FROM BILL: I’m not trying to get you or anyone else to be a Buddhist. And, actually, I don’t think that anything I’m saying is contrary to Christianity (maybe to fundamentalist Christianity, which is into getting you to believe in a certain dogma, rather than finding out who you really are, for yourself, through your own spiritual practice).

I cite things from Eastern philosophy because I find their description of the human condition and their remedy to be very effective, compelling, and easy to understand. And, they are offering it as a way to get you to have an awakening experience for yourself, so that it is something you ARE, rather than some information passed on to you from another.

Jesus, in my opinion, was a person who had a profound spiritual awakening. He is actually describing the same experience I am talking about and that Zen masters and the like talk about. The one failing of Christianity, in my opinion, is that they have made Jesus “the great exception” to the human condition, rather than the great example.

St. Paul said it (Philippeans 2:5) better than I can: “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.”

This is what I am advocating: let that same mind be in YOU. Jesus was not an exception. He was an example. Wake up to your true nature, your identiy with God, your oneness with all and everything. Instead of believing what some spiritual leader says, do the spiritual work that will allow you to “let this mind be in you.” Then you will know, not from some expert or priest of pastor or Pope, but from your own experience, who you really are. That is, ultimately, what Holosync is for–waking up–even though it has many other positive benefits.

For a more complete description of this approach to Christianity, check out Integral Institute and their presentation, The Future of Christianity. Also check out Father Thomas Keating.

FROM BILL: Yep. The more aware you are, the more choice you have.

Half a year or a year later: next person comes along and the cycle starts over.

Question is: how do I watch how I draw the people to me who are not good for me, who it won’t work out with?

I do understand the other parts: watching how I interpret them as not being the right person even if they are – and watching how I behave in ways that turns them off – making my belief about relationships come true or seem to be true.

Since the attraction to a person is unconscious I guess you would say make it conscious and it will sort itself out. But I can’t CHOOSE who to become attracted to can I? Love and attraction is spontaneous as you once also said. If we could decide who to fall in love with, life would be much easier.

Hope you get my question because I have been struggling with it for years without understanding it.

I want to break the pattern. How? Yes I watch my internal representations, I watch how I fear meeting the wrong person again (what I tell myself, the mental movie I make). I watch my bad feelings knowing I must have focused on what I do not want and change focus to what I DO want (the latter part being harder for me than the watching part). I also watch how I get carried away, how I start to attach myself too soon, how I pin my hopes on a person and start expecting things to work out (even though they never do – dunno where that confidence comes from, makes no sense).

And btw I am taking your online courses and Holosyncing although I have been off both for a long time now, time to get back to it.

Thanks again a million. I will get into specialized therapy since you think it would help someone like me. But yeah, I can’t see how it would help break the unconscious pattern. Also I can’t see how I could let someone in, or be open with someone new, if I already know that I will get hurt. Can it not become a self-fullfilling prophecy?

FROM BILL: I describe exactly how to break such a pattern (and how I did it with the exact same pattern) in lesson 2 or 3 of my first online course, The Internal Map of Reality Expander.

You do have a choice about who you become attracted to, but only if what you do to create being attracted happens with awareness. As long as it happens outside your awareness it will just keep operating in the same way, allowing you to prove that what you believe about yourself and about relationships is true. Watch yourself prove that you are “right” about it and you will lose enthusiasm for the whole thing and won’t be able to do it anymore. What you do with awareness (seeing how you do it, inside, and also seeing the direct connect between what you do and the results you create, as you do it) falls away if it doesn’t serve you–another way of saying that you have choice about what you are aware of, while what you do outside your awareness operates automatically.

Get back to the online courses, start from the beginning again, and this time, concentrate on watching each aspect of your Internal Map of Reality so you can see HOW you create your life.

FROM BILL: I’m sorry, Debra, but I just don’t have the time to contact every person who wants my time. I hope you understand.

-MP

FROM BILL: In other words, you have a certain feeling that you are interpreting as “a presence.” So, how do you create this feeling? What internal representations do you make?

There are no “presences” out there to possibly “enter” you. You are creating whatever internal states you experience. As long as they are being created outside your awareness, it will seem as if they are “just happening,” as is the case with this feeling. See how you “do” this feeling, and it becomes a choice.

I feel that being greatful for what we have and having a positive mental attitude and the like are sort of common sense, however it also seems that very few people actually practice this common sense way of living. I believe that you are an inspiration in this Respect Bill, because of all you do to focus us on what we want and help us maintain when it seems that we are often unconscious and can’t think for ourselves. I’ve also found that, although this is a bit of a drag at first, talking about these things while actually feeling this vibration is a great way of expanding our vision of what’s possible this holiday. For instance I might talk about being gracious to my mother with very little results, however when I truly feel greatful for the food she’s made and talk to her about how we might be more greatful she’s much more receptive and I also feel good because something’s actually happening; I’m not just preaching something I heard somewhere about how all of us should be in a vibration of gratitude (not just me his holiness) and Mom’s in a better mood because I’m speaking from the heart.

At any rate, just a thought.

What a lot of words! As the daughter of a Professor of English Linguistics and a Senior (UK – Secondary) School teacher of English I find language seductive. Sometimes however I wander too far into the realm of the intellect and become bogged down in over-analysis, forgetting my emotional connection to here and now. My mind loves to play games!!

I’ve found greater clarity through being open to the teachings of Zen Bhuddism and the controversial ‘Osho’ although I do not follow in anyones ‘footsteps’; mimicking what they appear to do, or attempt to describe. Somehow I have been fortunate enough to find a path to suit me; although I have experienced loneliness, fear and uncertainty about this apparently solitary journey I find comfort in the certain knowledge that everything is one (’one for all and all for one’ – the FOUR Musketeers!)

When I spent time in Australia I studied the Aboriginal Dreamtime and ‘re’discovered the knowledge that each rock on the earth is working exactly where it needs to be and how it needs to, for this to be true for everything else. This ‘truth’ can also be found in Zen among other places hence my use of ‘re’.

Everything is simpler than my mind thinks it is.

Although I didn’t make it to the recent events you mention I intend to purchased the Awakening Prologue and perhaps join you on ‘the high road to a new freedom’.

Best Regards

FROM BILL: Clearly see how not forgiving them causes pain for you. Speak from the voice of anger, or revenge.

PS: you should do a post called “Seeing Things the way They Really Are Part two: the whole universe depends on me”.

FROM BILL: You should call the Centerpointe support coaches. That’s why access to them is part of the course.