is danger in the
world, and you have to watch out for it. To watch out for it, you have to focus on it. Unfortunately, when you do that, you create more of it, which causes you to think you must not have focused on avoiding it well enough, so you focus
harder. You also probably pick out certain things in your environment to blame for whatever is happening, which violates step one, above.
There is an easier way to do this, though, and it involves two things you can do. Both involve creating more conscious awareness, so all that focusing doesn't have as much chance to just zoom by without you noticing it, sometimes being
about what you want and sometimes being about what you don't want. The first way is mediation, and you all know that I think you should mediate with Holosync, since Holosync not only greatly accelerates the meditations process, it's also
much easier, more precise, and more consistent. With Holosync, you can develop a very profound level of conscious awareness in a fraction of the time it takes using traditional meditation.
The second way is to investigate what you do inside that creates your internal states and external results. I've called what you do inside "focusing" and to make it easier, I've just described it as making pictures in your head and/or
thinking about something.
In actual fact, it's more complex that that. It involves your beliefs, your values, many ways that you filter the information that comes in through your senses, a large number of way you make what are called internal representations with
this filtered information, various ways you combine these internal representation to create states and behaviors, and a number of other things. Becoming familiar with the process you use, inside, to create the results you're getting gives
you big ah-ha's and makes it very difficult to continue to create things in a way that gives you results you do not want.
This is what my online course, The Internal Map of Reality Expander, does for you. It takes apart the way you create the results you're getting, and shows you how to make changes so you can create what you want.
So with this two-pronged approach, you can take yourself from unconsciously creating a lot of what you don't want to consciously creating exactly what you do want. It can be done, and if you participate in these two programs, I take you by
the hand and show you, step-by-step, exactly how to do it.
If being able to create what you want sounds good to you, I want to make sure you know what you're getting into. This is not like driving up to the drive-thru and getting your meal in three minutes. We live in a fast food culture, where we
expect everything to be easy and to happen fast. Developing your conscious awareness can happen quickly, but it usually doesn't. There is a price to pay, and you must be willing to pay it.
In my opinion this price is well worth paying, but whether you're willing to pay it or not is your decision, not mine. In my opinion, it would be worth paying if it was ten times the price, but I can say that because, having paid the
price, I know what the reward is, while you may be unclear about what it is, what paying the price really means, or you may not really believe the reward is possible. I find that in almost every case, the reason people are not willing to
pay the price is that they really don't believe they'll get the reward, so why bother?
So my job is to provide you with a method that will allow you to have the reward, which I've done, but it's also to keep motivating you, and urging you on, so you'll keep going and make it to the finish line. I hope I'm doing that.
So let me end by urging you to join The Holosync Solution program if you haven't done so yet, or to use it faithfully and keep progressing through the deeper levels of the program if you are already using the program. And, to participate
in The Internal Map of Reality Expander online course. Because I want everyone to have this information, I've made this course really inexpensive. If I was teaching it in person, it would probably be over $2,000 for just that first online
course (there are three), but because I'm doing it in an online manner, it's less than 10% of that.
You can listen to a free preview lesson, to get an idea of what it's like, by clicking here:
http://www.centerpointe.com/life/online/preview/
So pay attention to what you're focusing on, and focus your mind on what you want.
And keep going with your efforts to become a conscious, intentional creator of your reality. You can do it.
Be well.
Bill
PS: If you've found Mind Chatter to be helpful, please forward it to a friend (in particular, tell them about the free Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks seminar).
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