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Welcome to Mind Chatter #125, the November 1, 2003 Interim Report.
In these Interim Reports, I leave out the "extras" we add to the full
mid-month issue of Mind Chatter, and just share with you an article
I've written or my thoughts on a particular subject.
On November 16, you'll receive a full issue of Mind Chatter.
Cause...or Effect?
by Bill Harris
One benefit I receive from teaching The Life
Principles Integration Process courses (please
visit
http://www.centerpointe.com/life/online/preview to listen to a free preview lesson) are all the
questions I receive from those taking part in the
courses. When Centerpointe was smaller, I used to
be the entire support staff (and the marketing
department, the accounting department, the
clerical department, and everything else), and I
spoke to program participants all day long.
Now, with close to 140,000 people using Holosync,
there's no way I could do that--which is why I
have an incredible staff of people who help you
whenever you need something. Of course, I end up
reading a lot of correspondence from
participants, but I haven't really been "on the
firing line" of dealing with you directly for
some time. If I was, I wouldn't get much work
done!
But since I've been teaching The Life Principles
Integration Process lessons, in which I'm
allowing participants to email me directly with
their questions about the lessons, I'm now
interacting with a lot of people again, and I
like it. From your comments and questions, I get
a better idea of what you need and want, and what
you're having trouble understanding of what I
teach. This helps me improve the way I
communicate to you.
I keep trying to boil things down to more and
more basic concepts, so as to better communicate
the real essence of how to create the internal
and external life you want in your life, and why
you may not be doing so already. In the last Mind
Chatter, I wrote about focus, and just how
powerful your mind is in creating whatever you
focus it on--and, that most people are,
unfortunately, doing their focusing unconsciously
and unintentionally, and creating a lot that they
do not want.
Many people wrote to thank me, and to tell me
that the article really opened their eyes, which
if gratifying for me.
In this issue, I want to talk about another key
concept, that of cause and effect. As with focus,
the way you deal with cause and effect is a
crucial ingredient in whether or not you are able
to create the life you want.
Whenever anyone comes to me and tells us that
something unpleasant is happening in his or her
life, and wants me to help them with it, what
they are really telling me is that they are at
the effect of some cause, over which they have no
control. What they want from me is some magic
that will treat the symptoms, whether it is
anxiety, depression, fear, lack of prosperity,
bad relationships, or anything else. But one of
the first things I look at is whether this person
is AT CAUSE or AT EFFECT. Do they see themselves
as being the creator of what happens, or a victim
of circumstances?
When you see yourself as being at the effect of
some cause over which you have little or no
control, you feel helpless. In effect, you
actually become helpless, because whatever you
believe tends to manifest in reality. When you
see yourself as being at effect, you
automatically filter out all the possible ways
you could create something different, and all the
ways you have personal power. You do not see them
at all. They disappear from your awareness, as if
they did not exist at all.
Those who think they are at effect look outside
of themselves for some cause on which to blame
what is happening. When you do that, such a cause
will ALWAYS appear, even it it isn't really the
cause. The result is that you feel helpless, and
ARE helpless.
Those who believe they are AT CAUSE, of course,
do not contact me for help in the first place.
They realize that, even if they cannot see the
connection, whatever is being created in their
life comes from something in them, and if they
can find what it is, they can change it. Usually,
it involves what they have focused their
attention on.
So my first step in helping someone is to
convince them that whatever is happening is not
coming from outside of them, and that they do
have creative control--even though it may not
look as if that is the case.
This is not an easy task. I sometimes have back
and forth email communication with people who
continue to insist that there is nothing they can
do, that they have tried everything I suggest,
and that they are hopeless. They become angry
with me that I can even suggest that they can be
in charge of their life.
People who think they are at effect use words
like "can't" a lot. Another favorite is "I
tried." When you say "I can't," your brain steps
right up and supplies you with lots of reasons
why you can't, and it also blocks the creative
part of your mind from figuring our how you can.
Thus, the fact that you can't comes true, further
reinforcing your belief that you really can't. My
suggestion to such people is that instead of
saying "I can't" they begin to ask "How can I?"
and keep asking until their brain supplies them
with the answer they want.
"I tried" is another favorite of people who think
they are effect. The entire presupposition behind
"I tried" is failure. No one who succeeds ever
says "I tried." They say "I did it." Trying
begins with the belief in failure. To try, you
must make pictures in your head of failing. My
suggestion is to make pictures in your head of
accomplishing whatever it is you want to
accomplish. When you do this, you give your brain
a signal to figure out how to do it. When you
"try," you give your brain a signal to figure out
a way to fail.
So even though you may think you have lots of
evidence that you are at the effect end of the
cause and effect spectrum, you are actually at
cause. Even if you find this hard to believe,
begin to act "as if" you really are at cause.
Assume that you are in control, and ask "How can
I?" until you get the answer.
So now you have to huge clues to success. The
first is to focus your mind on what you want, not
on what you don't want or are afraid of. The
second is to begin with the assumption that you
are at cause, that you can decide what to think,
what to picture inside, and what to focus your
mind on--and that when you do this, you brain
will figure out how to make whatever you focus on
happen.
Having spent a great deal of my early life
thinking I was at effect, at least in certain
areas of my life, and then seeing the profound
change that happened once I realized that I was
at cause, and just needed to take the reins of my
life and act as if I really was at cause, I want
you to know that if you do these two things, you
will change your life in ways you never thought
possible.
Why would someone focus on what they don't want,
and see themselves as being at the effect of
causes over which they have no control? Fear.
They are afraid. And what causes fear? Trauma,
wounding, abuse. If you have suffered some kind
of trauma, you are likely to think that the world
is full of danger, and that you have to watch out
for it (which causes you to focus your mind on
what you don't want), and that you are a
potential victim of it (in other words, you are
at the effect end of the cause and effect
spectrum).
This is why Holosync is so powerful in changing
lives--it calms the part of us that is afraid,
that feels unsafe. Another way to say this is
that it raises your threshold for what you can
handle coming at you from the world. Holosync
clears your mind, and gets rid of the impulse to
focus on what you don't want. Then, it
strengthens your ability to focus on what you do
want, which allows you to more powerfully and
more quickly create it.
So there are two things you can do to take change
of your life. One is relatively passive, and that
is to faithfully use your Holosync soundtracks
everyday. The other is to begin to look at the
basic assumptions you've made about yourself and
where you fit in the world, and to be willing,
despite what may appear to be true for you, to
adopt the assumptions of those who are already
creating what they want.
Two of these basics are 1) focus on what you
want, and 2) realize that you DO have creative
control over what happens to you. And, if you
take the online version of the Life Principles
Integration Process (click on the link at the
beginning of this article to listen to a free
preview lesson), I will go into this subject with
you in much more detail, and make sure you "get
it."
Once you know a few key things, life becomes much
easier and much smoother. You can do this, I
promise!
Be well.
Bill
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Bill Harris, Director
Centerpointe Research Institute
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